u/Flimsy_Equivalent_93

Times like this I wish I had an intentional mother to go to. I am 29 and still don’t have much to my name. I’m sleeping on a friend’s couch because of a previous break up. I have a job and I’m trying to save up for a vehicle so I can at-least get around and make more money but I don’t have a drivers license due to no one ever wanting to teach me. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to go about things and it makes me sad that I don’t have anyone. I can’t ask those around me because I feel ashamed not having the proper guidance to know how to do these things myself…. I don’t have siblings, I only have like 2 friends, my mom is in another state and doesn’t even care to know where I am or what I have going on. I feel completely alone. I am trying to work a full time job and start up my cleaning business so I can get myself on the right foot but without help and even moral support. I don’t know how I can make these things happen….

How would someone with 10 years experience in cleaning start a medical clinic cleaning service? I have experience in schools K-12, colleges,universities, psych clinics, medical centers, construction, sanitation, hotels and supervisory training. I am tired of working in roles that don’t serve me and I have found myself interested in creating my own company that services the small medical clinics in my area. It would be just me for the time being and if things happen to get better and expand I would add more people. I just need help on how to start it and to get clientele at-least one or two clients to begin with.

I feel grief and heart broken about someone I love so much that I can’t be with because he’s with someone else. He’s my best-friend, we’ve know one another since we were in 2nd grade. We’ve dealt with so much together over the years and have such a strong bond. He’s in a relationship and I am out of mine. I respect his relationship and so does he so we don’t speak out of character but he understands how I feel and vice versa. I feel so hurt because we spent so many years together being with each other but we never made it official. It breaks my heart because he’s all I ever desired because of how he treated me, I never experienced anything like that before him even after him. I want to cry, my heart wants to cry but my body just won’t. I don’t know what to do. It’s hard to also be friends with him because he begs to keep me around and I want to stay around but it’s so hard to accept this dynamic.. I feel like I lost because I knew we wouldn’t be together, I could feel the intention of it never going anywhere and me always being confused and because it never happened I moved on and he did too and now I’m hearing he did love me but he’s with someone else. I feel like he does love me but I also feel like I’m being strung along because he wants to have his cake and eat it too and I think about his partner so much and how our dynamic may affect her too and I can’t stop thinking about that either. I just want to cry and move on. I don’t want any parts of ruining anything that’s not me. I just want to wholeheartedly feel my emotions cry and move the fuck on from him.

Is there anyone who has a Project management certification or has a career in safety??? I want to obtain either one but I wasn’t sure if there’s a course I could self study for and take the exam?

I haven’t smoked in about a month and a half because I am in the process of quitting and cleaning my system but I have received a great job offer that requires a drug test. I have about 2 weeks left before the test. Has anyone been able to successfully pass a test in a pinch? Could I have some tips on what I could do?

How would someone with 10 years of cleaning experience and OSHA 10 become a construction safety or building inspector?

Is it possible to self teach when it comes to certifications and obtain employment?

I do want to go back to school for my associates but unfortunately life has made that not so possible right now and I’m not trying to completely give up on education. I only have cleaning experience when it comes to jobs but that hasn’t been helping me land one so I’m trying to think outside the box to gain more skills in other occupations that would make me employable and help me branch away from cleaning.

Are there any paid training CNA classes located in PHX. I’ve been trying to reach the workforce center but I’m not getting any calls or emails back.

I'm 29. I just left a 4 yr relationship. I met him when I was 25 and he was 30 or 31. He wasn't physically abusive, but he was so manipulative after time went on that it has messed my heed up completely. I have no children, no prior marriages but he did. He sounded nice and we had a mutual friend, so it felt safe...AT THE TIME. I raised his kids, dealt with the backlash from his ex-wife whom he would never set boundaries with but would consistently tell me he hated her. The beginning of our relationship made me feel like it was an adjustment period and things would get better but then it became me teaching because he did know what to do, me nagging, me being overworked and him just acting plain stupid. He paid the bills with what he had but barely wanted to work so he didn't. He would complain daily about responsibilities of the house, he would rather start his day with a bowl of za and the game while I would wake up early to clean the house and get the kids situated before spending hours in online class and going back to being over worked in other areas., he was a manipulator of sex, making me feel bad because I was exhausted from catering to everyone daily and then having to give it up to him. He would constantly talk about how women would hurt him and he would sound so vile when saying it but would never speak about the men that hurt him just as bad in that manner.

