r/blackgirls

I had posted my opinion about a movie and someone responded to me by saying, “you must be white man right? Can I cannot picture anyone else having this stupid a take.”

Well damn…

She gagged me with that one

Never before have I been called a white man. It kinda hurt😂

(Just to be clear I am not a white man. I am a Black woman)

Curious to hear what you like. What’s y’all thoughts on men with body hair, chest hair, happy trails, just hairy men in general? Is it a turn off or turn on? How much is too much body hair?

Hi, this is first post here and on reddit. Every since Trump got in office (working in retail while finishing school) its racism or prejudice flying off the wall. I know everybody hate us but even the demographic of people( POCs) you expect to treat you okay are acting the same way our yt counterparts act but hate all races except yt. My point is knowing that every other race when you greet them they're looking you up and down, laughing or pretending you're looking else where with slick remarks. I understand your racist even tho you're under scrutiny in yt america too. However, here's my problem why are the sistas doing it? Before anything else being said I'm pro black through and through. I'm not understanding why is another sista ignoring or sizing me up when I greet them or help them with something. Pretending the can't hear or see me. Its ignorant people in every race group but I think its effed up to do that when everybody in every demographic hate black women and we're on the chopping block. I know not all skin folks are kinfolks but someone help me understand. - sincerely aggravated

i’m watching love is blind rn and one thing i’ve noticed on dating shows (particularly with audience commentary) is how much people push against women having a standard when it applies to men who the audience deems as “good”

this is to say, when a woman upholds a standard against a “bad guy” audiences tend to cheer her on

but when a woman uphold a standard against a “good guy” (at least least so far as the audience is concerned) then she becomes fucking Lilith / a She-Devil

it’s actually crazy because to some extent it shows that pick-me’s / other women buy into the “nice guy” complex, when he’s *genuinely* nice (again so far as they seem, because ofc no one really knows how that man is as a partner except the woman dating him)

it’s crazy to see in real time because despite women trashing the whole “nice guy” complex it’s as if they don’t actually get why it’s an issue

everyone knows that most “nice guys” are really just fake nice men that show women only the most basic kindness and decency for sex but it’s like women have lost the understanding that the real problem with it is that no matter how well a man treats you, they aren’t EVER entitled to you

also just because someone has some decent baseline partner qualities, it doesn’t mean they’re meeting your needs

I might make a more in depth substack about this later but the double standards between MysticLipstick and Lindsay Clancy are insane. People are blaming her husband post partum all the other things. They both are terrible women but when the white nurse who planned and poisoned her kids commits murder everyone rallies in support and calls it postpartum and a psychotic break. but when the black woman who showed little to no signs actually suddenly snaps and has a psychotic episodes she's demonic crazy and evil.

I think they both are. And it doesnt help MLS isn't a christian so that also garners extra hate where Lindsay is seen as a meek frail white woman with a shitty husband. I'm also not lost on the fact that since it's a murder suicide there are a lot of unanswered questions in the mystic lipstick case. I havent done enough research on either to talk more about it. I just noticed comparisons from the public reactions.

So again substack coming soon if that's something yall are interested in. RIP to all victims

I am in my first week of college (freshman) and so far I have been able to meet some really cool people. As I was walking to the university Chick-fil-A I was stopped by a girl and she had two guy friends. She had asked if me and my friend had bfs and I said no (I already knew this was a joke but I responded since its hard for me to ignore people). She then said that her hbs were looking for gfs and how they had expressed interest in us and I just walked away and shook my head. I overheard one of the guys say that he did not say that (which ofc I knew since it was dark and I had never seen these people before).

Its crazy because when I was actually ugly in ms and hs this didnt happen (the only other time was by a group of boys at a track meet a few months ago). I feel like I have had a little glow up since then. I am fit, take grooming seriously, upgraded my style, etc. I have also been complimented a few times on my looks while on campus by some of the girls.

I have never felt attractive so this just reaffirms my feelings. Also, I dont know of any other ways to improve myself so if any of you have tips that would be well appreciated. (Also Im surprised the person who did this was a girl and not a boy since usually boys are the immature ones)

No shade but it’s often women that are in their 30s or older. Many of them have never even dated interracially themselves but tell other black women they need to open their options. And it is almost always unsolicited. I have been open to all races my whole life and I’m currently with a WM but I’m not telling any black woman she needs to date outside of her race. Most of the black women I know are only attracted to black men and that is okay. In fact it is normal to want your own race.

