How do I (23F) convince my boyfriend (22M) that he’s actually REALLY good at sex?
My boyfriend is actually REALLY good at sex. He does everything I love - he never skips foreplay, LOVES giving me head, he’s really good at talking dirty, he’s amazing at building up the tension and sensations, he lasts at least half an hour every time (AND THAT’S REAL SHORT FOR HIM), he is PACKING, and he makes me feel so loved and desired each and every time. I try really hard to get up to par with him and he never fails to OUT-DO me. He is UNMATCHED. I don’t mean to compete with him lol, but I really want to emphasize that he’s genuinely rocked my world EVERY SINGLE TIME. But, every time we’re all done and cuddling with each other, he asks me if it was good - I always nod and excitedly say “yes!!!” and he just looks down and says “really?”. I try so hard to explain how good he is, I normally say things like “can’t you tell how amazing that was for me?” Or “how are you a real life human being??? I feel like you’re using superhuman abilities on me” but he doesn’t believe that he’s any good!!
I think I huge reason he doesn’t feel like he’s good is that I almost never come during sex. This has always been a really hard thing for me to do, I’ve been masturbating since a very young age and I am only used to coming with clitoral stimulation that only I can do with my hands. It’s very hard for him to replicate that, especially since his hands are so much bigger than mine, and I only ever come when he gives me head. But even then, I have to try really hard to do it, and sometimes I’d really rather just lay back and enjoy the feeling, it’s still amazing even if I don’t end up coming. All this to say, I almost prefer NOT coming and just letting him do his magic to me. But, I think he has the belief that if he can’t make me come, he’s not doing good. Yes, I’ve explained all of this to him but I think he still holds that belief.
I try to give him praise and recognition during sex, and in the moment it seems like it boosts his confidence a lot, but at the end we always have the same conversation, with me trying and failing to convince him that it was amazing. How can I get it through his head that he is doing an amazing job?