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FTM and we are planning baby shower. I live in Washington and my medical team is here. We are planning for a baby shower in early July around 32 weeks, but not sure what to expect in terms of discomfort or preterm labor etc.

my birth family, friends are all in BC Canada and some extended family is planning to visit around this time, so a perfect time to have a baby shower in Canada. However worried in terms of health/ travel risk. No risk factor has been told by the doc so far, except for possible low lying placenta and the doc will monitor around 28 weeks if the placenta will move up.

Would it get uncomfortable to travel by 32 weeks that we have to cancel it or 32 weeks travel should be ok? Should I be expecting any preterm labor after 31 weeks? Is it just better to have a baby shower in Washington with a lesser crowd or am I overthinking this?

I recently took new citizenship, yet to apply for oci. Just saw the news that Indian rupee is depreciating against USA $$ and thinking if it's a good time to invest in real estate in India. Is it a good time to invest in real estate, in cities like chennai Bangalore?

What should we consider before investing in real estate in India as a naturalized citizen of another country?

Genuine question, please don't attack me. Most western countries grant divorce in one year and it's perfectly fine for people to date someone after separating from their spouse (separation means living apart for 3 months, even under the same roof is ok).

Whereas I am seeing so much stigma around divorce and people moving on after separation in Tamil Nadu with every celebrity divorce.

I agree cheating when married is not ok, but why is people moving on after separation is frowned upon?

People generally mentally check out of the marriage months before they decide to separate. Indian court system is brutal and takes 2-3 years to grant divorce, that's why they legalized live-in relationships till divorce is granted. Even websites like Tamil matrimony allow people to register for second marriage while their divorce proceedings are under court and while people are waiting for it.

Why is society expecting a couple who already left the marriage thinking it's not worth the effort to stay single, not date anyone and suffer more for the next 2-3 years? How is this anyone else business other than the two people involved?

We are 1.25 M short of our FIRE goal. We are aiming to be in the country for the next three years, however recently learnt that maternity leave is only 4-5 months in the USA.

I am leaning towards taking a career break after maternity leave and joining a new company after the baby turns 1 yr or 14 months old. My husband wants to work till 2028, after which he wants to try his startup ideas. So that his insurance covers all of us when I am on a career break. I am a SDE senior level.

What should I know/consider from a financial and career perspective before deciding to quit the job?

I am massively phone addicted and depressed and I am 23 weeks pregnant, and I couldn't get myself to eat anything healthy or cook anything. Today I had decaf coffee and a small cake for breakfast, had some nuts and apple in the night at 3am because I skipped dinner and I got hungry. I have been ordering food once a day, and scrap something for breakfast, and that means I might skip a meal a day.

For people who had to make all their meal, how did you manage this, and what would you advice for someone who is depressed and doesn't have any interest in cooking.

It's honestly confusing as a common man to see why the CM can never face the press. Is it 2.0 of modi and shaw? Today, I saw Aadhav Arjuna doing a good job of spontaneously answering press questions, why is CM hesitant to do that?

I have 4 more months to go, and am sticking to work for insurance coverage and maternity leave. The work stress and anxiety sometimes gets way too much on certain days due to vague requirements, layoff fears, delivery pushed faster etc. manager is indifferent to the situation and gives some high priority non-mcp/agent usable legacy tasks and expects me to complete. This could also take more time to complete than their estimated timeline.

how did you handle work when you have unsupportive management and medium stress job, just do your work and yolo on any expectations if it gets stressful or are there accommodations to reduce workloads?

We are immigrants on work visa and would want to visit Canada around 31 weeks for a baby shower. Thinking of taking care of the drive for 3 hrs, few questions

• is travelling in 31 weeks safe, I was shocked to hear that my friend's water broke at 33 weeks. Is it common to expect labor anytime after 30 weeks?
• we work here, and have our house and medical team here. Would re entering the country be an issue with 31 weeks pregnant?

Has anyone had a similar travel experience on travel for 31 weeks and no issues?