u/TheLone_wolf11

Meron din kaya ditong ibang nakakaexperience ng ganito? I am in my late 20s now, but nothing has really changed mula noon.

Every time I go out alone, palaging may instance na kakausapin ako, iaapproach, o 'di kaya susundan pauwi (this is the worst) while saying some stuff and trying to initiate a conversation, trying to compliment me, but you know a genuine one from something na medyo lustful na. Madalas, lalaki 'to na mga 30+ to mala-manong. Minsan marami, minsan mag isa, minsan nkamotor o sasakyan, mdalas mga lakad....

I've done almost everything to avoid this simula noong nalaman ko na madalas akong maganito, elementary pa lang. Mga nasubukan ko na: nagpapahatid sa guy friends pauwi (or pag wala, girl and gay friends), changed routes, and adjusted my clothing/style...although I have been on the boyish style already while growing up. I also tried to pretend that I was talking to someone on the phone mdlas Daddy or Kuya kunwari ang kausap. This worked sometimes, but what ultimately worked was when I was in a relationship. Now, it has been years na hindi ako in a relationship puro LDR lang, at nanumbalik na naman 'yong ganito. Pero ayoko nang pumasok sa relationship dahil lang dito...

Naka-sanayan ko na tuloy na when I get home, or pag malapit na, I always look left and right before I go in. Hindi na ako natahimik; hindi na ako nakakalabas nang maayos. Now, I always have to bother someone pag may kailangan akong puntahan. I have tried booking a car or motor, but same fate... People seem to abuse and torture the quiet ones palagi. Nakakalungkot na parang wala nang lunas kundi lumabas ng may kasama o not lumabas at all... Marami na yung mga pang self defense na nabili ko but on the top of my head, I am still afraid to use them siyempre.

Mapa-lalaki, babae, o part ng LGBTQIA+, wala talagang ligtas sa ganito. Kailan kaya mauubos ang bastos?

To be clear, I am not even mad or anything, I am genuinely just curious. I understand that some are focused on what others might say or do to their child (bata/teen/adult). They might get bullied, shamed, etc. Enlighten me po!

Yung TOTOO lang pls🙏

To that one lesbian that I loved nung high school,

You were my gay awakening. I just want you to know that. Baka wala kang Reddit, so this is my chance to say this for once and maybe leave this here for good.

A little backstory: there was a school event that I attended noon and everyone got drunk and wasted. Long story short, medyo tanga ako noon and I was SA'd (sexually assaulted). You knew about it the next day and you didn't waste time, ikaw ang gumanti para sa akin, and that moment taught me that love didn't have boundaries. The way you cared for me, kahit alam kong you were naturally sweet to everyone, I treasured that until now. Naalala ko kung paano mo ako alagaan, kausapin, at unahin. That kind of love, for me, ended there. I never knew anyone in my life who loved me as much as you did then.

Para lang alam mo, I did love you. Alam ko, alam mo 'yan. Years passed, we went our separate ways, and I tried to look for you in everyone that I dated next. No one came close. Lumipas ang mga taon, nabaon sa limot 'yon, and I managed to blend in sa straight world, knowing damn well that I wasn't.

For the record, alam kong hindi mo alam 'to... but you lived in every story that I have shared among my closest friends now. If you only knew how much I loved you then and how proud I am na meron akong ikaw noon. You were my safest space. Hinanap kita, yes. Para lang alam mo. :) Mahalaga ka sa akin, sobra, you always have been.

Hinanap kita, but I never reached out because you were already in a relationship. A strong and stable one. I knew that I could never offer you that stability, so I had to silence and distance myself kasi masaya ka na. I saw how happy you were and how you were cared for. Naitrato ka nang tama. Minahal ka, kasi kamahal-mahal ka. And for that, I somehow found peace. Naiiyak ako kainis.

We never had any closure, or meron siguro at hindi ko lang naalala, pero minahal kita noon. Parte 'yon ng pagkatao ko hanggang ngayon. Leaving this here now, dahil more than 15 years na rin yata ang nakaraan.

GOODBYE, JA

Note: Dear Admins and Mods, please remove po if not allowed. Thanks po.

To that one lesbian that I loved nung high school, --- Hoping na mabasa mo to,

You were my gay awakening. I just want you to know that. Baka wala kang Reddit, so this is my chance to say this for once and maybe leave this here for good.

A little backstory: there was a school event that I attended noon and everyone got drunk and wasted. Long story short, medyo tanga ako noon and I was SA'd (sexually assaulted). You knew about it the next day and you didn't waste time, ikaw ang gumanti para sa akin, and that moment taught me that love didn't have boundaries. The way you cared for me, kahit alam kong you were naturally sweet to everyone, I treasured that until now. Naalala ko kung paano mo ako alagaan, kausapin, at unahin. That kind of love, for me, ended there. I never knew anyone in my life who loved me as much as you did then.

Para lang alam mo, I did love you. Alam ko, alam mo 'yan but I did not say it as often as you did back then. Years passed, we went our separate ways, and I tried to look for you in everyone that I dated next. No one came close. Lumipas ang mga taon, nabaon sa limot 'yon, and I managed to blend in sa straight world, knowing damn well that I wasn't.

For the record, alam kong hindi mo alam 'to... but you lived in every story that I have shared among my closest friends now. If you only knew how much I loved you then and how proud I am na meron akong ikaw noon. You were my safest space. Hinanap kita, yes. Para lang alam mo din. :) Mahalaga ka sa akin, sobra, you always have been.

