Second (likely) miscarriage - cope
This has been quite the journey that we weren't expecting. In January, we found out that we were expecting our first. Made it to 6 weeks or so with a heartbeat, then lost the heartbeat. Wife had a d&c, and we started all over.
We tried again the next cycle, and she had what she thought was a period. She had been testing negative up until then, but for some reason decided to do another yesterday and ended up testing +. Went to the doc for bloodwork, and progesterone is well below the normal range, plus the doc now suspects PCOS. So we are thinking that the bleeding was actually a natural miscarriage.
My wife has been taking it really hard. I'm upset too, but trying to look at it from the perspective of at least she's been able to get pregnant and now we are hopefully on track to figure out what's going wrong. She is particularly upset by the fact that we had planned to start having kids when we were 30, and now we're going on 32 while just discovering these issues. I keep trying to reassure her that we will hopefully figure things out, and we can still go on to not be super old parents albeit maybe slightly older than we had hoped. But the plan never was to have kids before 30, so this just seems like a little wrinkle in the plan. We're not just figuring this out as we approach 40.
I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed, but I do believe things will work out eventually. Any words of encouragement that others who have been in a similar boat have? I have truly appreciated all the support of this community.