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Ending Suffering with Archie J Bahm (Buddhist Philosophy)

This is an idea I think is worth sharing. And it’s an idea that once it’s understood, will be accepted as true. It’s something that is so simple that it can actually be difficult to understand. The simplicity of it is what makes it easy to miss.

The idea comes from early Buddhist texts, and it speaks about suffering. Suffering specifically in the sense of dissatisfaction.

The thought goes like this.

If you want something that you will NEVER obtain, then you are suffering. And when I say never, I truly mean never. If you want something that you will never get, you’re suffering. That’s the suffering I’m talking about.

What it is you want that you will never get can vary tremendously. But let’s not overcomplicate things. If you want something that you will never get (apply your own want), then you are suffering.

Now, if you want to eliminate your suffering, then it’s simple. Don’t want the things you will never obtain.

But it’s natural for people to want more. At least a little more than what they currently have. Wanting more for ourselves is often the very thing that pushes us forward into obtaining things we never thought were possible.

But the principle I mentioned earlier still holds true.

If we obtain something, then it wasn’t something that was NEVER obtainable.

So the problem is that our wants and desires do not come with perfect “gauges” of what we will obtain. We don’t always know where that line is. And that’s where suffering arises.

When the gauge of our wants overshoots into what will NEVER be obtained, that overshoot is the precise amount of suffering we experience.

Again, the principle still holds.

If you want more than what you will EVER obtain, then you’ll suffer that overshoot.

If you’re still following the logic, stay with me, because this is where it gets very interesting. This is where Buddha had an enlightening experience surrounding suffering. He set out to solve suffering, if it was even possible to.

And I think we can all benefit from the fruit of that labor.

Whether you know it or not, it will not save you from death. It will not end your grief. But something important does change.

So when we want to end our suffering, when we want to be enlightened, when we want to be at peace, we must pay close attention to that “gauge” and how much we are overshooting what will never be obtained.

Because when you set out to end your suffering, that too is a gauge.

There is a certain part of your suffering that you will NEVER be able to end. And so long as you constantly overshoot, you will remain in suffering.

So this forces you to stop overshooting.

Meaning, to accept what suffering is actually present. To accept the suffering that you cannot resolve and will not EVER be able to.

And it’s precisely at that point that suffering ends.

That’s it.

That’s the entirety of the thought process. It runs deep, and there may be better ways to explain it, but that’s the concept.

And if you apply it to your particular suffering, no matter who you are or what it is, the principle applies.

Which is what made Buddha who he was and Buddhism what it is today.

Overarching principles of suffering. Not God, not the afterlife, not religious doctrine. Just a discussion on the truths of suffering, how we can understand it, and ways that we might be able to end it.

If these thoughts or ideas were new to you and helped at all, or even just gave you something to think about, please share your initial thoughts. I’d like to hear them.

Have a good one.

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u/R36S_Clone_Boned — 4 hours ago

You can manifest any reality. You are a God. Tap into energy.

We have future timelines too. We can teleport anywhere. You can go to the past, and teleport to a future where you did that. This is because all is energy. Magic ✨️. Spirit. Again, remember, you are a divine being, a deity, God, a creator. Create your reality.

Hint: Happiness is the best frequency that connects you to positivity, self-love, and self-focus feeling. Raising your vibration is choosing happiness, and trusting.

We are responsible for our own path.

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u/Doimz3Nini — 2 hours ago

not exactly sure how to ask this

so when one is speaking into the universe or what such they believe in, does one have to speak out loud for the universe to hear us or are they aware of our thoughts? sorry if i worded this poorly

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u/Reasonable-Cat-6036 — 3 hours ago

spiritual friends? 🩷

hii, i'm a 21 year old girl from northern europe, and i would love to get to know more spiritual people! especially if you live in the same area but that's not mandatory 🙌

i love eckhart tolle, neuroscience, inner child healing, femininity, yoga, nature, art and traveling, to name a few 🙈 text me or if you know any spiritual/wellness communities, i would love to join 💕💖

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u/cosmicvani — 4 hours ago
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what's the most spiritual city you've ever been to? the place that just hits different

I've been thinking about this a lot lately: how some cities hit differently the moment you arrive. Some places change something in you; your energy changes there.