I thought we were decentering men anyway. I find this all very very strange.

27 y/o single back female with masters of social work & previous work experience in hospitality industry. Interested in leaving the US for multitude of reasons amongst them I identify many countries have a lot to offer in terms of rich cultural experiences, diversity, lifestyle and healthcare access.

I have seen a number of black women expats online make successful transitions out but im trying to figure out how folks do it without having USD as primary currency for income, without cashing out 401K to live off of or having their own business that they make money in USD which gives a financial advantage in many countries.

Of course, I anticipate needing to prepare a substantial savings before leaving the US as many countries have financial requirements for visa approval etc. I am interested in places where I could ultimately apply for permanent residency.

Looking for advice on how to leave the USA to another country and utilize my transferrable skills to find work in the country I relocate to- rather than remote work. I wouldn’t completely rule out remote work. So far, I’m not seeing anything within my wheelhouse that would actually allow for me to work remote & live outside of the USA. I don’t really want to work in hospitality at this stage in my life for various factors & because of how extractive the industry is across the globe to local populations. However, I’d never say never since I know many US based companies have global reach. My current career path has licensures that do not apply to many countries abroad so at this point I’m thinking I may need to get creative and consider roles that I’ve never even thought of.

At this time, leaving my current job to do something like Au Pair or other work/ live exchanges abroad doesn’t seem financially practical or sustainable for a transition abroad. I’ve even considered the teaching English abroad thing too but I’m just not sold on the idea that that pathway could lead to me being in a financial position where I could remain in the country long term. Unfortunately/ fortunately I am the type of person that needs to plan ahead and ensure that my ducks are in a row before making such a leap. I see it’s possible but I’m currently feeling at a loss for how I could actually make the transition with my specific skills. This entire move would be self funded/ there isn’t any family or friends that could support me in this. I also don’t know anyone personally that lives abroad so I don’t have anyone I could look to for advice / support with a transition out.

Currently considering anywhere that has a strong black expat community & favorable weather year round. Willing to learn Spanish or Portuguese if relocating to a country where these are primary languages. Im also willing to learn any other language needed in order to widen the country list/ opportunities for transition outside of USA. I’m aware antiblackness is global so I’m not looking for a racial paradise or escape from racism/xenophobia because I know that’s not realistic in this day and age. I think realistically I would be trying to make the transition out by 30years old - not sure if this is being too conservative or too ambitious.

If anyone has recommendations, career suggestions, personal experiences with relocation as a single black female and/ or resources for black women expats Im all ears!

Why would my boyfriend’s family member say racist/colorist things to me, then his family members go date people who look like me?

Is it possible to self teach when it comes to certifications and obtain employment?

I do want to go back to school for my associates but unfortunately life has made that not so possible right now and I’m not trying to completely give up on education. I only have cleaning experience when it comes to jobs but that hasn’t been helping me land one so I’m trying to think outside the box to gain more skills in other occupations that would make me employable and help me branch away from cleaning.

I have about $16k of debt if that changes anything that I’m trying to get paid off by the beginning of 2028.

Unfortunately I’m straight because some of these gym bros be going through a whole character transformation

Bro was normal in January

By June he’s shirtless in the gym, posting Drake lyrics, remembering his ex and talking about how heartbreak “made him"

Broooo you just started lifting!!!

Then the comments be full of male centered birds fighting for their lives:

“my boo 😩”

“MY GOD”

“RAW"

And these men are rarely in relationships,just outside being pretty and causing problems

Isn’t the gym just supposed to make you healthy?? Why did it come with a new personality?

