Avoidant was chased back got back together and still the new relationship ended.
My first relationship was with an avoidant. At that time I didn't even know what attachment styles were. Looking back the red flags were there but I was just too attached to consider them. Our first break- up was 2 months before our 2 year anniversary. We were doing an internship together so seeing him every day after the breakup was excruciating. I ended up begging him multiple times to reconsider the relationship. At that time I thought I was the one who caused the end of the relationship. He said no multiple times. After about 5 months he wished me for my birthday and we started talking and I asked him out again... The 'new' relationship felt different he said he learnt about attachment styles and was trying to be better. I thought maybe he realised my value in the time we were apart. But I could never really forgive him for how he treated me in the break-up. And in the second relationship when I asked him for his help one time he said he was busy. I started feeling like I have to be there for his problems without thinking about my wellbeing but the same doesn't apply to him. He broke up again when I told him he needed to make it up to me. And it's been about 4 months. The person he is during the break-up is totally different from the person I was in a relationship with. Which person was real?
Now watching videos to avoid avoidants in the future.