He would be upset that we needed more financially to support the kids he has. He would tell me that there are no jobs so that I couldn't work. He promised me he would help with my license; he promised me he would take care of me, he made me feel bad for wanting to go to school in the beginning of our relationship and would try to talk me out of it. I finished but I didn't realize it in the beginning that he wanted me to drop out. My body felt so anxious, I began to second guess myself so much I needed permission from him. He tried to get me to drop my friends while he kept his, He wanted to sit on the game all day and barely get up to help me around the house. He would flip my reaction on me when I was tired of his BS. He wouldn't fix the issues I brought to him; He would just somehow get his way due to my reaction being "too aggressive" and me hurting his feelings. I would cave every time. I started to yell, be angrier and more resentful as I was carrying so much weight. He reminded me often of what he's done for me and when I would mention what I've done he would say that "Trucking past his feelings and not letting him express himself" when that's all he ever did no matter the time or day. He would say often he thinks "I don't like him or that I hate him or that I think he's stupid" when I would validly react to how I would be treated. I cried so much in the shower, began to isolate, cut my hair numerous times due to breakdowns, rarely spoke, rarely smiled. Just took care of him and his children with barely any respect in return when I was exhausted or sick or just wanted to relax. He provided in the beginning just for it to become power used against me in the end.

A few weeks ago, I laid in bed. It was 2am and something told me to leave; I was scared I had nothing to leave with but a bookbag and a dog. Later that day we spoke and mutually agreed to break it off. I thought things would be ok. For the next 4 days he disturbed the home, making loud noises, drinking and being so manipulative to the fact that I didn't want to deal with the relationship anymore because I was beyond drained, so he flipped everything we talked about.

Last Sunday I left. I asked him to let us leave. He left my dog and I stranded in an airport. with 800$ to our name, he left us and said NOTHIG ELSE. We couldn't fly home so we spent 3 days outside in the heat and in and out of hotels we could barely afford. I couldn't cry because I had to keep my pup safe and that was my main focus. I was able to make it to a safe place in a new state. I have no job, I have no driver's license, I barely have money for the bus. We shared a phone line, and he cut that completely the other day so I can't even use my phone. I am sleeping on a friends couch in AZ with my pup and I am trying to restart my life again; I've only been here a week and have been to interviews every. single. day., but I don't know how to with absolutely nothing. I've been crying for days, I've been trying to smile but I feel so numb, devasted and defeated because I would have never done that to him. I don't know what to do. I couldn't call family because I have none. I only have one friend and she's already accommodating me here and helping me find jobs. I have 3 outfits. No car, no license, no job, no money, no cell phone service, I busted my ass this past year to be accepted into an engineering program just to have to drop out because he wasn't with it, due to his own shortcomings of not being the man he said he was in the beginning also, with me leaving that state it would be impossible now to be in the program. I moved myself and my dog to be with him years ago leaving with a dog and a bookbag, just to end up here again.... How do I turn my life around?? How do I change for the better??, How do I get past the trauma and the betrayal and heal?? I feel so so so so fucking stupid. I even decided I wasn’t going to tell my friends and just move on until he reached out to everyone telling them stories about how I just dipped out on him (HE DUMPED ME OFF THERE!? I couldn’t just up and go by mysel!!) and saying that I was “in psychosis” because I cracked. I have no clue what the hell I’m supposed to do now. I’m so tired of pain and going through things and being hurt all time when I have nothing else to give except pure intentions. My heart feels broken, not from the relationship ending but the acts that happened after it and during the relationship that screwed my head up. I feel like I want to end it. It’s too much. It’s always been too much and I don’t feel strong enough to handle it anymore.

