r/predaddit

I'm a new dad to a 6month old, and I'm looking for a reliable baby chair tht can last a while like, ideally, through the whole infant to toddler stage. Me and my wife are really hoping to avoid buying somethng that only gets used for a few months and then ends up collecting dust in the garage. When we first set up our nursery, my wife was so focused on getting everything just right, but quickly realized that some of the things we thought were essentials turned out to be barely used. We don’t want to repeat that mistake with the highchair. I want to avoid buying somethng that only lasts three months. We have looked at a few options like mockingbird, dinerpal, and abbie beyond, but still not really sure which one would be our best bet. So I want my fellow dads to help me pick one based on real experiences.

First-time expectant father and hoping you all can give me some advice. My wife is currently 5 weeks 4 days pregnant with our little peanut and she is experiencing ALL THE SYMPTOMS. Nausea (not actually throwing up but feeling nauseous, and she’s had some dry-heaving flare ups), cramps, dizziness, chills (anemia), mood swings & emotional sensitivity, headaches, low energy, muscle & breast aches, joint pains, bloating, heightened sense of smell - you name it, chances are she’s experiencing it.

I want to be the best support system that I can be for her, so I’m just wondering if there’s any tips / advice for things that I can do to make sure I’m providing her with the best care and support I can provide her? This is our first pregnancy so this whole experience is new for both of us, and I want to do all I can to make it as comfortable for her as possible despite the struggles she’s facing. So dads, how do I get her through the first trimester?

I had my first baby a few months ago, beautiful baby girl. I’m home on child bonding leave from work and I told some of my hometown friends that the door is always open if they want to come over and meet her. I’ve texted each friend individually if they wanted to come see her and I keep getting the runaround. These are my best friends growing up and they haven’t even tried to fit it in their busy schedules to come meet my first child. What should I do? Am I wrong for feeling this way or should I let it be?

Parents who've been through it — before baby arrived, how did you plan for what you'd actually need and what it would cost?

A few things I'm curious about:
- Did you use a registry, a spreadsheet, just guess, or something else?
- Looking back, what turned out to be a waste of money vs. something you were genuinely glad you bought?
- Was there a point you felt overwhelmed trying to figure out what's actually necessary vs. what's just marketed at new parents?
- If you used a registry app (Babylist, Amazon, etc.), what did it get wrong, or just not help with at all?

Genuinely curious how everyone handled this — feels like there's no great answer for "what will this actually cost me, and when do I need to buy it."

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Help, anong gagawin ko or mga options ko ngayon na nabuntis ko ang aking girlfriend? I just need some peace of mind dahil nang yari na at wala na akong magagawa pa. Hindi ko alam kong paano ko to haharapin. Gusto ko lang na malaman kung ano ang mga posible kung magagawa.

Since my wife started showing I want to make sure she knows she's still beautiful, what have you all done to make sure your partners know and feel beautiful?

My wife and I are unable to conceive without medical intervention. After thousands of dollars and several attempts she finally became pregnant in January of this year, only for us to discover at ~11 weeks that she had experienced a missed miscarriage due to chromosomal abnormality.

It's been about 5 months since then and I don't feel I have moved on at all. The only bright spot was the idea that we could try again. But due to the nature of the chromosomal abnormality, we had to wait for several months for her own safety. Then we had another failed attempt, and now we have encountered another roadblock that will prevent us from trying again for an unknown period of time. I just feel crushed 24/7. My wife has taken it better than I have honestly, which is deeply shameful to me given that she is the one who has actually had to endure everything. I feel like I have been a sniveling baby that she has had to console rather than being her rock. Like the process actually would have been easier for her to endure alone.

I don't see a future where this works out for us. I feel like a idiot for thinking it was possible, for trying to defy nature when it had already made its plans for us so clear. I don't know how to support my wife in future continued attempts when I am obviously too weak to deal with the inevitable failures. She gets so upset when I express gloom or hesitation because now that we have started fertility treatment she is all in.