It's hard to explain unless you've felt it. I felt it in two cities. Prague is the first one. This city inspired me many times. The whole old town has this layered, alchemical history to it: centuries of mystics, astronomers, and dreamers passed through these same streets. It doesn't make me feel light or peaceful so much as charged.

Sibiu is the second one. This one's less known, but it might be the one that affected me the most. With its eye-shaped windows on the rooftops that seem to watch you, it has an otherworldly calm. There's a quiet power to the whole region. I left Sibiu feeling grounded, like this city gave me back a kind of patience I'd forgotten I had.

Curious what your cities are. Did you meet a city that was able to change something in your soul?

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u/AnnCelesta — 6 hours ago

Why does my ex tend to attract physical confrontation out of nowhere, even though he's not confrontational?

I dated a guy for about 8 months and something happened repeatedly that I still can't fully explain. He's not an aggressive person, has this nonchalant kind of aura about him, nothing that would look provocative. And yet, over and over, completely different contexts, strangers would try to start physical fights with him out of nowhere:

  • A guy tried to attack him at the gym after he threw a weight plate on the floor
  • A woman told him off aggressively at the gym too one time
  • Someone bumped into him on the street and it almost escalated into a fight, even though he didn't want to fight
  • A group of guys tried to jump him at a mall once, before we even met
  • He mentioned that when he was younger, someone ripped his clothes at a party because he was wearing a knock off tshirt or something
  • He went through bullying when was a kid

He's only 20/21. I've never seen anything like this happen to anyone else around me at this frequency, across so many different environments (gym, street, mall, social events). It really doesn't seem random anymore.

I'm curious if anyone here has experienced something similar, either personally or with someone close to them, and what your take is on it from an energetic/spiritual perspective. Is this a "weak boundary" / exposed aura thing? Something more like unresolved karma? An energetic vulnerability that reads as a target to people already carrying aggression? Genuinely curious to hear different takes, not looking for a purely psychological explanation — more interested in the energetic/spiritual read on this pattern.

One more thing I keep wondering about: he's not someone I'd call a deeply good person morally — he has some biased attitudes and viewpoints that come out here and there. But these aren't things a total stranger would pick up on just by looking at him or interacting with him for two seconds at a gym or a mall.

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u/darkshinyboy — 2 hours ago

Is this weird?

This is actually freaking me out
I realised recently that the people who end up hurting me end up getting hurt as well
Or if I happen to say something to the people who hurt me in anger, it sometimes happens to them

An example, my boss used to be really difficult and he brought me to tears multiple times

I used to wish he ended up with a corneal infection and a couple months later, it happened to him

I told this to my mother when I vented and we were both shocked

Is this karma or something?

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u/Sea-Wolf-994 — 7 hours ago
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How to deal with the suffering of others

My life and perspectives on the world have changed completely and for the better after realizing that everything is one and the separation we create is all in our minds. However, this has made me extra empathetic to all the suffering in the world. Whenever I see someone suffering, I feel incredibly sad as if I am directly experiencing it. Has anyone else experienced this? And how do you deal with it without going insane?

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u/Chemical_Abrocoma370 — 11 hours ago
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Sanskrit has exactly 54 letters. The original Vedic system describes exactly 54 energy centers on each side of the body.

This is not a coincidence; every Sanskrit letter corresponds to the precise location in the body that produces its sound. When you say Hridaya, you are not labeling the heart. You are vibrating it.

I have made a video exploring this connection between Sanskrit phonetics and the 108 chakra system.

But I'm more interested in whether anyone here has encountered this teaching before.