I'm 29. I just left a 4 yr relationship. I met him when I was 25 and he was 30 or 31. He wasn't physically abusive, but he was so manipulative after time went on that it has messed my heed up completely. I have no children, no prior marriages but he did. He sounded nice and we had a mutual friend, so it felt safe...AT THE TIME. I raised his kids, dealt with the backlash from his ex-wife whom he would never set boundaries with but would consistently tell me he hated her. The beginning of our relationship made me feel like it was an adjustment period and things would get better but then it became me teaching because he did know what to do, me nagging, me being overworked and him just acting plain stupid. He paid the bills with what he had but barely wanted to work so he didn't. He would complain daily about responsibilities of the house, he would rather start his day with a bowl of za and the game while I would wake up early to clean the house and get the kids situated before spending hours in online class and going back to being over worked in other areas., he was a manipulator of sex, making me feel bad because I was exhausted from catering to everyone daily and then having to give it up to him. He would constantly talk about how women would hurt him and he would sound so vile when saying it but would never speak about the men that hurt him just as bad in that manner.

He would be upset that we needed more financially to support the kids he has. He would tell me that there are no jobs so that I couldn't work. He promised me he would help with my license; he promised me he would take care of me, he made me feel bad for wanting to go to school in the beginning of our relationship and would try to talk me out of it. I finished but I didn't realize it in the beginning that he wanted me to drop out. My body felt so anxious, I began to second guess myself so much I needed permission from him. He tried to get me to drop my friends while he kept his, He wanted to sit on the game all day and barely get up to help me around the house. He would flip my reaction on me when I was tired of his BS. He wouldn't fix the issues I brought to him; He would just somehow get his way due to my reaction being "too aggressive" and me hurting his feelings. I would cave every time. I started to yell, be angrier and more resentful as I was carrying so much weight. He reminded me often of what he's done for me and when I would mention what I've done he would say that "Trucking past his feelings and not letting him express himself" when that's all he ever did no matter the time or day. He would say often he thinks "I don't like him or that I hate him or that I think he's stupid" when I would validly react to how I would be treated. I cried so much in the shower, began to isolate, cut my hair numerous times due to breakdowns, rarely spoke, rarely smiled. Just took care of him and his children with barely any respect in return when I was exhausted or sick or just wanted to relax. He provided in the beginning just for it to become power used against me in the end.

A few weeks ago, I laid in bed. It was 2am and something told me to leave; I was scared I had nothing to leave with but a bookbag and a dog. Later that day we spoke and mutually agreed to break it off. I thought things would be ok. For the next 4 days he disturbed the home, making loud noises, drinking and being so manipulative to the fact that I didn't want to deal with the relationship anymore because I was beyond drained, so he flipped everything we talked about.

Last Sunday I left. I asked him to let us leave. He left my dog and I stranded in an airport. with 800$ to our name, he left us and said NOTHIG ELSE. We couldn't fly home so we spent 3 days outside in the heat and in and out of hotels we could barely afford. I couldn't cry because I had to keep my pup safe and that was my main focus. I was able to make it to a safe place in a new state. I have no job, I have no driver's license, I barely have money for the bus. We shared a phone line, and he cut that completely the other day so I can't even use my phone. I am sleeping on a friends couch in AZ with my pup and I am trying to restart my life again; I've only been here a week and have been to interviews every. single. day., but I don't know how to with absolutely nothing. I've been crying for days, I've been trying to smile but I feel so numb, devasted and defeated because I would have never done that to him. I don't know what to do. I couldn't call family because I have none. I only have one friend and she's already accommodating me here and helping me find jobs. I have 3 outfits. No car, no license, no job, no money, no cell phone service, I busted my ass this past year to be accepted into an engineering program just to have to drop out because he wasn't with it, due to his own shortcomings of not being the man he said he was in the beginning also, with me leaving that state it would be impossible now to be in the program. I moved myself and my dog to be with him years ago leaving with a dog and a bookbag, just to end up here again.... How do I turn my life around?? How do I change for the better??, How do I get past the trauma and the betrayal and heal?? I feel so so so so fucking stupid. I even decided I wasn’t going to tell my friends and just move on until he reached out to everyone telling them stories about how I just dipped out on him (HE DUMPED ME OFF THERE!? I couldn’t just up and go by mysel!!) and saying that I was “in psychosis” because I cracked. I have no clue what the hell I’m supposed to do now. I’m so tired of pain and going through things and being hurt all time when I have nothing else to give except pure intentions. My heart feels broken, not from the relationship ending but the acts that happened after it and during the relationship that screwed my head up. I feel like I want to end it. It’s too much. It’s always been too much and I don’t feel strong enough to handle it anymore