🎀💗 GIRLS… COME HERE REAL QUICK. 💗🎀
Are you 18+, bored, tired of dry group chats, and looking for somewhere to yap, make friends, laugh at stupid memes, overshare a little 😭, and just vibe with other girls?
Because BABE… we made a whole Discord for YOU. 💅🏽✨
🌸 All-girls community
🎀 18+ only
💬 Late-night yapping & random conversations
😂 Memes, chaos & unserious behavior
🫶🏽 Make genuine friendships
🎮 Games & community activities
💄 Beauty, fashion, lifestyle & girl talk
🍿 Drama-free vibes because we are NOT clocking in for a second job
🎉 Events, movie nights & fun activities
💗 A place to actually feel included instead of joining and getting ignored
And before you say “I don’t know anybody 🥺**”**…
GIRL. THAT’S THE POINT. 😭😂
Come in as a stranger and leave with a new group chat, a new bestie, or at minimum somebody who understands why you’re still awake at 3 AM making questionable life decisions. 💀
No cliques. No weird energy. No “who invited her?” attitude.
Just girls supporting girls, laughing way too hard, making friends, and creating a little online sisterhood. 🎀💕
✨ 18+ girls only — come see what the hype is about.
You might join for the vibes and accidentally find your new favorite people. 👀💗
Come join us, girl. We saved you a seat. 🫶🏽🎀

This is an all inclusive discord server it’s black ran by me! I would love to have more of my community join this server. I have a black power channel where I would love to talk and discuss things regarding my race and demographic! So if you would like to join please don’t hesitate! We are very nice and also I need black Moderators in my server I’m new to discord and being a server owner and need all the help I can get. I started this server a little over a week ago and it has been growing a lot but I need more of my black girls in the server with me link will be in the comment section

NO IM NIT A BIT I WILL POST PICTURE OF MYSELF TO PROVE SO!

I just bought a new set and I was just looking so good in it with the melanin, the braids , the face the body !

Like if I wasn’t black , idk what I would do 😭 I would have also been cosplaying cause why tf do we look so good ???

I’ve been having symptoms for a while now that I’m concerned about. My doctor told me to get an endoscopy so he can see what’s going on, but we can’t afford it. All my life I’ve been fortunate enough to have the money for these things or not need a procedure, but now there’s a very high chance even with insurance that I can’t afford to get one. It’s a terrible feeling, knowing that there’s a way to check my health and perhaps catch something early, and it’s right in front of you, but it’s blocked by a wall of debt. All because greedy fucks want more money and don’t care about people. And it’s hard to get a job because I’m distracted by these symptoms I’m having. I’m feeling scared now and would like some encouragement.

I used to be able to consume educational content on racism and loved learning all the ways racism presents itself in the world. I want to be knowledgable but especially on the history of black people, past & present. however, my mental health has regressed so much and one of the mental illnesses I suffer from is OCD, so I get debilitating intrusive thoughts and unfortunately after consuming so much race related content online the disorder has exploited that. however, asides from that, it’s genuinely making me feel so incredibly depressed and so I now find myself scrolling past racism posts because it makes me so frustrated, sad, anxious, angry and powerless. for the first time in my 27 yrs of existence I’m beginning to develop low racism self esteem… I’m so ashamed to say this but every time I go online everyone is expressing how much they hate us. I feel guilt that I’m scrolling by a black persons experience of racism, I feel like I’m betraying them by not stopping and listening but I’ve consumed far TOO much of it that I’ve become HYPER conscious of it bordering on paranoia (which is not at all good for the mental illnesses I’m diagnosed with) I’m either paralysed, unable to step away from my phone for hours on end watching video after video about racism incidents or yt people sharing their hatred for us OR I completely shut down and block racism out of my mind and absolutely hate to hear of it because of the negative feelings it invokes. I need to hear from other black women on their experiences with this. or at the very least just one person to tell me I’m not a bad person for feeling this way… racism has become to rampant I don’t know how to cope with it.

I’m 28 and feeling like a huge failure because I’m moving back to my mother’s house. What makes me sad is I had every opportunity. I graduated from a good school. I had the impressive job right after graduation. I’ve traveled & lived in many places. Up until now, I was financially supporting myself.

My childhood trauma & lack of emotional regulation kept me in survival mode. I could barely keep a job longer than a year because I couldn’t handle stress. I was sexually harassed by my boss then assaulted by my ex. Then there was the racism. And sometimes just my lack of professional skills.

Last year, I enrolled in graduate school & found a better job. Then we had budget cuts. I went 9 months without getting paid. Then I had an unexpected health issue. I’m still enrolled in school & but working part time. No savings. No assets of any kind.

Idk. I’m just disappointed in myself.