AITA - Trying to know my place between this situation and
34M, married with two children. My marriage has been falling apart since my 5-year-old daughter was born. Things weren't easy before, jealousy, verbal abuse... and then they got worse. My sex drive is low and my wife complains about it, saying I find things outside the home that I don't get at home.
I met a woman at work, 42 years old, married with 2 children. She is charming, super extroverted and magnetic. I started talking to her through messages on the Slack group we have at work. The conversation flowed and I told her what I thought of her after I offered her a butterfly origami that she says made her smile and be sure it was me.
After I told her how I felt, she asked me if everything was alright in my life. And I realized she knew my relationship wasn't going well. I started telling her what was happening and she encouraged me to try to fix things, but I told her I couldn't take it anymore. I'm just waiting for my daughter to grow up so she won't miss me so much. She told me that what I was doing was painful for me and that she couldn't imagine it because she also has a daughter the same age.
She told me I say things that are quite profound and thanked me for boosting her ego. I told her that my mind is complex and she said no.
I told her I didn't want to cross any boundaries and she told me it wouldn't be necessary. She talked to me about her husband and their 24-year relationship and told me that there are good days and bad days. On Friday she told me to have a good weekend and be very happy. I can't stop thinking about her. I don't want to ruin two relationships.