Title basically... have a long awaited holiday coming up and I wouldn't be the best at shopping so I need inspiration.
Please help!
ETA: Thanks everyone! Seems the consensus is shorts and a bra, will get those then. Humankind isn't available to me so I'll just grab something from Asos/M&S.
I'm in between 2 books, I've got the fire place sound in the background, a cup of green tea & my boys laying with me ( 2 black cats) 🔥
I need to change careers asap lmao
Just wanna rant…apologies if my language isn’t polished.
I’m a feminine lesbian, I’ve only dated 2 women, both feminine women, both outside of my race. Each time, I was shoved into the more masculine role/always expected to top/be dominant. Keep in mind…I’m an extremely bubbly black woman, I’m capable of being dominant, but I’ve never been truly allowed to be submissive like I’ve always desired.
My last ex was a fake lesbian. So it makes sense why I was always pushed into this role. It’s been a while, but I’m still so triggered now that I’m dating again - it keeps happening!
I find myself in the same situation dating women in and outside of my race. I’m extremely turned off from women at the first sign they might be doing this to me. I can’t be that for anyone anymore, I can’t be the one constantly taking care of things or taking control. I’m naturally an acts of >!services person, but for once, I really do want to be cherished and cared for. I don’t know how to exactly explain it - I feel masculinized, which is difficult for me as a black feminine woman. It just makes me feel like someone’s mammy. I want to be someone’s woman, I want to be cherished and allowed to be submissive. I’ve had a hard life and for once, I want to fully allow myself to put my guard down and not feel the need to be so high strung.!<
I’m super clear on the apps about what I want sexually (to be topped, for the first time!!!!) but I feel like this goes beyond a sexual dynamic that I can’t quite articulate in a bio. I yearn for a partner who will make me feel safe enough to bring the caregiver out in me - I don’t want an uneven dynamic, I just want to feel like I’m equally being cared for.
Anyone else been in this spot before?