u/MobileSweet9342

I might make a more in depth substack about this later but the double standards between MysticLipstick and Lindsay Clancy are insane. People are blaming her husband post partum all the other things. They both are terrible women but when the white nurse who planned and poisoned her kids commits murder everyone rallies in support and calls it postpartum and a psychotic break. but when the black woman who showed little to no signs actually suddenly snaps and has a psychotic episodes she's demonic crazy and evil.

I think they both are. And it doesnt help MLS isn't a christian so that also garners extra hate where Lindsay is seen as a meek frail white woman with a shitty husband. I'm also not lost on the fact that since it's a murder suicide there are a lot of unanswered questions in the mystic lipstick case. I havent done enough research on either to talk more about it. I just noticed comparisons from the public reactions.

So again substack coming soon if that's something yall are interested in. RIP to all victims

Seriously how to move in silence. Journal, just keep it in, post it on reddit? I feel like whenever I share good news that happens to me not in a bragging way just good news. I never get the reaction I want and people just ruin it. even if they arent mean or rude their lack of enthusiasm, or immediate pessimism just bums me out. I know its not their job to and I should just learn my lesson but I feel like I cannot hold water. I talk about everything the good the bad the ugly. I need to have more discipline and just keep it in especially because im coo coo bananas and sometimes I think ppl are praying on my downfall so telling them stuff just gives them ammo. idk I just need to stfu sometimes even like now ToT

Hi! I am a streamer on twitch and this guy I was dealing with (stupid I know) and cut things off with last year is still harassing me and making fake pages to comment on my public accounts and doxx me as well as threaten to make deepfakes of me to upload on the computer. I have his real name address pictures and screenshots. is there anything else I need to take with me to the police station? I know they dont take us seriously when it's in person but what are the odds they pick this up and he actually gets in trouble. at the very least I want a protection order. advice?

Currently going to file a police report against an ex member of my community who has been harassing, stalking and doxxing me since December 2025. No matter how close these people seem, no matter how many happy endings you hear about, no matter how much money people gift you YOU DO NOT KNOW THESE PEOPLE. They can be friendly kind supportive you might even meet up with them a few times.

but please remember twitch is still the internet. the whole concept of streaming preys on the lonely and bored. you never know the people on the other side of the screen how they act IRL their dirt or past. Exercise caution who you let in your chats and discords. If someone is weird or over steps cut them off the first time. you aren obligated to put up with anyone or give anybody a second chance and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE never get comfortable enough with strangers to where you think you can share private information

I know this feels like common sense but I get on this sub everyday and see people feel guilty for using the bn button. hell I saw a post earlier this month asking if people use twitch for dating. NO. it's easy to foster a community and let your guard down when you share laughs with people every day but you dont owe these people nothing and in the end we are all strangers.

be safe

Hi! posting on behalf of a friend. Currently looking on indeed as well but we've had a few hits on here in the past so trying out luck.

They are looking to join a great kitchen in Austin. They live in NA but have reliable transportation so won't mind a commute as long as it makes sense.

They have experience as a prep cook, line cook, sous chef you name it. Experience working in all types of restaurants but Brasseries are their specialty. Kind and hard worker gets along great with everyone.

Looking for work ASAP and can come in anytime this week or next for a stage or working interview. If you have any leads please feel free to pass them along and I'll send their info.

Thanks Austin!

I hate to be messy but the last time I came here looking for answers to niche internet mess yall delivered. and I wanted to know what happened to the Art Hoe Collective that had Mars, SageFlocka, Frida Cashflow, Amandala Stienberg and other well ... artsy black girls in it. They had a zine or blog and would post focusing on art music and the black underground but not necessarily alt scene. very reminiscent of Tank and the Bangas, pre CTRL SZA etc.

They were popular on instagram Tumblr twitter all that. I was in college then and I was never been internet savvy enough to be on blogs forums and just be tapped in enough to know what they had going on outside of what was on my page nor was I on social media like that even. I've kept up with a few people over the years like ICE and Sage here and there but I never knew why the group as a whole disbanded and stopped fw each other.