Hinanap kita, but I never reached out because you were already in a relationship. A strong and stable one. I knew that I could never offer you that stability, so I had to silence and distance myself kasi masaya ka na. I saw how happy you were and how you were cared for. Naitrato ka nang tama. Minahal ka, kasi kamahal-mahal ka. And for that, I somehow found peace. Naiiyak ako kainis!

We never had any closure, or meron siguro at hindi ko lang naalala, pero minahal kita noon. Parte 'yon ng pagkatao ko hanggang ngayon. Leaving this here now, dahil more than 15 years na rin yata ang nakaraan.

GOODBYE, JA

NOTE: Dear Admins and Mods, if not allowed, kindly take it down nalang po, salamat!

To that one lesbian that I loved nung high school,

You were my gay awakening. I just want you to know that. Baka wala kang Reddit, so this is my chance to say this for once and maybe leave this here for good.

A little backstory: there was a school event that I attended noon and everyone got drunk and wasted. Long story short, medyo tanga ako noon and I was SA'd (sexually assaulted). You knew about it the next day and you didn't waste time, ikaw ang gumanti para sa akin, and that moment taught me that love didn't have boundaries. The way you cared for me, kahit alam kong you were naturally sweet to everyone, I treasured that until now. Naalala ko kung paano mo ako alagaan, kausapin, at unahin. That kind of love, for me, ended there. I never knew anyone in my life who loved me as much as you did then.

Para lang alam mo, I did love you. Alam ko, alam mo 'yan. Years passed, we went our separate ways, and I tried to look for you in everyone that I dated next. No one came close. Lumipas ang mga taon, nabaon sa limot 'yon, and I managed to blend in sa straight world, knowing damn well that I wasn't.

For the record, alam kong hindi mo alam 'to... but you lived in every story that I have shared among my closest friends now. If you only knew how much I loved you then and how proud I am na meron akong ikaw noon. You were my safest space. Hinanap kita, yes. Para lang alam mo. :) Mahalaga ka sa akin, sobra, you always have been.

Hinanap kita, but I never reached out because you were already in a relationship. A strong and stable one. I knew that I could never offer you that stability, so I had to silence and distance myself kasi masaya ka na. I saw how happy you were and how you were cared for. Naitrato ka nang tama. Minahal ka, kasi kamahal-mahal ka. And for that, I somehow found peace. Naiiyak ako kainis.

We never had any closure, or meron siguro at hindi ko lang naalala, pero minahal kita noon. Parte 'yon ng pagkatao ko hanggang ngayon. Leaving this here now, dahil more than 15 years na rin yata ang nakaraan.

GOODBYE, JA

The Top Contenders accdg to my research.

1. Din Djarin (*The Mandalorian*)

The Pitch:

Unconditional loyalty, excellent dad energy, and fantastic practical skill set (can fix ships, navigate hyperlanes, and handle high-stress situations). Plus, you get Grogu as part of the package.

The Green Flags:

Highly protective, respects boundaries, strong moral code.

The Catch: The helmet stays on during dinner, and he’s constantly on the run from imperial remnants.

2. Obi-Wan Kenobi

The Pitch: Peak charm, flawless beard maintenance, and world-class banter. He’s the personification of composure under fire.

The Green Flags: Empathetic, incredible active listener, says *"Hello there"* when entering a room.

The Catch: Heavy Jedi Code baggage, emotional suppression, and high risk of literally ghosting you to live as a hermit on Tatooine.

3. Cassian Andor

The Pitch: The ultimate "ride-or-die." Capable, deeply passionate, grounded, and intensely committed to the causes and people he cares about.

The Green Flags: Unwavering dedication; looks great in a jacket.

The Catch: A simple coffee date will accidentally turn into an anti-imperial espionage mission.

4. Padmé Amidala

The Pitch: Brilliant diplomat, sharp-witted, insanely stylish, and genuinely cares about making the galaxy a better place.

The Green Flags: Intelligent, classy, leader of a planet by age 14—absolute power couple material.

The Catch: Terribly blind to red flags in partners (overlooked *several* warning signs in Anakin).

5. Lando Calrissian

The Pitch: High glamour, unmatched charisma, owns a city in the clouds, and has a cape for every day of the week.

The Green Flags: Great host, smooth operator, top-tier wardrobe.

The Catch: Might gamble away your anniversary present in a high-stakes Sabacc game.

---------- But personally,

Poe Dameron belongs right at the top of my list 🤭

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The Pitch: Effortlessly charming, insanely skilled behind the wheel (or flight stick), and oozing natural golden-retriever energy. He’s the guy who hands you his leather jacket because he thinks you look cool in it, then proceeds to pull off a impossible drift in an X-wing just to show off.

The Green Flags:

Top-tier banter: Handles high-stress interrogations with Kylo Ren by asking, "Who talks first? You talk first, I talk first?"

Loyal to a fault: Rides for his friends without hesitation, whether that's breaking Finn out of a Star Destroyer or taking on the entire First Order fleet.

Pet/Droid person: Treats BB-8 like a prized family member. 🥹🥰

The Red Flags tho:

Rebel without a pause: Has a habit of disobeying direct orders from superiors (like General Holdo) when he thinks he knows better.

Spice Runner past: Has a slightly chaotic history on Kijimi that he only brings up when cornered. 😶‍🌫️

WHO'S YOURS?