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Hi ladies ,,,I would like your opinion on sm I just found out I have a father 😭

I found out recently from a psychic imagineeeee .The psychic couldn't pick up his energy from a reading and she told me the one I considered to be my father isn't ..

I asked my mum and she didn't deny she just said so and so wasn't your father but I quickly changed the topic i don't know why I got scacred ,I didn't want to continue the conversation,

But then It started making sense why his name is not on my birth certificate despite all my siblings having the fathers name I had thought it was an era but noo,,, I'm the last born of 4 so basically my siblings are half siblings and the truth may not change anything but damn ,the psychic had said he was young and reckless now I don't know if I should ask for more questions or just continue assuming he is dead the psychic said it's better not to ask but I just want to know who he is or was wouldn't change anything thou

plug me

EDIT; Ladies who have cars how would you describe your purchasing process and if you are considering buying one would you trust a lady more to help you find one or even purchase from ?

Hey pals. This man i call my bf is a die-hard Arsenal fan. Yesterday night they won the league and he decided to celebrate by giving me a whooping 20 rounds worth of shots. Something i have never gotten in my life. Claimed something like they were to mark the 22 years Arsenal had gone trophyless. The last two were not possible because it was already 7 am and i had to leave for work. Gosh! Kutembea ata imekua shida and some collegues are noticing it. Kujiexplain ni ngumu sometimes lol! BEDROOM SHOTS BTW

My boyfriend and I atm don't leave together. He has always suggested we move in together and build together. But most often I decline. I've grow in a toxic family and my mum I believe didn't leave coz she couldn't make ends meet by herself. So I vowed to do things differently and have my own money.

But my bf is of the idea of building together, combining our finances and stuff. Atm I'm saving up to buy land and invest a bit in stocks. I feel if we move in together, it will slow me down. I'm 28 atm so there's also that fear of not settling down early. So for people who've been here before, what's your take?

I would like to start a business, perfume business. Specifically Arabic perfumes. I am in the market for wholesaler. Please lmk if any of you is in the business and any tips and tricks you think are important to know. Or just any important thing I should know before diving in. I want to run it online first before deciding to open a shop.

I have had business that failed before and these have been my lessons,

A business is supposed to make money and that should be your no. 1 goal. I run a lipbalm brand and didn’t consider the money side I purely chose is for aesthetics and vibes because i really enjoy the designing and launching process- getting an idea from the mind to an actual product. Now I have Lots of lipbalms in my house. lmk if any of you want them and I will see how they’ll get to you At a throwaway price of 150/- This has been my biggest Lesson. I have also run a consultancy and had to stop because of pricing. But I think i have learned my lesson.

Also those in business please let us know in the comment section below ( mostly wholesalers ) and we will see how we can support you.

How great would it be if we had a bi weekly watch party, we show up binge watch a great show. Basically book club but for watching movies.

Earlier this month, I saw my friend got a new tattoo it was in Chinese so I couldn't tell what it was. Long story short it's a tattoo of her new bf and if getting that wasn't enough, she didn't actually tattoo his actual name she tattooed one of those ridiculous nicknames boys give themselves. The disgust I've got just YUCK

Hey girlies. What are some loan apps you swear by and would work?

I know they're not a proper option but as it is I really have no other option.

Recently landed something that needs me to pick some things for the collaboration and I'm absolutely at my very end. TIA!

ETA: thank you all for your input, found a workaround so I don't need the loan apps after all! 🫶🏾

I recently went on a first date (last sunday) with a guy I’ve been talking to for a while. The date went well overall good conversation, chemistry, and we’ve been texting since then with more consistency. He even tried to take me out yesterday after work but I was a little tired)

However, there’s a bit of a complicated context:

Before I met him, I had a brief talking stage in 2025 with one of his teammates (pro-athletes). Lets call him Mr. A [25]. I wont go into detail but we went on several dates and i went to his place once. It never became official, there were no sexual relations (We kissed once tho), and it ended pretty casually, we agreed to go our separate ways, but some of the teammates were aware we were talking at the time. I know this coz last year he invited me to some event(Red Room) and some of his teammates were there too and he introduced me to some.

Now I’m worried this could become awkward if things continue developing with this new guy (Mr. B), especially because they’re on the same team and likely friends.

Let me give you a bit of context. Mr. B [27] slide DM'd me this year while he was still in his his country (he is not Kenyan) he told me he comes to Kenya alot. We started talking I knew he was pro-athlete but he told me he is still weighing his options on which team to sign. He was really consistent and all that. One day he told me he is in Nairobi not jusy to visit but long-term because he just signed a contract to play on a team in Kenya. Making him teammates with my failed talking stage in 2025.

I really like him and I can tell there’s mutual interest. We have similar values. But I also don’t want to rush things or create unnecessary complications before there’s clarity and commitment. Because of that, I’ve decided to pace things physically and emotionally.

My questions are:

• Should I mention the past talking stage early, or only if things get more serious?
• Could this realistically affect things between us?
• And how would you personally handle pacing intimacy in a situation like this?

