u/igetyourbrand

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Is it becoming Instagram?

Is it becoming Instagram?

NEW ACCOUNT

WARMED IT UP

WATCHED VIDEOS

LIKED SHIT

COMMENTED

DID MY LITTLE TIKTOK RITUAL

POSTED MY BEAUTIFUL LITTLE CAROUSEL

24 HOURS LATER:

0 VIEWS

ZERO

NOT EVEN MY OWN MOTHER

TIKTOK SAID “THIS ONE STAYS BETWEEN US.”

LIKE???????????????????

WHAT DID I DO TO YOU

DO I REALLY HAVE TO MAKE ANOTHER ACCOUNT AND REPEAT THE WHOLE WARM UP CIRCUS OR AM I JUST BEING PUNISHED FOR HAVING THE AUDACITY TO POST????????????

Ugh. I’m 29 and I hope it’s okay to vent here because I tried doing this on other women’s dating subs around my age and everyone keeps telling me “you’ll find better” and that I need to figure out why I keep choosing the same type of man

Ummm… I don’t know???

I’ve dated men around my age, up to 35. Quite a few of them, actually. And I genuinely don’t think I can take responsibility for the fact that they acted like one person and turned out to be someone completely different

At this point I’m just… closed off

My heart is so tired. I don’t even know how I’m supposed to open it again when every time I do, I end up watching the man I liked fall in love with somebody else

And then somehow I’m the person they come to when they’re heartbroken over the woman they actually wanted

The AUDACITY

Like, you know I like you. You know I have feelings for you. And you’re sitting across from me crying about how devastated you are that the woman you love is moving on??

Sir??? Read the room???

The last one was the worst

He lied to me and acted like he was genuinely serious about having a relationship with me. He said the things. He made it seem like we wanted the same thing. Then he got what he wanted sexually and suddenly I was “wrong” for expecting the relationship he literally told me he wanted

And while all of this was happening, he was also crying and venting to me about how sick he felt because the woman he actually considered the love of his life was coming back into his life

And I’m just sitting there like:

😬

Oh. So I’m here

Got it

Eventually we had a huge fight and I told him the sex was terrible because, well… it was. I didn’t even want to sleep with him in the first place

That REALLY triggered him

He ended up calling me a racial slur and basically told me I was an undesirable Black fat woman

And honestly?

That was the moment I was just physically disgusted with the entire situation

Because imagine being so ugly on the inside that when someone rejects you, you reach for their skin color and body as a weapon

I blocked him

But I think something in me just shut down after that

Because now when I think about dating men, I don’t even feel excited

I feel tired

I don’t want to explain myself again. I don’t want to wonder if I’m being chosen or tolerated. I don’t want to be somebody’s placeholder while they’re emotionally obsessed with somebody else

And I definitely don’t want to find out six months later that the “serious relationship” we were building was just a very elaborate audition for sex

I genuinely don’t know how people keep doing this.

Right now, the idea of opening my heart to another man sounds less like romance and more like volunteering for another psychological experiment

Unfortunately I’m straight because some of these gym bros be going through a whole character transformation

Bro was normal in January

By June he’s shirtless in the gym, posting Drake lyrics, remembering his ex and talking about how heartbreak “made him"

Broooo you just started lifting!!!

Then the comments be full of male centered birds fighting for their lives:

“my boo 😩”

“MY GOD”

“RAW"

And these men are rarely in relationships,just outside being pretty and causing problems

Isn’t the gym just supposed to make you healthy?? Why did it come with a new personality?

I'm always on go plan , but I realized it doesn't read videos 🤡

So does pro plan watch videos when you upload it for example Instagram reel?

Can it analayis my reel for me lol? And tell me what to improve

Like why ?

Like why ?

Hi 😭 I already know some of y’all are about to make fun of me but whatever, I need actual answers lmao

How much would I realistically need to rent a studio or 1-bedroom apartment for 3 months in a clean, decent area, preferably in a newer/high floor building?

Also… is it actually possible to find a place where I don’t have to deal with the occasional roach/gecko situation, or am I being delusional?

Where do people actually find short-term apartments? Do you recommend going through an agent, or are there better options?

And if I pay a security deposit, do landlords normally give it back when the 3-month contract ends, assuming everything is fine?

I'm genuinely curious: what's the point of paying UGC creators based on views?

Because at some point, aren't we just paying for vanity metrics?

10k views ≠ 10k potential customers.

100k views ≠ 100k signups.

And going viral doesn't magically mean people will convert.

I keep seeing SaaS apps neglect their own social media while spending money on UGC creators and influencers.

And I'm like… 😭

If you haven't built your own audience or figured out how to consistently attract people to your product, how is paying someone else for temporary exposure supposed to work long-term?

Yes, UGC can get you exposure. Yes, it can help with creative testing and awareness.

But is the exposure actually guaranteed to turn into customers?

Maybe there's a benefit I'm missing here because I genuinely don't get why some brands treat UGC like it's automatically better than building their own social presence.

Especially the canvas UGC stuff where brands want 50 videos for the price of a sandwich

Like… at least pay people properly before you start scaling this shit lol

I’m in marketing, y’all. I can see the business model from a mile away

I wanted to try UGC myself but God said “girl, absolutely not” 🤡

And look, UGC can be great as a side hustle or short term income

But as a long term career? I’m not convinced

You can make money, sure. But you’re constantly trading your time for more deliverables

Unless you’re an actual influencer/creator with a strong audience and can charge for your reach, there’s a ceiling

Seriously, learn marketing. Learn sales. Learn strategy. Learn something that makes your income less dependent on producing 47 videos a week

UGC can be the side quest

Just don’t mistake the side quest for the whole career

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Like you know exactly what you want to change, you even WANT to change it, but something in you just keeps pulling you back?

