r/SingleAndHappy

Hi, Found this on a anti sex industry account on instagram, it’s from a 2025 study and I’ve translated it from Swedish down below (the statistics is from people who has been filmed in the Swedish porn industry):

• 84% had PTSD
• 65% were raped when filmed for porn
• 69% had attempted at least one Suicide attempt
• 77% was exploited for the first time in porn as children
• 88% was subjected to sexual assault as children
• 96% was subjected to assault/abuse as children
• 51% had been choked during the production
• 33% had been tortured during the production
• 45% had some form of disability
• 86% had been part of "traditional" prostitution (Source: Donevan, Jonsson, & Svedin 2025 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/08039488.2025.2464634?needAccess=true)

And these statistics are from Sweden, a so called “equal” country where “buying sex” is illegal. (Sorry if something is unclear or grammatically incorrect)

I'm reaching 29 soon, and I never really experienced anything romantic or anything sexual before.

I've realized that this fact won't ever change but I'm wondering if it gets weirder to be 'alone' throughout the years.. There isn't anyone that I've met that I had real interest in, but I'm not asexual, I've come to embrace the time that I have by myself, and try to refrain myself from interacting with others.

How do you handle the fact that you'll be 'alone' for the rest of your life?

"It's so strange when I get told I have too high of standards because like why would I willingly make my life worse for the sake of a relationship?"

~ quote from Pinterest comments section

I am single and unmarried, and so many people have told me that I need to learn to compromise if I wanna be in a romantic relationship and get married.

But that's the thing. I don't wanna be in a relationship. So why do I need to compromise? 😭 Like, why would I voluntarily make myself miserable?

I might be neurodivergent (unsure, I do think I could have ADHD) and I honestly don't understand why do people make relationships sound so miserable while simultaneously trying to sell them. Like do they think they are sharing pearls of wisdom by telling me to compromise and to settle?

I think we already compromise in other areas of our life. Jobs are a great example of this.

But it's a compromise I'm willing to make because the benefits are worth it (autonomy and financial independence). And we live in a society where we literally need money to survive.

I honestly don't see what's so good about compromising for a romantic relationship. It's not necessary for our well-being. In fact, it can actually be harmful based on my past experiences.

Anyway, everyday I become more at peace with my single life of peace and freedom as I grow older, and people's comments bother me less and less ☺️💜

I am in love right now. I’m in love with myself. I went on a short trip out of town and got a vintage photobooth strip of myself making faces. I now use it as a bookmark for my daily journal. Every time I look at it, I remember this. An extremely bright, pretty & smart person is around and it’s me. I didn’t think the day would come when I’d be so happy to be myself. I’m someone I can be proud of. When my black & white face with the big cheese grins back at me, I fall in love all over again.

Checkers is a boring game and one of my least favorites. But he chose the game so I had to go first which is a disadvantage but I played along because I love games, even when I lose at any game it's still fun with the right people. Anyway, I lost although he almost lost by a little. Normally, I don't really care if I win or lose but my body was very reactive during the whole game, like alarm bells ringing, I was triggered and couldn't understand why until he started making fun of me and being micro-aggressive like trying to degrade me and uplifting himself. I ended up flat out saying that I don't like prideful people.
And he responded with a fake "sorry" and a ridiculous excuse "iTs bEcaUse iM aN aThLEte" No. I blocked him. I'm not doing this AGAIN. I’ve felt this before with an abusive ex so I know the signs. All abusive men are prideful aka narcissistic.
I can feel my body right now is in fight or flight still and I hate it. I had a healthy, yummy dinner and was watching an interesting Netflix doc and he ruined my night. he reminded me why being single is way better and peaceful.

Just got out of a 1 year relationship and I am certain now that I never want to be in a relationship ever again. Before I started dating my ex I had been single for 5 years and those 5 years were the best and hardest times of my life. But they were mine. I grew so much, experienced life exactly how I wanted to on my terms and genuinely loved being on my own. As much as I liked my me time I still wanted to eventually find a relationship so I was intentionally dating during that time. I eventually started seriously dating someone who was pretty great but I was mourning my old life the entire time we were together. I missed my routine. i could no longer do the things that used to bring me so much joy because now there was someone else in my life I would have to consider. Their preferences, wants and needs became a part of my decision making process. After breaking up I am so happy to be back in my old routine. I don't think I want to give that up or have to adjust it for anyone ever again. I have some really great friends and family and am fulfilled with those relationships. For the first time in my life, I am pretty excited at the thought of spending my life without someone by my side.