r/CollegeRant

Tried to open up about seasonal depression not seeing college friends and feeling bad abt having nothing to do. Got permabanned from the main college subreddit in with no explanation. I ask them nicely what I did wrong bcs I was rlly confused. Then they mute the messages and block me from replying, like wtf. Aggressive much?

I just moved into college as a freshman and I’m freaking out over my major and future. I declared Chemistry B.A. as I enjoyed chemistry class in highschool and I wanted to pursue something that sounded smart, but honestly I don’t know if that’s what I want. I don’t know what careers I could pursue after college, or even if this is the major I want. I’ve always loved tech, but with all the negativity surrounding computer science right now I decided not to pursue it. I just can’t see myself doing chemistry for my career because I don’t know what jobs are possible and if I even like chemistry all that much. Should I just complete freshman year and make a decision then? Or should I try to switch now?

I get it, you get a gazillion emails a day, you teach, you do research, BUT REPLYING A MONTH LATER/NEVER IS FUCKING RIDICULOUS.

Im an incoming grad student and i reached out to work with a prof in May, he was willing to meet with me and we wrote out my thesis. Originally, it took him until June to give me the edits back, which fine, no big deal.

Here’s the issue, you need a signature to begin working under someone, and I have not been able to get in touch with him about the signature. I’ve emailed July-August, until TODAY, and the most i’ve gotten back is a thumbs up reaction or a “thanks for catching that error!” and no signature. the semester starts on monday.

if i can’t start in this lab this semester, it’s going to delay my graduation by a semester (trying to finish in 1.5 years for my masters bc of money). I emailed my advisor, because she’s one of the program directors. I asked when her office hours were and she said to just email her my questions. I did. A week ago. NOTHING.

at this point, i don’t know what to do or who to go to. Ive gone over the potential mentor’s head to my advisor. i went over HER head to the program coordinator and the coordinator did nothing. I’m out of ideas.

This might be a stupid question, but in HS I would use holidays or weekends as break days to reset and not do anything related to school. Is that a realistic thing to do in college?

Like I mean just doing my hobbies and working out instead of studying or working

I feel like being on campus will make me feel unproductive if I do that so idk but I swear summer has made it so easy to relax I’m not ready💔

Hello,

I am a senior graduating with my bachelor's in environmental and soil science in December, and I am freaking out about what to do with the rest of my life. The next steps I take feel like they will make or break the rest of my life, and I am putting a lot of pressure on myself to make the right choice. I always thought that I would go to graduate school immediately upon obtaining my bachelor's, but I am now wondering if I want to get more work experience to figure out what I am passionate about researching in graduate school. I have research and professional experience in my field, but it has all been through an agricultural lens. After my most recent summer internship with an agricultural company, I realized I don't want to work in agriculture; however, I am now worried about the best move to make because all of my experience on my resume revolves around agriculture, hence why I don't know if I should jump straight into graduate school yet. Additionally, since I graduate in December, most grad programs don't start until the fall, so what do I do with that gap?

I am interested in conservation, fire ecology, and microbiology; the list could go on. But do people typically branch out of their expertise during graduate school? And if I decide to go the job route, where do I even begin to apply? I would love to work in national parks and travel, but that seems like a childish fantasy. Overall, I am just a big overthinker, and the idea of applying to both jobs and graduate school, all while dealing with the coursework for my final semester and work to make money, sounds so overwhelming.

I have my orientation starting tomorrow. It's a private university and am a day scholar. I am superrrrr excited and am super nervous aswell!!! I don't know what to expect! Will there be rag*ging (am a slightly overweight female)!? How to manage everything??? What all should I do? What should I not do??? How was your experience???

Hey guys, I have been a person who is in and out of this sub and just wanted to share that I finally looked at my diploma and it said summa cum laude. I actually can’t believe it, I’m scared they made a mistake, so I’m scared to tell people lol. I have suffered from a lot of issues and didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until my final year, so I was raw dogging everything 😭 I just wanted to let you know it’s possible to succeed, all you have to do is work smarter not harder!!

If anyone has questions about how to do well in school while experiencing mental health issues, home/environmental issues, and/or neurological disorders, I got you!!

Good luck to people who are starting school, I wish yall the best!!❤️

I got my associates this summer. Ive transferred 3 times (kicked out, moved states, jr college) so i’m behind age wise and I’ve wasted a couple semesters since they don’t accept all classes when transferring. I was going for engineering but the closest affordable college with that major was in Chicago and I’m married so I don’t wanna move my husband and I all the way into the city.

