u/Glittering_Part_9175

I was planning to go to Nashville this summer with my best friend from college and our other friends. My best friend from college tends to be the one who does the majority of decision-making and planning for trips. I was really excited to go to Nashville, but then my best friend called me and said she and my other friends are going to Europe instead of Nashville this summer. I was not sure if I could afford this trip, because I am finishing my master’s degree still, but the rest of my friends are doing well financially at their full-time jobs and are able to do so. I would never want my lack of finances to hold my friends back from doing fun things, so this did not bother me. But, my best friend also didn’t even invite me. I asked her if I was invited to the Europe trip, and she told me that she didn’t want to have to deal with accommodating my disability on the trip. I am on the autism-spectrum, but I am very high-functioning and I live completely alone. My friend said that she didn’t want to have to deal with finding places I could eat at since I have ARFID (sensory issues with eating various foods due to my autism). I feel like this was ableist and just messed up in general. Especially because all of my friends from college live in different states now, so our annual trips together are the only times we get to see each other. We all had talked about doing a friend trip to Europe for years, and now I’m just not invited because I have autism? Also, like I can accommodate and take care of myself. I really don’t think that my food limitations should prevent me from going on incredible trips in general. What makes me the most upset is the fact that there wasn’t even a discussion about making it work at all. This girl claims to be my best friend…