Nsfw, seeking advice. A friend (?) keeps trying to guess my 'actual' sex and making comments regarding my body/sex life.
I probably should just go low/no contact with this friend, but i would love some advice from others.
Our friend group is very much an open communication type group, all of us are queer and we all sometimes share stories or experiences/anecdotes regarding our sex lives.
I usually don't do that as much as other friends, but I've never minded it and don't see it as a negative thing, i think it's fine and good to talk about whatever everyone's comfortable talking about in a group.
We all also make jokes about being attracted to each other, it's almost always light-hearted fun.
This friend in particular, however, since finding out I'm intersex, has been consistently making 'jokes' or statements or random remarks that relate directly to what they assume my genitals look like. I don't think this was malicious, they're just kinda horrible with social cues, which i get, and they mostly stopped after being asked to, but they still do a different, more annoying thing, where they just try to "guess" or figure out what my "real sex" is. They don't say it like that, but i know what they're doing. They'll ask subtle things or comment on parts of my body and try to assume stuff about them.
I actively do not answer these questions and have explained to them literally my entire situation in the past, as I'm very open about it, but i do NOT want to go into detail about the igm & forced hrt i went through or my genitals, for *obvious* reasons.
Honestly by now I'm okay with just cutting ties with them, and they're moving abroad in a few months, which I'll probably do then, to avoid awkwardness as we go to the same uni and are in a lot of the same trans org groups, but I'm mostly just wondering how to navigate conversations around them until that? What would you do beyond telling them their questions are out of line? I've been considering just constantly giving them random answers and changing them up each time at this point.