r/Feminism

Restrictions on women’s rights have expanded in Afghanistan since U.S. forces withdrew from the country five years ago, ceding control to the Taliban in the process. Afghan women are banned from attending schools and gyms, books written by women are removed from libraries, doctors and nurses are unable to practice, and child marriage rates have increased. Wives have been rendered legally subordinate to their husbands, and women are required to stay silent in public. “Women and girls of Afghanistan are suffering the most darkest situation in the world,” says Negina Yari, an Afghan women’s rights activist living in exile in Germany, who discusses the impacts of what some advocacy groups are characterizing as “gender apartheid,” as well as the effects of regional diplomatic normalization on the Taliban’s political influence.

so ive been really insecure about my nose since i was like 11 years old and now that im an adult the insecurity hasn’t gone away, but i have the ability to save up and get a nose job. but i feel like getting an invasive procedure to make my nose “smaller” and conform to what society deems as “more feminine”/beautiful/cute would go against feminist principles as most beauty standards for women are pedophilic (hairless body, big eyes, “innocent” look, small figure) and colonialist (speaking from my own pov, for asian people they always prefer pale women over dark skinned women and women with lighter hair and colored eyes are also praised and seen as more beautiful and unique).

idk, do i learn to live with it or should i get the surgery? i feel like i’d be going against my own principles if i get it but living like this has become miserable, and i feel like i should just get rid of it and that maybe i’d be happier if i just got the surgery. thoughts?

I wrote a line in my book The Last Stand of a Queen that says, "A girl with an excess of knowledge was referred to as arrogant." And honestly, I feel like this still happens now. Girl can study, speak clearly, know the facts, and still get called bossy, or arrogant. Why is confidence praised in boys but treated like a problem in girls?

I grew up completely brainwashed in an ultra Conservative Christian household. I have multiple family members who are big names in Republican politics. I was severely abused growing up, homeschooled, most everyone in my family was deeply misogynistic. Embarrassingly, I identified as a Conservative for a lot of my adult life, and I’m kind of unpacking that it’s because I learned that the only time I got any type of positive attention growing up was when I pretended to care about politics and parroted back all of my family’s Conservative talking points. I cringe so much thinking back to my early 20s, because I was insufferable and ignorant about so many things. I did what I was supposed to, got married and started having children. I love my children and do not regret becoming a mother, but the rawness of postpartum and motherhood in general really opened my eyes up to how much society hates women and now I can’t unsee it. Especially have an autistic child (and now believing that I am also autistic). I can’t unsee how much motherhood is pushed on women, and then almost as soon as they become mothers society treats them like used trash and completely forgets about them. Expects them just to suffer in silence and swallow drugs to make them tolerate their inhumane conditions. (Of course this happens to all women in different stages of life, not just mothers) I have a great husband, truly, but even he is not immune to how much society fails women and it makes me resent him even though he truly listens to everything I say, agrees with me, and is working so hard to learn and grow and become the best version of himself. Even the best men are raised completely ignorant to what women go through every day. I feel resentment to all the men I’ve ever known, I don’t even know if any of them truly liked me, or they just wanted to sleep with me. I started noticing that whenever I’d post a selfie on social media my inbox and likes and comments would be blown up in minutes, yet if I speak about a subject that’s important to me or how I’m feeling, it’s complete crickets. I feel like my whole world has fallen apart and it’s hard to know what to do about it. I’ve been no contact with my family for 2 years now. I’ve grown apart from so many of my friends, because I have nothing in common with them anymore. I just feel angry and confused and don’t know where to go from here. I know I have a lot of trauma and emotions to work through. It’s just been such a destabilizing experience to realize that everything I thought I knew was an outright lie and I hate that my daughters have to grow up in a world like this. Anyways I’m not even really sure what my point is, but I had to type this out somewhere so thank you to anyone who read this.

This is something that always pissed me off, especially during winters. Do people think we don't feel cold or something? WHY ARE WOMEN'S FULL SLEEVE T SHIRTS/HOODIES MUCH MUCH THINNER THAN MEN'S? ITS NOT LIKE THEY ARE THE ONES WHO NATURALLY WILL FEEL MORE COLD. Sometimes the only good options I have are the sparkly cropped zipped hoodie and the rainbow + hearts thin sweatshirt. No shade to those who like it, thats great, BUT WHY LABEL IT BASED ON GENDER?

GOD FORBID I WANT MY CLOTHES TO KEEP ME WARM DURING WINTER AND FIT MY STYLE. I recently got very mad about this while browsing some spiderman themed clothes on a clothing website and of course, the men's shirts/t-shirts had cool, badass, spiderman related design and clothes while the women's had...one small pink web?

I have always wanted to check out the men's section in clothing stores but because of all the societal norms + having social anxiety it feels super mentally challenging to. Its as if people will start muttering amongst themselves as soon as I make my way over there (i know that wont be the case but it is an irrational fear).

Have you ever faced this? I'd really love to see what other people did in my situation.

I saw a post talking about "if a girl has a body count, would you date them?"

Obviously, whatever gender, if you have a preference to have a partner who hasn't been with someone before, that's fine. But the comments were full of these INSULTS. Even saying that men who don't mind that are cucks and losers. Like seriously how hard is it to have your own values and not shit on other people for having a different mindset?

And I know this has been thought of by others before but it really is so annoying that women are expected to be virgins to be a good wife but men can fuck around all they want. It's crazy how they think a woman's value automatically drops to garbage if they've had sexual partners before. Like yeah it doesn't matter if you're successful or the kindest person ever, if you've had sex before marriage then it must mean you're not actually worth anything! They want the perfect wife who has a hot body, a virgin, doesn't talk back, will do house chores on the daily, when they themselves don't even deserve it.

I'm literally so sick of it all. My breaking point today was when I saw an offmychest post in my country, a girl talking about how she's proud of herself for finally stopping hooking up that she did bc of self-esteem issues. And I was so happy for her too, I opened the comments and I kid you not, the replies were full of men talking about it doesn't matter if she stopped, she'll always be "a hoe." How her future partner would be unlucky to have her. And the amount of likes those comments have????

I feel horrible that I wasn't able to message op to remind her to not mind those incels because she deleted the post before I got her username. I wonder if the day'll ever come even in hundreds of years where women won't have to be subjected to this bs.

I'm so tired of this rhetoric. I get treated like shit because I'm unnatractive all the time and it pisses me off tbh.

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