I feel so disconnected from my body lately

Like, I’ll decide I’m gonna get my shit together, exercise, eat better, take care of myself… and I’ll manage it for a few days

Then suddenly I’m back to binge eating and using food as comfort

And I know damn well I’m doing it because of my emotions. I think I’m just mentally tired at this point. Maybe it’s my nervous system, maybe I’m just struggling more than I realize, idk

The overwhelming part is that I DO want to feel better. I do want to exercise. I do want to eat better. But mentally I can’t seem to make myself care enough to actually stick with it

I know therapy would probably help, but I can’t really afford it right now

And I’m almost 29 next month, which is genuinely fking me up 😭 My 20s are basically almost over and I feel like I’m grieving all the years I feel like I lost

The amount of messages I’ve gotten from a post that literally said “FOR HIRE”…

FROM PEOPLE IN MY SAME PROFESSION…

thinking I’m HIRING

Bruh

I’m starting to crash out because if you don’t know the difference between “for hire” and “hiring,” how are we both out here trying to be professionals???

FOR HIRE = I am available ,Hire me

HIRING = I have money, Come work for me

Please I beg 🤣

Am I being dramatic or would this send you into immediate confusion too?

Y’all… I genuinely thought this was fake. I searched Google multiple times because WHAT 😭

Apparently Chris Watts is reportedly engaged to a woman named Lizzie Henderson, who moved from Ohio to Wisconsin to be closer to the prison where he’s serving his life sentence

Reports say they’ve submitted a marriage request through the prison system, and she has reportedly started using the name “Lizzie Watts.”

And apparently she’s a Black woman

Y’all WHY 😭

WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY

I genuinely need someone to explain the thought process here because WHAT IS GOING ON??

大家好！我侄女还是一名学生，所以旅行预算不是很多。她现在大概有 2000美元的存款，而且从小就一直梦想着去中国旅游。

她计划在中国待 27天，从上海开始，当然也希望顺便去其他几个城市。

你们觉得 2000美元够不够用？ 如果尽量省钱，这笔钱能不能覆盖机票、青旅/酒店、吃饭、交通等所有费用？还是预算太紧了？

另外想请教大家：

• 上海有哪些干净、安全、适合女生一个人住的青旅推荐？

• 因为中国不能直接使用 Google Maps，大家一般用什么 App 或网站找住宿和查看地图？

• 你们建议她提前在网上订好整个行程的住宿，还是只提前订到达后的前两晚，到了上海之后再慢慢找更便宜的青旅/酒店？

如果大家还有其他学生穷游中国的小 tips，也非常欢迎分享！

谢谢大家！

I’m a freelancer myself. I’ve also hired other freelancers for my clients and for things I needed personally

One thing I keep seeing is freelancers being way too pushy after sending a proposal or having a conversation

If I didn’t reply, maybe I got busy. Maybe I lost interest

Maybe I’m talking to someone else. Maybe I just need time to think

I’ve seen the same thing happen with 5 different freelancers, and, it’s annoying

One of the things my own clients have told me they liked about working with me is that I was never pushy. I kept it professional, gave them space, and let them make their decision

I get approvals. I get rejected. That’s normal

If someone says no, I don’t question it. I don’t keep trying to convince them. Not everyone is going to need your service, and that’s okay

I’m not trying to shame anyone here. Maybe you were given some terrible sales advice that told you to “follow up until they respond.”

But please, let people breathe

You don’t need to send 7 messages because someone hasn’t replied

If you’re already working together and you need something from them? Follow up. Obviously

But if they haven’t hired you yet, give them their time

Pushing harder doesn’t magically turn a no into a yes

Sometimes they’ll come back months later

Sometimes they’ll refer you to someone else

I’ve literally experienced both

Learn to let the conversation end without treating every “no” or silence like a sales objection you need to overcome

I’m a freelancer myself. I’ve also hired other freelancers for my clients and for things I needed personally

One thing I keep seeing is freelancers being way too pushy after sending a proposal or having a conversation

If I didn’t reply, maybe I got busy. Maybe I lost interest

Maybe I’m talking to someone else. Maybe I just need time to think

I’ve seen the same thing happen with 5 different freelancers, and, it’s annoying

One of the things my own clients have told me they liked about working with me is that I was never pushy. I kept it professional, gave them space, and let them make their decision

I get approvals. I get rejected. That’s normal

If someone says no, I don’t question it. I don’t keep trying to convince them. Not everyone is going to need your service, and that’s okay

I’m not trying to shame anyone here. Maybe you were given some terrible sales advice that told you to “follow up until they respond.”

But please, let people breathe

You don’t need to send 7 messages because someone hasn’t replied

If you’re already working together and you need something from them? Follow up. Obviously

But if they haven’t hired you yet, give them their time

Pushing harder doesn’t magically turn a no into a yes

Sometimes they’ll come back months later

Sometimes they’ll refer you to someone else

I’ve literally experienced both

Learn to let the conversation end without treating every “no” or silence like a sales objection you need to overcome

Like how does it make sense that we have to stress ourselves out doing our jobs AND somehow learn the skill of 💋 our boss’s 🍑 just so he approves the work??

Lord have mercy. Marketing would actually be fun if we had the freedom to… you know… do the job we were hired to do without needing approval from an inexperienced teacher every five seconds