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I’m feeling really bummed out. Everything happens later in the day at my school. There’s a cool event happening tonight at 7PM but I have to work from 2PM to 10PM. I can’t just call out because I want to go to a school event. :/ It’s not like it’d help my grade or it’s for class, it’s just something for potential research opportunities.

I need to work because I pay bills and I need to maintain an hourly average for health insurance. I can’t do work study mainly because I’m not eligible but also because I need to work more than 12 hours a week and I also need health insurance. Some of those listings are for 8 hours a week 😳

I’m not asking for advice or any ideas, just expressing my frustration.

I told a professor I have been struggling with my mental health and ADHD lately. I don’t have a very good support system at all, i tend to deal with all of this completely alone.

She pulled me aside after class and told me that every time we have class (once a week) she will let me stay behind after class is over to get any assignments started or personal tasks (like schedule an appointment) done and told me she is always here for me if I need to talk.

I did not cry in the moment but I wanted to. I didn’t know professors could be so kind like this in college. I just wanted to share my experience

Instead of spending my evenings studying, spending time with my aging mom, or taking care of myself, I get to spend it getting yelled at by some stupid idiot asshole who got his first car for $500 in the 60s and dealing with my coworkers

All for some billionaire who has never step foot in a pharmacy who is besties with a bunch of politicians and probably has committed crimes that the human mind can’t begin to comprehend the rationality of could save another $15 on top of his billions!

I hate this so much. I hate this life I live but I have no choice

I know sometimes some people confuse pharmacy techs for pharmacists or whatever. But I genuinely don’t understand why SOME PEOPLE think we get paid well and this is some glamorous job with amazing benefits or something. I don’t know pharmacists themselves get paid enough for this but I think it’s a separate discussion.

I tell people I’m trying to work in food service again and quit pharmacy because it pays more and they’re shocked, as if my job is some highly regarded career or like going to work in the service industry is a step below. When I worked in food service previously, I could make anywhere from $600 to $1000 a WEEK. The hours were pretty long but I worked 3 shifts a week (the weekends), 4 shifts MAX. I’m lucky if I make $500 working 4 shifts a week for two weeks at my job.

I’m annoyed. I hate this job

I just started learning Chinese and the hanzi is the hardest part for me. My handwriting is terrible. It is a little discouraging honestly but I’m going to keep practicing because that is the only way to get better. But I was curious to know how long it took anyone here to get better, especially if they started from nothing.

Just wondering because it seems like some people are struggling with this. Had a professor stand in silence during a sophomore level lecture waiting for people to be quiet like this was high school. Genuinely so disrespectful for the students trying to learn and to the professor. Is the next generation cooked?

If you can comment your tips for managing your mental health in college for me or for other people, that’d be awesome

Currently struggling a lot with depression and ideation. It makes it very hard to keep going with college.

I don’t know how to word this at all, sorry in advance. I might be onto nothing.

If you are not aware, Amherst gets an average of 60 inches of snow a year. The mall went under and is set to be demolished. However, just down Niagara Falls Blvd, there is The Boulevard, an outdoor shopping center. There are multiple stores - Target, Best Buy, Barnes & Noble, ULTA, Sephora, Shake Shack, Marshalls/TJ Maxx/Home Goods, Crumbl Cookie, Nordstrom Rack, Dicks House of Sport… etc etc. They are also building a Costco in the area. Don’t some of these stores seem like decent tenants for a mall?

Do you guys think (or know if) there is a reason why in such a snowy climate an outdoor shopping center seems to be doing so well, while the mall ultimately failed? I am a Buffalo resident, I love the winters here but running errands is lowkey a nightmare when it snows. As far as I know, a lot of Buffalonians do not like the winters here. I personally hate running errands snow or shine but if I had to pick between an outdoor shopping center or a mall, I’d pick a mall. Also it’s probably safer too because I imagine there less chance of slipping on ice and less pedestrians (because they’re walking from their car to the mall, not from store to store).

Also, I still miss the Cheeburger Cheeburger that was there.

My dad and I aren’t all that close, he’s more like a friend I talk to sometimes than a father. He has lived far from me my whole life. We talk sometimes

He offered to pay for my transportation to visit him on his birthday. I would be seeing my extended family on his side for the first time in over a decade as well as my grandmother who is in her 90s. It would be a 3 day trip, me leaving Friday and returning home Sunday.

My mom has surgery the following Monday. I promised her I would drive her to and from the surgery. It’s not a life changing surgery, its one of those surgeries that is medical but you don’t HAVE to get it (but it’d help if you did). I want to make sure my mom is OK. I was her caregiver while she had cancer and I’m honestly just worried about her. She said if I leave Sunday, she’ll have to reschedule her surgery because she doesn’t trust that I will make it home on time (I am not driving, I’m either flying or going by train). She is adamant that either she reschedules the surgery, I don’t go that week (he hasn’t given me an option to visit him later) or my she will find someone else to take her. We have no immediate family in the area so she was going to ask her friends.

My thoughts? I would like to see my dad, I’d like to see his (my) family again. I’d also be meeting his wife. But my mom has taken care of me all of my life and I feel a sense of loyalty for her. If I see my father, I’d also be missing out on more class than I’d have to just to travel there and back. I think I’d be missing a few quizzes (I’m taking 19 units this semester). It feels like the only con of not going would be just not seeing my dad which has been my life for 26 years…

Idk what to do. I don’t want to disappoint either of them :( thoughts?