I spoke to my father who went through a similar experience with my mother when I was young (minus the infertility), looking for some kind of advice, and he told me that my only job is to support my wife. I completely agree, but I don't feel able to provide that support for her and I am so angry with myself that I am failing at my only job. We had the budget on top of everything we are paying into fertility treatments for one of us to go to therapy for a while, so she did do that for a couple of months, but it's no replacement for having an actually supportive partner.

I honestly don't know what to do. I am so miserable and ashamed all the time. I think constantly about our daughter who was supposed to be born in ~2 months. I know that there are so many worse things that can happen to someone than a miscarriage (and the miscarriage didn't even happen to me, it happened to my wife) but fuck it hurts so badly.

I’m hosting a surprise baby shower for someone who is very close to me, and since it’s a surprise, I don’t have a registry to go off of.

I’d love to hear what baby shower gifts you’ve received (or wish you’d received) that were genuinely useful, thoughtful, or memorable, especially things beyond the usual baby clothes, blankets, toys, etc.

But my biggest question is: what can I get for the mom herself? So much of what you buy is for the baby, and I’d really love to give her something that makes her feel cared for and appreciated too. Something practical, comforting, sentimental, luxurious, anything you genuinely loved receiving as a new mom.

What did you appreciate the most?

What is that one thing which we think we know about a baby and parent that you went through and want others to know

FTM and looking to buy a stroller. We live in Washington, so more rain than sun. Was vista v3 a good purchase?

We already got a uppababy bassinet to make the baby sleep in it for first three month. So checking if vista v3 stroller is a good purchase? What are the pros and cons of the stroller?

Hey, I have started a blog for living life as a first time dad in his late twenties with an early stage heartfailure diagnosis.

The purpose of the blog is to help grieve my diagnosis and process my own thoughts by putting them down on 'paper'. If I can help one or two people along the way then this will be even more of a success to me.

If you know anyone with heartfailure this may help, or if you think it will help yourself then please take a look at this.

My first blog post covers the process of being diagnosed, how i felt upon recieving my diagnosis and how I now plan to accept these new changes. This may help someone similar understand what they may face if they are currently chasing a diagnosis.

Thank you :)

Hey dads,

As the title suggests, my wife is 40+3 and this is our first baby after a tragic 21 week termination our last time around. And well, the longer this pregnancy goes, the more my stress builds and my mind wanders. I know with every passing week, the probabilities of issue and stillbirth move up, and while I’m trying to keep myself chill, I feel like I’m causing my wife more stress asking how the baby feels,etc.

And before you say it…..I know that the chances of stillbirth are like 5 in 10,000…..but when you have to deal with a rare issue and a termination, those statistics sadly mean nothing to me anymore.

Any tips on how to manage / any of you dads been in a similar spot before?

Hey Wassup Fellas I’m a New Dad Just had my daughter on the 10th of this Month ! How can I have my daughter sleep for a few Hours without my wife and I Keep getting Up All through the Night ? We make sure She’s Full Swaddled Real Good Good air Quality comfy pack and play Bed.

Hello fellow dads, I thought this morning was just the usual.  We just transitioned to a new school this year (going from elementary to middle school) and I was feeling like things are moving along smoothly. Well today while driving my son (11) to school he suddenly noticed half-way through the trip that he forgot his student ID (which he normally carries around his neck in a lanyard). We quickly turned around and hoped his mom (who WFH) could maybe meet us half way there to give us the ID or he’ll be late for his morning class. 

While driving back home, I gave my son my cell phone so he can call his mom and text her. There were no answers or replies.  My son started to get frantic, he kept calling and pleading.  He left voicemails saying “help me mommy!” I knew in the back of my mind what’s happening. His voice started to crack, I could feel my heart sinking with every pleas. We finally drove all the way back home to pick up the damn ID and quickly made our way back to school. He ended up being 5 minutes late and got a “T” for tardy. 

My wife did this on purpose to “teach him a lesson” and she confirmed it when I confronted her. I am very torn, guys. Maybe thinking back through my own childhood I never liked this type of teaching. What does the lesson even mean?  That he can’t even depend on his own parents?  I can see this going into his core memory, and I am bitter about this.  Any coping mechanism fellow dads can share? How would you handle this?