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u/subooom — 13 hours ago
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Any psychic insights? Physical health issues and path

Photo: https://imgur.com/a/MKy4g2n

I think my struggle with chronic pain has really burnt me out and held me back for a very long time. Chronic head and facial pain since a teen, I had a lot of ortho work as a child for an underbite.. Learned a lot about tmj disorder, tongue ties, PT or cranial fascial therapy, airway/jaw development, “leaky gut”/dysbiosis and more. I feel drawn to starting to share on social media and create a guide to help others, it’s just starting that’s difficult and I am still struggling. I did NCR (endonasal balloon and bodywork) long ago and it changed symptoms. A cranial DO said facial bones “restricted”? I get discomfort in my nose area, jaw and top of head and causes major depression. I also am wondering if I have ADD or depression that I should treat with meds or not needed.

This has been an intense year and have been alone a long time, had to move, lost best friend, messed up a potential in real life connection with a great guy and he said he didn’t want to revisit things..I feel very messed up from this as I hoped he’d at least agree to meet me just once, did chin lipo as it was really holding me back and avoided others, financial worry, starting wearing CPAP and at least feel more alive from that and less brain dead I think?

I feel interested in going for cancer registry program or entry level health information management jobs to see if I even like it, chart abstraction or HIM bachelors if even needed for stability (I feel I’d be a good nurse but I’m not sure about direct patient care) but also am curious on starting own business above all I think and may try that before investing in school again. Very analytical, would like teaching aspect with health root causes maybe, empathetic. Considered health coach program but figured I’d try on own first and unsure I’d enjoy accountability aspect if usually apart of that. Haven’t worked for a few years besides some self employment stuff.

I have a feeling I need to consult a tmj dentist, ask if need PT or cranial fascial therapy, go back to a neurologist to treat symptoms maybe at least. I’ve spent a decade suffering with brain fog, fatigue, chronic pain. But money is a major stressor right now. One NCR doctor told me I had a “crown brain structure” energetically from “conception trauma” and that could explain the symptoms if only some cranial bones moved and it stayed restricted, and she proposed distant energy work with peak states. I don’t know if that’s the true issue or it’s a physical TMJ/cranial issue.

Does anyone have any insights for me as to root causes or what to focus on? Or my gifts and jobs that fit best?

It’s been a powerful surrender and acceptance of what is and feels very intense.

u/kaseyrenaexo — 9 hours ago

Quand tout devient trop bruyant…

Il y a des jours où le monde semble trop rapide, trop exigeant, trop bruyant.

On se perd dans les rôles, les attentes, les masques.👉 Question simple pour vous aujourd’hui :

Qu’est-ce qui vous aide à revenir à vous quand tout devient trop bruyant ?Un geste.

Un lieu.

Une respiration.

Un rituel.Partagez-le ici.

Votre réponse pourrait être la clé dont quelqu’un d’autre a besoin.

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u/Hefty-Day-8955 — 14 hours ago

Anyone else afraid of being reincarnated on Earth again?

Hello, everyone!

I’ve always felt like an incredibly old soul. Even as a child, I had this deep sense of being tired, homesick, and like I’d already been here for far too long.

A few years ago, I did a past-life regression because of a recurring memory that never felt like it belonged to this life. During it, I felt something I still struggle to explain: that my soul was ancient and constant, while each lifetime was just another expression of it.

Since then, one thought keeps following me: I don’t want to come back here again.

I don’t mean that in the sense of not wanting to live this life - I do. This is purely about spirituality, reincarnation, and what comes after. I just feel exhausted by the idea of returning to Earth over and over. I love people deeply, but I also seem to absorb suffering everywhere I go. Ever since I was little, I’ve felt the pain of people, animals, and living things so intensely that it sometimes feels like I’m carrying the weight of the world with me.

More than anything, I feel homesick for somewhere that isn’t here. A place I can’t remember, but somehow miss.
Is this a common feeling in spiritual circles? Does anyone else fear being reborn on Earth again or feel deeply tired of the cycle of reincarnation? If you’ve experienced this, how did you find peace with it?

