Help (Mature wlw couples only)
So my gf and I are currently living with her family. We’re in the Midwest.
Long story short .. I don’t have family to rely on. My gf thought she did but when I came around .. she realized how toxic her family actually is. They’re not genuine. Her mom is very transactional, not genuinely loving and supportive. Mf gf is the eldest daughter, with 2 younger siblings(that should say enough). Anyway .. her mom pretended to be nice to me at first, but her true colors came out .
I say all this to say .. HELP. I’m trying to figure out what to do and where to go. Her mom said we have until AUGUST to move out basically. The only reason her mom even lets me stay here is because of her daughter.
To make things messier.. the mom herself is tryna get out her marriage (she’s just now realizing after 10 years her husband has been using her for citizenship).
We’re both black. She’s black and Puerto Rican technically. I’m 30 (fem). She’s 33(masc). We’re both kind and considerate, unless pushed otherwise. Two women tryna break family generational curses. I’m finishing up school for something that I can take with me to any state or country (food/drink industry) . She’s in the works of a possible trade. But there’s no way in THIS economy I feel we can do this on our own, with NO FAMILY SUPPORT ON BOTH ENDS!!!
I tried working at a warehouse but even at $20 an hour.. that’s still not enough right now! But then I got fired after being out for a work comp injury. Which is why I’m in school now.
Idk what else to do. I’ve been homeless before and I’m trying everything NOT to go back to that. So has my gf.
I’m trying to see if there’s a wlw couple who is looking to rent a room or decent basement to another wlw couple? Even if it meant leaving the state or country (we’re close to Chicago). I’d only say where SPECIFICALLY via dm after getting a serious inquiry.
Everything is getting worse. 3 months is not enough time to save for a place , esp in this economy.
I’d be fine with leaving the country but I’m so scared. I’ve lived in several states b4 (her and I both have). But leaving the country is a whole other ball game. I’ve visited Canada and been to Puerto Rico b4. But never left the country farther than that. But if we found a couple who was RENTING a room (for a reasonable price) and could help us navigate another country .. or at this point another state would be fine too.. then maybe we’d have a chance somehow? ESP if the area was more lgbtq friendly than where we are now .
Maybe this is stupid to come on here. But idk what else to do. The only thing that I can think of to help people survive is to come together. And I’m so tired of having roommates because most times people have tried to take advantage. But I’m already getting fcked by the gov. So might as well take a risk.. again.
Open to advice. SOUND AND NON RUDE ADVICE. But we have 3 months to figure out wtf to do. And I honestly wanna leave the country so badly because things are getting worse. But again.. I’d settle for another state temporarily.
Anyone know if I can survive in the service industry (outside the country ?) .
What are the best lgbtq countries ??? Like please ! I need actual REAL ADVICE !! No smart ass bs comments will be tolerated ! I’m reaching my breaking point. I’ve struggled with depression over the years as is. I don’t wanna keep struggling .
If you’re lgbtq and are in a relationship and have advice on how to get out the US as fast as possible (within 3 months).. PLEASE ADVISE !!!
(We don’t speak any other languages besides English. We also still have to get passports. Mine expired.)