u/GlitteringExample422

Introduced to self-pleasure at 12, I got addicted for the next 5–6 years. Throughout my entire school life, I only had 2–3 real friends. I also grew up in a toxic household where my father would physically abuse my mother, and hearing her cry all night slowly shaped me into someone who lacked confidence and avoided conflict. Trying to escape my own problems pushed me deeper into a “coomer” lifestyle.

Now that I’ve stopped indulging in it, I’ve started noticing something strange. Whenever I talk to people, I get shaky. My mind goes blank. I struggle to form sentences, explain my thoughts clearly, or keep conversations flowing naturally. It’s not that people reject me, it’s more like I’ve forgotten how to genuinely connect and engage with another person.

So I need help.

If anyone knows practical ways to improve communication skills, I’d really appreciate it. I’m not trying to become some elite public speaker giving presentations to crowds. I just want to become a more coherent, confident version of myself. For example:

If you want to get physically stronger, you start doing push-ups consistently.
If you want mental strength, you meditate and learn emotional regulation.

So what’s the equivalent for communication? Should I:

Talk to myself daily for 20–25 minutes explaining deep topics?
Read books out loud every day?
Start writing daily like Peterson suggests it to improve clarity and coherence?

I genuinely want a structured strategy I can follow consistently for the next 6 months —something simple but effective, like push-ups for social skills , so that by the end of the year I can finally become verbally confident, emotionally grounded, and capable of building meaningful connections.

I’m tired of living through this lonely chapter of my life.🐢

Retained for 130 days. Yesterday I relapsed once, and today twice. Here’s what I personally notice afterward:

The first thing that came back was my allergies. During my retention phase, I had completely stopped taking my medications and felt fine the entire time. But after those relapses, my symptoms returned almost immediately, mild asthma flare-up, puffiness under the eyes, and a blocked nose.

Another thing was body scent. During retention, especially while sleeping, I could notice a strong natural scent coming from my body. After the relapses, it completely disappeared. Whether people call it pheromones or something else, the difference felt very real to me.

Then there’s magnetism. People reacted differently. One girl who usually seemed fascinated by me even asked, “What happened? You look different.” My behavior hadn’t changed, but the energy and presence clearly felt off to others.

Within 48 hours and after multiple sessions of 🌽, I felt noticeably drained, less presence, less attraction, less vitality, and old health issues creeping back.

My conclusion: indulgence without control leaves you feeling biologically depleted. If you’re going to orgasm, do it with intention and purpose rather than out of impulse.

And by intention I usually mean procreation

Coomer wants to improve his communication skills

Something Deeper Leaves You, When You J*** Off