I’ve written and deleted on this topic quite a few times. I just don’t want anyone to misconstrue what my issue is. My issue is not my child’s skin tone. People on these platforms love to read between imaginary lines that weren’t even written and use context clues that aren’t even there to come up with wrong answers.
I knew, and was very ok with the possibility, that any one of or all my children could be deeper complected because my husband is and about 95% of my family is. My issue is the possible colorism I’ve witnessed when it comes to deeper complected loved ones and the assumption of my child’s physical characteristics.
Don’t get me wrong, of course I wondered what my children would look like and what qualities they’d inherit from myself or dad but it’s different when you have others saying she’s going to be light skinned like me but have her dads hair (he has a looser texture than I do) and it’s just like hmm what made you choose that combo for my child?
We’ve gotten so many “oh she’s chocolate” statements since we’ve started coming out the house and I don’t understand the surprise- her dad is chocolate. Also weird because my son is darker than me (but lighter than dad) but his skin tone has never been discussed.
It’s like now the anti black piece being held onto is her hair. She still has placenta perm. I’m assuming her hair may be like her brother’s. His hair started out straight then curled up and is more so my texture. I keep hearing “oh she’s gonna have curly hair”. I have curly hair lol but I guess it ain’t the right curl.
I just know as a light skin woman I don’t experience colorism and I want to be able to protect my babies confidence as she grows. I’m already (and very much been) sick of the hair texture and skin talk. End rant.