r/blacklesbians

hey lesbians! i’m 26, from new jersey and looking to leave my hometown. still exploring my options but i’m heavily considering the norfolk area. i’m somewhat familiar with virginia bc i’ve visited family but never on my own. how’s your experience been being black and queer? everyday life in public, healthcare, opportunity for career growth? any tips or recommendations? i do prefer a more lowkey vibe- so would it be worth looking at an area like suffolk or wburg? i’ll be taking a trip there soon to feel it out, but just wanted to ask y’all first.

I’m a 28F looking for more lesbian/ queer friends! I’m very outgoing, I like talking about different topics, social issues, current events, life, ANYTHING! I’m definitely not a dry texter and I don’t mind being on the phone either! My messages are open, let’s chat!

PS: I’m open to traveling!

Are femme baddies that have a non-nonsense aura & a sense of unshakeable certainty about themselves. 🤷🏿‍♀️ the most zaddy of them all

I love perspective writing! And being a Black lesbian! So here’s a piece I wrote about one of my fantasies from the perspective of those I have fantasized about. ENJOYYYY.

She’s had an attitude all day…all week now that I think of it, and I know exactly why. She stomps around, eyebrows concave as the shiny gloss on her lips push further away from her face. I love this game she plays, she changes the atmosphere between us and leaves me to fix it, leaves me to make it right, because she knows I’ll do anything for her. She’s my everything.

She’s not as tough as she portrays herself to be, at-least not with me. I call to her once and only once. Watching her cross her arms over the shirt she has on, the shirt that ironically came from my dresser drawer. She’s the worst, this little attitude of hers.

She saunters over. Her aura, heated as she glares up at me. I applaud her for upholding this facade for so long. In anything she does, she always does such a good job. She huffs as I return the glare down on her. I lower my mouth to her ear. She wants to reach to touch me but her pride holds her back. I open my mouth, thick breath lingering on her neck, “What’s your problem?” I got her.

She’s as fragile as fine china, breaking down as she apologizes for the chip on her shoulder. Snaking my arms around her waist as she whines and whimpers into my chest. She makes me laugh, this superfluous bravado finally crumbles.

She just wanted my touch, only wanted my smell, extra needy for my attention which, of course, she’d never admit. Watching my world come apart in my palms as I melt along with it. She’s so pretty. I pull her even closer, reciprocating the heat between us. She looks up at me once more with soft, misty eyes, this time full of remorse. Oh, she’s so so sorry…and it’s about time I show her how much her apology means to me.

I swear its a black people drought where I am. I live an hour from Springfield, Missouri. Anyone else in the area desperately looking for other black lesbians😭😭 I be on Tinder and Taimi and its a sea of white people. I dont wanna hang out with the clear folk. PLEASE IS ANYONE OUT THERE?!?

Honestly just looking for other les friends. That’s simple. I’m 31/f. I can absolutely hold a convo & I have quite a few interests and inquiries about life and people lol anyone wanting to pick up a new buddy hmu!

hey y'all i'm bored, do you have a coming out story that's genuinely hilarious? from you or someone else? (unfortunately my experience wasn't funny/positive at all, but i'd love to hear from y'all)

I’m suffocating under the weight of my heterosexual friendships, I need to be surrounded by authentic queer friendships. Not fwbs, hookups, exes, I want some genuine friendships. Put me in a groupchat or let’s make one right now. I’m 29, black, lesbian from Florida with no children or pets. I don’t smoke but I’m a social drinker. I love gaming, going to hockey games, pickleball, atv/bike riding, springs, anything with adrenaline except coasters that go upside down. I’ll watch anything from twilight to anime to criminal minds. I like long walks and watching predators get caught on YouTube. Let’s be friends.

I'm not going to post a picture, but I look much younger than I am. (I'm approaching my late 30s and often get mistaken for a teenager when I work in secondary schools and I get a lot of shocked looks when I reveal my age. I don't know what to do. No one thinks I'm in their age range and folks I'm attracted to (40+) often disregard me. I'm nicely dressed (femme/chic) when I'm out and about, but I still think my baby face throws people off. What have yall with other young faces done about this?

Edit: To clarify I'm okay with my baby face but this is mainly in regards to dating.

Life is lifing. How’s your mental health this week? Good, bad, in shambles? Drop in and share. No pressure.

I am a transmasculine lesbian, and I’m not trying to brag, but wow. I have such great sex. I rarely ever receive because I genuinely prefer to give. I’m just so good at what I do that it’s a bit addicting. Hearing a woman moan in my ear, feeling her nails digging into my back from pleasure, and being called daddy, sir, etc. is so gender-affirming for me and my fem.

I also lift heavy, stretch often, and do deep mobility drills, especially for hip mobility, so I’m always told my dick is good.

Every time I talk to another lesbian, they’re usually sure to at least cum with their partner, but so many couples and lesbians in general seem to miss out on so much in the bedroom, and I’m happy to oblige. I prefer older women, 35+, even though I’m 26. There’s something about their confidence, knowing what they want, and actually going for it that I really like.

Not only that, but they tend to have more experience with mascs who aren’t just gender-nonconforming, but who also don’t identify with or relate to womanhood.

I don’t want to settle down anytime soon, and I have no plans to. I enjoy multiple women and having safe, consensual, sensual relationships. It’s unfortunate that most lesbians I talk to don’t seem to have the same experiences sexually. I’m not even referring to having multiple partners, but just having great sex in general, whether it’s with long-term or short-term partners.

I understand that not everyone cares about sex, but if it’s important to you, even when you don’t realize it’s important, experimenting and learning your own body is very valuable for your relationship with yourself.

In fact, how I had sex before I even knew I was nonbinary was a direct result of how I wanted to be seen as a partner. My sexual life is heavily affected by my daily life, identity and expression, as well as mutual connections and relationships.

Hey ladies,
So I'm going through a break up it's been four months now and I've been in a huge funk. Could you guys please comment some songs that make you feel like you're That Bitch when you're feeling down? 😩🩷

Thank you