u/Glittering-Kiwi-8340

Here’s the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/NannyBreakRoom/s/w5NHvObbbp

Hey guys! Didn’t think I’d be updating so soon, but I just had a conversation with my MB like an hour before I started writing this. I mentioned in my other post that we have a really good working relationship. Even though I think not giving me GH is crappy, everything else is fine. She basically lets me handle the kids how I want, and after this week (NK4 had a few bad days) I really appreciate how she doesn’t interfere with my discipline or plans with the kids. If it wasn’t for the lack of benefits, it would be a great job. After reading the comments of my last post, apparently many boss’s just think very similarly. Like us Nannies are kind of just disposable and aren’t real workers.

Anyway, we had some downtime today and just got to talking. She then asked me if I’ll do a different position for her when she comes back. I asked her what she meant. She said that she wants me to be more of a house manager/mother’s helper. She said that this could benefit us both, especially when I get another job since I told her I was going to. The position would be very part-time and only 2-3 days a week for a few hours. I’ll just be helping her with stuff around the house while the kids are in daycare, or if they get sick and can’t go, I can help with them while she works. She said we can work around the schedule for whatever job I end up getting if that works for me. I agreed to the offer and told her that I’ll keep her updated throughout the summer. She then gave me a present which I absolutely adore.

I still haven’t told her that I already have a job, but she does know that I’m spending the beginning of the summer just hanging out and focusing on school. I think I’ll tell her a week before I start since I don’t know my schedule and should know by then. I know some of you will be disappointed in me for not shutting her down and refusing to come back, but we get along great and this way I’ll have a full-time job with benefits and still be able to make some side income while seeing the kiddos grow! IDK, let me know what you guys think. I think this is a good option to move forward with.

I posted on here about 2 months ago venting about wanting to leave nannying after my current job ends. Well, I have 2 weeks left to go and I start my new job mid summer. I’m excited about this new chapter and while I didn’t want to continue working with kids, I feel like this job (private pre-school teacher), will lead me in the right direction.

With that being said. My MB doesn’t know. Our contract is supposed to end after these next 2 weeks, and we were going to revisit it sometime in the summer since they were gonna be gone all summer until the new school year started. I did tell MB that if I didn’t receive GH while they were gone, then I would find a new job. MB denied me GH, and now I’ve found a new job 🤷🏾‍♀️. The thing is now my MB is making plans for when they come back and while I haven’t actually said anything regarding those plans, I haven’t told her that I found a new job either. I keep telling her that the kids need to be prepared for full time daycare, and how to do things without me around. She’s not getting it.

My MB and I have a great working relationship and I don’t think she’s doing this out of spite. I genuinely think she just doesn’t understand how much she needs help (AKA: me or any other nanny). Every time I get time off, or she says I can take x amount of days because she’s doing something, she ends up texting me and asking for help. Don’t get me wrong, she’s a very capable mother, but she’s a single mom and she obviously needs help. A great example of this was my NK 4 recent birthday. She offered me the day off and I refused. I knew she would need my help that day and she really couldn’t see it for herself. We went out and by the end of the day, the kids were a mess. Very cranky and tired. She thanked me for being there like 10 times. Now imagine if I had said “yeah no worries I’ll take the day off” and put my phone on DND.

Lately I’ve been telling her no whenever she asks me to work during a scheduled day off or weekend. I’ve felt bad, but I’ve been needing to do some things for myself and the new job. Honestly none of this would be happening had she just given me the GH. I don’t know anyone else who goes a whole summer without working. It’s impossible in this economy. And what’s worse is I know she’ll be calling me this summer asking me to drive up to north Cali when the kids either get sick or she’s overwhelmed. It’s happened before. Anyway, I haven’t told her about the job and I’m not going to. The first time she calls me this summer asking me to come up, I’ll tell her. We have a good relationship and I don’t need things getting awkward. At least my weekend nanny family is happy for me. They know all about the situation and the new job.