I’m stuck at a small private college that absolutely sucks. I’m getting a chem degree with a math minor and the academics here are garbage. They treat us like children. I’m really really really not looking forward to classes to the point where I wouldn’t mind not waking up tmr. I cry a lot just thinking about going. I have no student debt but I will need a loan for this semester. I am seriously considering dropping out but I have no other career path and will have to restart at a trade school or be okay with working minimum wage jobs for the rest of my life. I’ve put so much time and effort into my school that I just am so torn.

I just want encouragement to know I’m doing the right thing and it’ll all be worth it. I know a chem degree will get me nothing tho

Im a 17 yr old college freshman. I graduated HS in May and jumped straight into going to college. I even have a dorm, a meal plan, and roommates. I hate it. I hate it here. I hate the work. I hate the classes. They dont even have the major I want, and I’m just overall stressed out. Mind you I’ve only spent one day here. I’ve only gone to half of my classes. I keep crying and thinking about home, and how i could be with my family instead of all alone with nothing and no one.

I dont have a job, dont have allowance, shit i aint even got a dollar. I owe $1,717 as of September 10th and i have to keep paying that same amount every month. With no job, or allowance, or money. Yeah no I’m fucked and I want to quit. I have until the 21st of august to drop out without any charges made to my account.

Should I drop out, get yelled at by my sister (guardian) for fighting so hard to go to college, just to drop out and work for a year or two, get my ID, Drivers License, make a bank account, and get a taste of Adulthood. Or stay in college, get riddled with debt, not make any friends, suffer, be depressed and broke and incapable to do anything about it and watch my family move away without me bc they are moving.

Orrrr again just stay with my family and stay happy? Like i know everyone gets home sick that first week but, i genuinely don’t think I will last here. If i start college right now I will fail. I don’t know enough about the world yet and if i’m being completely honest I just genuinely don’t think i’m ready. Maybe in like 2 years but definitely not now.

My sister is a pretty strict lady and she was already really upset about me applying to college without telling her and now i wanna turn back around and quit?? Please someone help!!! Do i just sound like a dumb kid who should stay because everyone goes through this? Or should I go? Because i really really really wanna go home..

(P.s. is this too wordy? I really need help.. and no one is responding yet..)

EDIT: I spoke to my HS teacher that helped me get to this point, and she has convinced me to keep going to school. Thank you to whoever actually intended to help me with your comments.

Hello all, college just started back up and I feel lost. I feel like I have too much free time after my classes and I just don’t know how to fill it.

In high school I felt like I was so busy all the time but in the last few months at my school, I feel like I have way too much free time, and I feel kind of like a bum since I’m not doing anything productive. And it’s not like I have an easy major, I’m a stem student, but I still feel like I have way too much time.

Does everyone feel like this too? Or is it just me?

Any advice?😞

Edit: I forgot to mention I am very involved in three clubs and also on the tennis team, I have a pretty good amount of friends, but even so I feel like this :/

I hope this is okay to post here since I’m a college student and I’m trying to navigate dating/getting independence from my parents!

I’m 19f and just moved back to my college town to start my sophomore year. About a month before I came back, I downloaded hinge and set my location to where my school is so I could try meeting some people. I matched with a really cool guy and we talked for about three weeks before I came back this past Saturday. We had our first date on Monday, and I ended up telling my parents because my mom was being nosy about if I went anywhere that day.

She was surprisingly calm about it, and her only complaint was that we had met off a dating app. Otherwise, she couldn’t really be mad since we had talked for so long before hand, and met up at a cafe in the middle of the day. I told them Monday night, but Tuesday morning (today) I got a notification that she had added my apartment as a location on our life 360 circle.

For some context, I don’t mind sharing my location with my parents and I also have circles with my friends and roommates. When I went off to school I let my mom keep my location just in case there was some sort of emergency where I stopped responding to messages, and that way she could at least see where I was. Still, she had agreed to only check it in that situation because I’m an adult and deserve some independence. My dad thought I should delete it, but I was fine with the emergency only situation.

I feel like putting the apartment on the circle is definitely a bit helicopter-ish though. If you’re unfamiliar, Life360 notifies everyone in the circle when people leave or arrive at a set location. She didn’t do this with my dorm last year, and the fact that she set it up right after learning that I’m going out with a guy definitely means that’s what she’s concerned about.