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u/Unique-Fish-2444 — 1 day ago

What Is This "Witness" I Experienced?

Once in my life, I became aware of my own awareness, and it was one of the most profound experiences I've ever had.

I was angry on the outside, but deep inside I realized there was a quiet presence simply observing. It was almost as if something within me was saying, "You're acting this anger out. Look—beneath it, you're actually calm."

I don't experience this every time I'm angry, but after that moment I understood, at least a little, what many saints and spiritual teachers mean when they talk about the witness or the observer.

It also made me wonder whether this is something that can even be practiced. It doesn't feel like something I can force. It seems more like thoughts and emotions arise naturally, while awareness itself is separate and simply notices them.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Do you think this witnessing awareness can be cultivated through practice, or does it just happen on its own?

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u/FunStrong6170 — 15 hours ago

Meditation in a moment of danger

At this very moment, my city of Kyiv is being hit by ballistic missiles, and explosions are thundering nearby. Meditation really does help me maintain my composure. Although I believe it's extremely difficult to completely detach oneself from emotions in times of danger. Still, such situations allow me to process my energy.

Have you ever experienced situations in your life when prayer or meditation allowed you to quickly release anxiety or fear?

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u/FreeTony88 — 22 hours ago

Kundalini Energy/Awakening

So I have been celibate by choice for quite some time now. As of lately, I have been having STRONG sexual urges. Like I could give my kitty up RIGHT NOW, but I don’t want to. My hellcat too fire to just give it out to the community. Im too fire to be giving my energy out for free! I’m tired of dj’ing and vibrating my cooter into oblivion. I need help trying to transmute this shit because yo… it’s like going through my body. Any suggestions?

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u/SiameZeBackwood — 1 day ago

The next big disaster is yet to come.

It's a pattern that repeats itself. The next big, disaster is yet to come. But it is coming. I can guarantee you that. "Oh but what's the point?" You make it whatever you wanna make out of it. Salute 🫡

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u/GeologistOver4513 — 21 hours ago
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From an infinite amount of experiences, why this one at this time?

So.. about the whole „I am not my ego. I am not my thoughts. I am not my body. I am just the observer. There is no 'I'. I am the experience itself.“ - theory. Which is also often described as the universe experiencing itself.

I can’t wrap my mind about following: Why am „I“ in THIS exact body right now? How does this singular spark of experience „decide“ to be in this body at this specific time? I don’t believe in „deciding“ or free will, which makes it even harder for me to stop spiralling about it. When I was five years old, I asked my mother why I am who I am and how I know I'm not dreaming.
Also, if there is no such thing as time, and everything is happening everywhere all at once, I must have already been through an infinite amount of experiences. I just can't remember them because there is no such thing as memory outside of this body.
And following that thought: shouldn't this life I am experiencing right now already be forgotten? Why am I stuck in this specific life, at this exact time, out of all eternity?

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u/Sithis-bride — 1 day ago
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Is God a vagabond with bad company?

I think I should turn to God, not the one of religion but the one you find in your loneliness, I like places of worship for that reason, you can debate and reject every religion but every God has been engendered by unbearable loneliness. And when a person usually turns to God, is it not in his/her utmost loneliness?

Loss of a loved one, imminent death, hardship, wanting something, not wanting something. In the middle of it all, I see a human standing alone against the world, the only thing that can accompany him at that point is an imaginary being, and the mind does the rest by creating a story around it, the God is always righteous based on what righteous meant in that part of the world at that time.

In my loneliness I understand God. Sort of funny if you think about it, one who finds himself bereft in the lower world suddenly finds himself catapulted into a higher one, perhaps that’s why all the Arihants and the saints and the Godlies look so bereft. You need to be a loser to meet God, a bum. God is thus a vagabond with bad company. Crooks, criminals, weirdos, mentals, losers, they are his favourite, meek inherit his kingdom.

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u/tom_lurks — 16 hours ago