u/Glittering-Plum118

My daughter has had symptoms of ADHD for a few years. Initially I thought it was my hormones and I was being hard on her about her behavior due to having a new sibling. In 3rd grade I shared with my husband my concerns and he was like she is doing what children her age do. During this same year one of her teachers mentioned she uses a wobble cushion in her class because of her fidgeting and difficulty staying still. I followed up with the school psychologist because she saw her weekly in girls group. The psychologist stated she is a very sweet girl but she is impulsive, talkative and seems to have a hard time staying focused. AGAIN, shared this with my husband, he disagreed and I began researching. Sorry this is so long! Her 4th grade year, I ordered her own wobble cushion for class and basically tried every thing to support her. Basically 4th grade was horrible, several messages and calls from her teacher about her talking, impulsive behavior, being loud, etc. We had several meetings at the school and 1 parent said she was bullying her kid and was trying to get my daughter suspended. Thankfully the school disagreed and felt it was normal girl drama. I get the ADHD forms from pediatrician, teacher completes them, husband refused and I completed them behind his back and pediatrician agreed with DX. She is in 5th grade and we still have a few issues but this teacher is more supportive. I have tried again to discuss this with my husband and inquired how he feels about medication. “Nothing is wrong with her, she is fine, why you keep bringing this up”!
I exploded, I could no longer try to have a calm conversation. How did you talk to your spouse? At what point do you walk away and just focus on your child? If you read all of this, thank you! Xoxo