I was sharing a phone line with a ex and he cut the phone line because he was angry I wasn’t reaching out to him anymore. He left me stranded, told my friends I was going through psychosis and pretty much left me for dead because I have rather be homeless than deal with manipulation anymore So I left away and was trying to get my life together somewhere else. My number was changed and that number was connected to everything and now I can’t reach out to anyone except via TEXT-FREE. I don’t have money to get a phone right now and I have interviews next week and DESPERATELY need service and a phone to get around and keep in contact with interviewers. I tried all the government programs here in AZ but they are taking forever to verify me. I can only use this phone when I’m on wifi and it’s still locked by the carrier so I’m out of luck with this phone I have. I really need help figuring out how to obtain even a cheap phone with a cheap plan for free. I’m going to interviews, talking to jobs left and right and I’m just praying I can bag employment so I can get back on my feet.…for now I really need a service line so I can stay in touch

I was sharing a phone line with a ex and he cut the phone line because he was angry I wasn’t reaching out to him anymore. He left me stranded, told my friends I was going through psychosis and pretty much left me for dead because I have rather be homeless than deal with manipulation anymore So I left away and was trying to get my life together somewhere else. My number was changed and that number was connected to everything and now I can’t reach out to anyone except via TEXT-FREE. I don’t have money to get a phone right now and I have interviews next week and DESPERATELY need service and a phone to get around and keep in contact with interviewers. I tried all the government programs here in AZ but they are taking forever to verify me. I can only use this phone when I’m on wifi and it’s still locked by the carrier so I’m out of luck with this phone I have. I really need help figuring out how to obtain even a cheap phone with a cheap plan for free. I’m going to interviews, talking to jobs left and right and I’m just praying I can bag employment so I can get back on my feet.…for now I really need a service line so I can stay in touch

My ex and I had a breakup. We split up and I’ve been at rock bottom for a few days now. no job, no car, sleeping on my friends couch with my dog, no money. going to interview after interview. my ex and I share the same phone line and he cut it off as of yesterday. i have no way to reach out to anyone unless on wifi. My number was changed too. I feel so damn helpless I can’t even take care of myself anymore. I’ve been trying not to cry but since yesterday that’s all I’ve been doing. I don’t have anything to my name. I depressed because I spent years taking care of this man just for him to abandon me in a airport and lie and tell my friends I am going crazy. Now I am. no one should have to live like this. I have no one but my friend and she already has a family to take care of and she added me to the list of things she now has to maintain. i am depressed and I feel like I’m ready to give up on life.i don’t know what to do. i have no help. i am ready to leave this world behind….

My ex and I had a breakup. We split up and I’ve been at rock bottom for a few days now. no job, no car, sleeping on my friends couch with my dog, no money. going to interview after interview. my ex and I share the same phone line and he cut it off as of yesterday. i have no way to reach out to anyone unless on wifi. My number was changed too. I feel so damn helpless I can’t even take care of myself anymore. I’ve been trying not to cry but since yesterday that’s all I’ve been doing. I don’t have anything to my name. I depressed because I spent years taking care of this man just for him to abandon me in a airport and lie say I am going crazy. Now I am. no one should have to live like this. I have no one but my friend and she already has a family to take care of and she added me to the list of things she now has to maintain. i am depressed and I feel like I’m ready to give up on life.i don’t know what to do. i have no help. i am ready to leave this world behind….

Hi ladies! I need some help with pivot careers. I have 9 years of cleaning experience in hotels, schools, construction, hospitals and etc I also have supervisory experience in housekeeping hospitality. I’m not having the best luck these days with finding jobs in my current field and that’s also unfortunately the only experience I do have. I wanted to know what are other careers that are easy to get into and how would I go about doing so? I really need income and a change from making 15.00 an hour. I want to advance and be able to move up and I don’t see myself being able to do that with cleaning anymore unless I’m looking at things the wrong way. I appreciate all suggestions and advice in advance! 🙂

I've been trying to get back into the workforce. I've been literally in the streets for days busing to interview after interview. I am so exhausted but I'm praying today is a good one. I am really trying to turn my life around so God please help me out.

How could someone who doesn’t have income get a discount valley pass. I need to get to and from interviews I have set up and I don’t want to keep using the 20$ I have to save for food on bus fare