I know my mom, and I know she’s going to automatically be suspicious or assuming I’m with him when I leave the apartment. Especially because my friends and I like to hang out late at night or go to McDonalds and don’t get back until 2 sometimes. I don’t plan on going out with this guy at night until we’ve gotten to know each other better and met up more, but I have a feeling that’s where her mind will go even if I’m just with friends. Is it valid for me to ask her to take it off so that she’s not asking where I’m going (and subsequently being suspicious) every time I leave the apartment in the evening? I just feel like I’m nearly 20 and my mom doesn’t need to know when I get back to my apartment or leave it. I appreciate that she cares about my safety, but imo her having my location does nothing for me since I’m two states away. It actually matters that my roommates and friends know where I am in case of an emergency or unsafe situation.

Okay so basically I'm in my first year, second semester. And last semester I didn't get the best grades (I failed 1 subject and scraped by in the rest), I've also been dealing with mental health issues.
Anyhow, the second semester rolled around and I missed the deadline to choose subjects. But there was a period following the deadline in which you could still enrol, you just needed to request and receive individual permission from each of your professors to join each subject. I requested to join all of the mandatory subjects for my degree and none of them approved me. On the last day of this period where you were still allowed to enrol, I was forced to take leave from college for the rest of the semester because otherwise my enrolment would be totally cancelled. And so I requested it, and now my leave has been approved. However, I live on college. And to live on college you need to be enrolled in classes, whereas I'm not because of what I just mentioned.
And I have 9 days to "prove" to the accomodation office that I'm enrolled otherwise my accomodation at the university will be "terminated". However, my parents don't know that I've taken leave, or that I hadn't enrolled in subjects, and I don't know what to tell them because they'll freak out and my college is in a whole different state to where they live.
Someone help!

i lwk prefer female facilities because the vibe is much better with them than the male faculties 😭

3 day college orientation?

hello, first post here- i am attending a private college as a freshman on the 24th. i am a commuter, i will not be living on campus. i have 2 classes m-thurs 1:00-345 (just giving u all the details for better understanding) anyways, the orientation is 3 days long and 16 hours all
together. i’ve seen other posters but wanted to get advice for my situation. the first day is 4-6 which i am totally fine with, but the second day is 9-5.. which im thinking i could be doing so many other things like just getting other stuff done during that 8 hours. i want to be in the loop but im not like dying to make friends ill be okay if i just do my classes and that be that. so is it worth going? will i look bad if i dont go? pls help

Why is making friends so hard?

I am 24F and I have been facing some trouble with making friends ever since I joined college. (Currently in final year) I don’t have issues with talking to people but I can be socially awkward or clumsy. Yet I really try to make friends.

It's hard to wrap my head around the fact that there are 150 people in my batch and being a dayscholar doesn't help my situation at all. People are exclusive and when I call them out on their behavior, they call me a liar, too intense and too sensitive.

I have tried to insert myself in convos, tried engaging in practicals with my batchmates and have tried to talk to them. I have heard people call me weird in my batch... so that's there.

If there are any tips on how to handle this issue, can I get some reasonable ones? I don't want to change myself to belong to a clique since group dynamics are shit... but how to build a reliable friendship with someone?

I’m an older student and my mom is aging. She’s getting surgery on her eyelids during the third week of school and i know there will be one day where i will have to 100% skip classes because she needs transportation due to sedation

Would it be a bad idea to let my professors know my situation during like the first week of school? I feel sort of bad missing out on school so early in the year but i feel like making sure my mom makes it to and from home safe is my priority and her healing will go well

It's my 4th day at college and I feel so alone. I get that this is normal to some extent, as it's a new living situation and environment completely, but everywhere I look people have friend groups or people they genuinely seem to click with.

I'm naturally more introverted but I've been putting myself out there from the very first welcome week event I went to. I spoke to another person who was also alone, and we both introduced ourselves to a table of people. Every event I've gone to since, I've continued to introduce myself to others and make conversation with those around me. The problem is, people already seem closed off with their friends, so when the conversation or event is over, they go back to whoever they came with and I feel like I'm right back where I started. I feel like there's something wrong with me because I meet so many people but still can't walk away with a friend.

I'm slowly becoming closer with my roommate, but they are in a similar situation as me. I'm also putting more effort into getting to know my suitemate, but they have other friends already. I know I have to give it time and I'm trying to remind myself that it's only been 4 days and that clubs, classes, and just repeatedly seeing the same people will probably make things easier.

I'm just wondering how I somehow missed the window of making friends for welcome week. I know it's only day 4 but I've felt like this since day 2. I was originally very emotional and overwhelmed about moving in and leaving my family, but I still put myself out there and met new people, so it's not like I'm not trying.

I understand that it's not necessarily over on day 4, but I can't help but feel anxious and upset.