I am a 28M and have been dating my girlfriend (27F) for more than 5 years. We haven't had sex in more than a year - I remember this because NYE was a hard one realising that it had been almost a year. Have been meaning to create a post about this for advice and have finally committed, so if anyone has any input or similar experiences please chime in. I'll try to keep it brief.
So we have been dating for 5 years and never had any issues like this in the past. Only recently (last year and beyond) have there been issues with intimacy and affection. We live an hour away from each other and with our parents still (saving in this economy) so I understand it's a bit hard to get intimate at times, but we never really struggled with finding time in the past. I have had a talk with her about this a couple of times and she's mentioned she'll work on it and it may be because of anxiety/depression or just not feeling it. This talk was maybe Feb this year. Probably fair to note that we have done oral on each other maybe 2 or 3 times within this period as well.
We are currently saving and the stress on both of us to move out soon may be affecting it too. I completely understand and am being quite patient about this all but it's really getting to me and I've had thoughts of moving on as the last thing I want in life is a sexless marriage or further issues like this for the rest of my life. Very last thing I want is a divorce in life.
I love her and absolutely adore her family and have a really hard time even thinking about ending the relationship with her. I've become really close with her parents and we've lost almost all of our grandparents while being together - which has brought our families closer together. My parents love her and have stated many times that I'd be stupid to not marry her. I agree but at the same time... they aren't involved in our personal life and wouldn't even know about the little struggles we have like this.
Being 28 it kind of scares me becoming single and doing this all over again. I do still love her and can definitely see a future with her. If it were only a simple to fix this issue.
I'd love to hear from anyone that has had a similar experience or has any sort of advice to offer!