u/Dry-Hour-9968

No shade but it’s often women that are in their 30s or older. Many of them have never even dated interracially themselves but tell other black women they need to open their options. And it is almost always unsolicited. I have been open to all races my whole life and I’m currently with a WM but I’m not telling any black woman she needs to date outside of her race. Most of the black women I know are only attracted to black men and that is okay. In fact it is normal to want your own race.

I thought we were decentering men anyway. I find this all very very strange.

Wanted to find the chords for a song of hers on Ultimate Guitar. It showed up in the searched results but then when I click on, it says “The artist asked us not to show tab”.

Does anyone know what that’s about? I’ve never seen that before.

I worked with this guy who is very tall and attractive. He hit on me and insisted he could only be with black women. And he was telling the truth. He dated a Hispanic woman in middle school but only black women after that. He did say he thinks white women are great in a “best friend” type of way.

My job doesn’t have many black women. This man would gossip with me over the phone about black girls at work telling me all of their business. Telling me that they’re weird and telling me they dress inappropriately. With the white girls, he kept it cute and would only ever allude to things they did. Even though a lot of them are sleeping with people we work with. The only white woman he got specific about was one that was fired and another one who was on a reality show (both much older which I think is part of it).

And it’s possible he holds black women to a much higher standard because that’s who he wants to date and marry. But I found it to be insane. The WW’s image is protected while BW are tarnished for any reason.

All the interviews are during work hours. God forbid you have a job that’s fully onsite, you have to leave work early or hide in your car to do the virtual interviews. And when you get brought on-site if you’re looking for an in-person role, you have to schedule around that and use PTO. I’ve been doing this for 3 months and I’m drained. And you have to be careful about who can even know you’re looking elsewhere and that can make it harder to leverage your network.

This whole debacle with Klay Thompson plus the CB concerts and countless other things makes me wonder. We’re always saying that we can’t choose better men but when men have been publicly exposed for being cheaters or abusers, so many of us will still support and defend them.

Summer Walker is a major example. London’s baby mama’s were constantly complaining about and she still joining the circus. She was the other woman to Rich the Kid and that’s okay because “everyone knows he cheat”. I almost feel like she believes that women like her and Megan don’t deserve that but the “average/non-famous” women those men date do deserve it and that’s how they rationalize it.