Recently got free from my mom but it’s hitting me more than I wished
I’m struggling. I moved several states away from my adoptive mother. I left Friday. I did not say goodbye because she was at work when I stopped by her house to say farewell to my father and grandma (both who have dementia) and aunt. I also then went and drove to see my bio brother and bio mother who I only met about 6 years ago to say bye to them.
My mother who raised me will not answer my phone calls and my messages were showing as read and now the iMessages are simply going through as sms but when I call, the phone still rings. I knew that she did not like that I was leaving but it was the best opportunity for me.
My mom was upset when I first mentioned that I was working on getting a job out of state, she was mad that I was leaving because I had made a promise a year ago that after May 2026, I’d start helping her with her bills. My father lost his job and is on his social security and she was in her words hoping that I would be able to cover my father’s portion and did not even understand how unreasonable it was to request 1500 for her mortgage a month when I had other bills and didn’t make enough. Not to mention, I wasn’t allowed to change any of the decorations, have anyone over, and she always expected me to be available to help her with tasks like helping her do a return, or filling out important documents for her. She even got mad at me when I put my foot down when I told her I was not going to do her recertification for cosmetology.
I guess I’m just bummed that she talked so much about me being her daughter and missing our phone calls, talking about how ever since I got in a relationship I pay her less attention, and knowing this, she ignores me. It is not a real shock as it is a hurt. She doesn’t even visit my sisters who live 9 or so minutes from her.
It’s hard being away from my family and even harder that she won’t talk to me
I have not tried to reach out to her in a few days now as it just hurts that she ignores me now.