u/Cultural_Librarian42

This happened a while ago but I still think about it because genuinely everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. I don't even know why I agreed to go on this date in the first place.

So for context we’re both guys. He used to live in the same area as me but moved away for uni, and he was back home for the holidays. I knew it wasn't going to be anything long term because I don't do long distance, but I figured whatever, it's a date, I'll see what happens.

He got in my car and we started doing the usual small talk. I really hate small talk but obviously that's sort of what you do when you're meeting someone for the first time.

He asked me what high school I went to. There was a private school in my town that had a reputation for being full of really uptight people, and then there was the public school, which is where I went. I told him I went to the public school and he goes "you seem like the type of person to go to St Auggie's" which was basically the local nickname for the private school.

This was probably five minutes into the date.
And he said it completely deadpan too. Like he wasn't joking around with me because we already had that kind of rapport. We had known each other for about five fucking minutes. It was just this really bitchy comment out of nowhere.

And honestly that was sort of the moment I realised we probably weren't going to click. I can't even explain exactly what it was about him because it wasn't like he said one objectively horrible thing. It was just his whole manner. He had this really bitchy, slightly aggressive way of talking that made me feel like he was judging me the whole time.

I tried to keep the conversation going anyway and asked him what his parents did. I think his dad was a psychologist and he just said "psychologist" in this really fucking robotic voice. I know that sounds ridiculous because obviously it's just one word but I swear to god it was the way he said it. It was like I had asked him something incredibly irritating and he was giving me the shortest possible answer.

Anyway, the original plan was to go swimming at a waterfall about 30 minutes out of town. You had to drive down this long dirt road and then walk/climb up to the waterfall.

So we drive all the way out there. I'm doing my best to make small talk because I am the one driving and there's nowhere to go, and I'm basically thinking the entire time that at least once we get out of the car we'll have something to actually talk about because we'll be doing something.

We get to probably a minute before the turnoff and there's a river crossing. If the river is flooded then the waterfall is basically inaccessible.
The river was fucking flooded.
Like you couldn't even drive over it.
So we had to turn around and drive all the way back.
And because I'm driving I can't even go on my phone or anything. I'm just stuck there with this guy for another 30 minutes making awkward conversation or sitting in silence.

Eventually we get back into town and I'm like okay, what the fuck do you want to do now? We decide to go to a cafe.

There was a cafe about 15 minutes outside town that we decided to go to. So we drive all the way there.
We're literally about two minutes away and he checks Google Maps and goes "oh, it's shut today."
I genuinely thought he was fucking joking.

So we had driven 15 minutes out of town just to turn around and drive back into town again.
At this point I really should have just ended the date but this was basically the first proper date I'd ever been on and I think I had this stupid idea that you were supposed to give people a chance and not just leave because it was awkward.

So we go to another cafe. This was a cafe I knew would actually be open, but I didn't really want to go there because it's always fucking packed and I knew there was a very good chance I'd see people I knew there. But it being a small town on a saturday, of course I did.

It was a Saturday and basically everyone in town was there. Not even people I'm particularly close to, just my parents' friends and people I've known for years, which was especially awkward because I didn't really want anyone seeing me on what could obviously be interpreted as a date when I’m living in a conservative small town and am closeted.

Anyway, we sit down.
The conversation is still fucking awful. There is so much awkward silence. I don't know what the hell he was thinking but I genuinely had no idea what to say to him.
And then, in the middle of this crowded fucking cafe, he asks me:
"What sort of porn do you watch?"
Out loud.
Just completely out loud.
I literally had to tell him not to say that because we were in a cafe surrounded by people.

And to be honest, I don't necessarily think talking about sex on a date is inherently weird, but there was absolutely no chemistry between us. We weren't flirting. We'd spent most of the date sitting in awkward silence and driving around because every single fucking plan had fallen through. And he suddenly decided that asking what porn I watched was the appropriate way to fix the conversation.
I don't even remember much else about the date because by that point I was basically mentally gone.

The funniest thing about it looking back is that literally every opportunity for this date to become enjoyable failed.
We had an activity planned and the waterfall was flooded.
We decided to go to a cafe and the cafe was closed.
We found another cafe and it was the busiest one in town and I knew half the people there.
And then the guy I was already finding incredibly unpleasant decided to ask me about porn in front of everyone. It genuinely felt like Murphy's Law.
And I still don't know why I didn't just leave halfway through. I think because I'd never really been on a proper date before, I didn't know that you were actually allowed to just decide "I don't like this person and I want to go home." I thought you were supposed to stick it out and see if it got better.
It did not get better.

I've had bad dates since that, but this one is still in a league of its own because it wasn't even one massive disaster. It was just one stupid thing after another for basically the entire date.
And honestly the biggest thing I remember is just thinking "I really don't like this guy" without being able to point to one specific reason. Sometimes you can tell that someone's a cunt just from the way they talk to you. I don't know how else to explain it.

TL;DR: Went on a date with a guy who was weirdly bitchy from the beginning. We drove 30 minutes to a waterfall only to find out it was flooded, drove all the way back, decided to go to a café, drove 15 minutes there only to discover it was closed, drove back again to another café where I knew a bunch of people, and then he loudly asked me what kind of porn I watched in the middle of the crowded café. Somehow I stayed for the whole date.

Okay so basically I'm in my first year, second semester. And last semester I didn't get the best grades (I failed 1 subject and scraped by in the rest), I've also been dealing with mental health issues.
Anyhow, the second semester rolled around and I missed the deadline to choose subjects. But there was a period following the deadline in which you could still enrol, you just needed to request and receive individual permission from each of your professors to join each subject. I requested to join all of the mandatory subjects for my degree and none of them approved me. On the last day of this period where you were still allowed to enrol, I was forced to take leave from college for the rest of the semester because otherwise my enrolment would be totally cancelled. And so I requested it, and now my leave has been approved. However, I live on college. And to live on college you need to be enrolled in classes, whereas I'm not because of what I just mentioned.
And I have 9 days to "prove" to the accomodation office that I'm enrolled otherwise my accomodation at the university will be "terminated". However, my parents don't know that I've taken leave, or that I hadn't enrolled in subjects, and I don't know what to tell them because they'll freak out and my college is in a whole different state to where they live.
Someone help!

I'm curious because I currently live in college, and I'm not sure if/when I'll have to move off.

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