am i insane? (28F) (25F)
i (28F) have been with my partner (25F) for about 5 years now. i have shouldered financial responsibility the entire time we’ve been together because she’s been in school pursuing her degree. she graduated this spring and has been having trouble finding a job in her field due to the market being competitive, not a lot of jobs bc of the economy, etc. - a position that a lot of people are in right now, understandably. so she’s been applying to other positions outside of her field so that she can work for a year to save money before going back for her masters. i’ve been trying to be supportive and encouraging in her job hunt, affirming that she’s done the work and that it’s really hard not to immediately see the payoff of that work.
i’m having a lot of trouble, though, because every alternate job opportunity, even ones that are well paid (salaried, benefits etc) is met with her having a genuine emotional breakdown because she feels like she’s failed. she says she will be miserable at any of these jobs because they aren’t what she’s passionate about/what she’s been working so hard for the past 5 years. i’m trying to balance her feelings with the reality that i’m exhausted from carrying the financial burden on my own. i don’t want to push her in a direction she doesn’t want to go but no matter how many times i tell her this is temporary, she says it “doesn’t feel temporary.”
am i being insensitive for trying to push her to take a temporary job when she has such deep dread about it? how do i approach this without coming off like a dick? i don’t want her to give up on her dreams but i also don’t really understand how taking a temporary job equates to that. looking for some outside perspective/advice