What are your honest perspectives kindly? tl;dr 

36F. I have a married coworker 48M who has had a crush on me for over 1 year now. He's a staunch Christian and everyone respects him. He doesn't drink and rushes home after work. However, when there's no one around at the office, he has told me several times that he likes me. He basically told me that I tempt him. He can't hide his affection for me and now everyone thinks there's something between us. I am also attracted to him, but I have been pushing him away because of his situation.

It's not convenient for him to have people knowing that he likes me. He giggles embarrassingly when I walk in, everyone saw that, he just couldn't help it. I met his wife last year by chance when they were shopping together. Awkward.

Some older colleagues have told me to be careful, one lady even showed me a picture of his wife. He said that married men get tempted all the time but they have a duty not to succumb. I agree with him.

Here's the problem now.

I think I have fallen in love with him. It happened recently when I realised he cared for me beyond just the physical. He's like sunshine in my life. I love his self-restraint, his kindness, his smile. I know it would hurt him if he cheated, that's why I can't let it happen. We are magnetically drawn to each other yet we have all these barriers keeping us apart. I can only be with him if he ends up unmarried.

I choose to thank the universe for this love that has healed me, and hope to one day meet someone just like him. It hurts, but he's still the sunshine in my life.

TL;DR - Mutual love, attraction and care with married coworker. I love him too much, so I can't be with him.

Random question: would you guys consider it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn’t performoral sex on you? Like totally.

After almost 1.5 years of being in a relationship it has come to an end. Saying I am broken would be an understatement. I saw my future with this person; a family, achieving our goals and building a meaningful life together.

All that came tumbling down when I found out that he cheated. I confronted him and decided that this wasn't for me anymore.

What kills me is the fact that in their conversations with the other lady, he would make it clear how he can't see her at certain times coz I was around. And the girl would abide. They had even gotten to a point of Sharing nudes and having late night video calls to experience each other some more.

Of course even with no evidence I knew something was off and that's when my fears were confirmed. I have fought my demons with the guy and said my peace. But sasa swali yangu ni yes the man owes me loyalty and not the girl.

But how do you as a woman know there is someone else involved and still go on and entertain the guy and push for your side thing to keep happening? Na hata in this situation it's just sex no money involved juu he wasn't giving her that from all the conversations I saw.

:Don't you want someone that is just yours?

: How does it sit with you mtu akikuambia Leo usicall bibi Ako around?

: Do you really think the situation trough ama it's just for the moment?

: and many more questions I am trying to understand.

To the best of my knowledge I have never been a side chick so I would want to know.

Hi ladies,just wanted to ask what products or tips or at home diys you used to grow ur hair and if there are any safe salons which actually treat hair well in nairobi...

I've gotten to that stage in a relationship where 'mko tu'. Our sex life sucks. I've tried talking to him about it but nothing has changed. I complained about the frequency, he said anataka kumove na time line yangu. Like he'll be waiting for me to initiate. I said no to that. It has to be team work. He initiated once that is after sijui how long.. actually mimi ndio nili initiate coz I told him to wake me up after he's done with work (he works at night. Dev). Na ilikua shot moja.

So, frequency imepunguka na quantity pia ni kidogo. I resorted to wanking akiwa hapo kando yangu amelala.

Also, I'm 100% sure he isn't getting it from elsewhere.

What do I do, coz wanking only works to an extent. I've started entertaining thoughts of stepping out. I think we've had sex 5 times this year. No action for the whole of last month.

Sometimes when I'm in the mood he does some dumb shit that completely turns me off, misses the cue or tells me straight up that he isn't in the mood 🤦🏾‍♀️. I'm becoming involuntarily celibate 😭.

Oh how I miss my hoe days. We've lived together 3yrs now. Kuna bore uku.

Update guys.

I brought up the conversation and told him how we've reached a plateau in this relationship. Well he says his biggest factor is money. He freelances so gigs are shifty. So akipata pesa he prioritises buying things for the house ndio zituskume. So in between his gigs I step in financially and tbh budget haiwezi accommodate entertainment. I've told him we can sacrifice ata kama ni once a month we get out of the house and do something. He's cool with it but tone yake doesn't sound promising. Maybe I'm reading too much into it but we'll see how things go.

Married woman here just ranting.

After years together, things slowed down in the bedroom, which I know happens. But after my husband went through cancer treatment, our sex life basically went to zero. I’m in my late 30s, he’s in his 50s, and sometimes I genuinely wonder… is this just it for the rest of my life? Celibacy?

And before people say “sex isn’t everything” — I know that. Also sex is not just penetrative. Intimacy, affection, effort, feeling desired… all of that matters too. That’s the part that hurts the most. I feel unwanted, unseen, and honestly like he just doesn’t care about my needs at all.

What makes it harder is that he’s also extremely insecure, so any attempt to talk about this turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or tension. After a while you stop bringing it up because you feel guilty complaining when someone survived cancer… but you’re still a human being with emotional and physical needs.

I don’t even know what I’m asking here. Maybe I just needed to say it somewhere people might understand.