I am really sick of the process, need some help and guidance
I'm 28F punjabi and turning 29 soon. I'm 5'6", fair and slightly chubby ( curvy hourglass type) not fat - mentioning this because people do judge on the basis of these things. And, I've been told that I look above average to good but I don't really know. There's an immense pressure on me to get married and I just can't find anyone. Whenever I say no to a bad match, I need to justify for hours to my parents and it's so frustrating as if they are trying to get rid of me. I earn around 12 LPA in a tier 1 IT firm, my father retired from one of the leading Indian automobile companies and my mother retired from the central government. We live in a tier 1 city in an above average neighbourhood. My parents are independent and they don't need me to sustain them financially. It's been more than 2 years that we are searching for a match for me and the process has been nothing but exhausting. My basic preference - at least 5'9", B.Tech from a decent college and MBA from a decent college would be a plus and he should be earning anything more than 15LPA( if our family's financial background is similar) otherwise if his parents are dependent on him completely then he should be atleast from tier 2 MBA college.
We've come across a lot of parents who literally have no financial and educational standing acting like snobs because their son is earning decent (not exorbitantly higher than me). It feels so heartbreaking to see my parents go through that in order to find me a partner. I feel as if I failed as a daughter to see my parents taking no from these people with whom they wouldn't even have interacted otherwise. Recently, I've been told by my mother that I come across very bold and confident which is a major turn off for families and I was told to hide that I regularly go to the gym. These are literally the things I'm proud of! I really don't know how to go about this and I hope this ends soon.
Cheers!