Recently a video came across my tiktok page but I feel like the group as a whole was so niche it's not many videos or write ups on it. Plus as always the concept of being an art hoe was quickly gentrified so when u google and search most stuff comes up is about white girls save one other reddit post from 2 years ago asking the same thing.

so in a long shot was anyone active during that era keeping up with it and knows like what exactly happened to cause the girls to fall out?

also I know this is nosey but PUH LEASE dont get to throwing that parasocial word around. I'm just a curious girl and while im sure chat gpt will have an answer for me in seconds plus this is what reddit is for not asking us every 5 seconds if you should leave that white man who says nigga!!!

My biggest concern is 1. that in the interview (scheduled for next week) they ask me about how soon I can start or notice all my work history is for one place but my address says there. Do I commit to the bit and double down on the lie "oh I currently live in so n so city now just unemployed etc." Or do I be honest and tell them I dont plan on leaving until I got the job but the address I used is confirmed housing (it is)

then im worried about my current job. this isnt a bad company but I just want out of my state so I dont want to leave them high and dry and would like to give them a proper 2 weeks at least working remotely while I prep to move, but im afraid if new job sees an in state address they'll want me to start that Monday. which if I need to move the same week I can I just dont want to cause of my job now.

I think im just anxious because I LIED LOL but it worked. and 2 last years I was honest about relocating landed an interview in a million applications interviewed 3 times and it was going amazing. the last interview I only inquired about a relocation package emphasized it was not necessary I was just wondering but they still dropped me anyways. So now I just get paranoid about the whole thing.

At the risk of getting my ass handed to me in the replies for such a crazy ask. I'm looking for a single family home 1br or large studio is fine for less than $2k preferably 1200-1500. I don't mind living in the east, Windsor hills, even the cusp of pflugerville and NA. Just not South Austin.

I try to use websites like apartment .com, forrent etc but im not having any luck and while my mind is telling me its because such places don't exist because Austin is just too expensive, further inspection shows its more like posters are misrepresenting listings and putting rooms they have for rent under the "full home" section to cast a wider net. Two things can be true at once but I'd rather just hear it from people who actually live here because im sick of getting tangled in that net during my search.

Does anyone know of any known realtors or property management companies whose website I can search directly, I'd be open to working with a locator as well.

I dont hate the idea of a ground floor unit with a private yard in an apartment but that would be my last resort. im not fond of apartment complexes and I know its "when in Rome" situation but I just want to exhaust my options first.

This is irrelevant but I know yall want to know. I'll be working at UT in the fall (late august-september) and I've already made peace with the traffic situation because I know with my budget its no way im getting that close to the university or downtown within my budget. I'm not scared of traffic or living in the "hood" so please just point me in the right direction and if you have no direction yourself please be kind :3

At the risk of getting my ass handed to me in the replies for such a crazy ask. I'm looking for a single family home 1br or large studio is fine for less than $2k preferably 1200-1500. I don't mind living in the east, Windsor hills, even the cusp of pflugerville and NA. Just not South Austin.

I try to use websites like apartment .com, forrent etc but im not having any luck and while my mind is telling me its because such places don't exist because Austin is just too expensive, further inspection shows its more like posters are misrepresenting listings and putting rooms they have for rent under the "full home" section to cast a wider net. Two things can be true at once but I'd rather just hear it from people who actually live here because im sick of getting tangled in that net during my search.

Does anyone know of any known realtors or property management companies whose website I can search directly, I'd be open to working with a locator as well.

I dont hate the idea of a ground floor unit with a private yard in an apartment but that would be my last resort. im not fond of apartment complexes and I know its "when in Rome" situation but I just want to exhaust my options first.

This is irrelevant but I know yall want to know. I'll be working at UT in the fall (late august-september) and I've already made peace with the traffic situation because I know with my budget its no way im getting that close to the university or downtown within my budget. I'm not scared of traffic or living in the "hood" so please just point me in the right direction and if you have no direction yourself please be kind :3

Looking for some actual valuable advice on what kind of part-time job I should get. I'm really trying to steer clear of food but I cant even find open positions for janitors and I'll be honest im so irritated with ai in the hiring process I cant even apply for something like Lowes without getting frustrated with the funky ass chatbot. thinking about dog sitting but I have a small dog and cat so I'm super nervous about other animals ive never met before being in the home with my babies

Me and my brother are 9 years apart he is 20 going into his 3rd year of college. He has been put on probation and almost lost his scholarship twice. He did lose his older brother his freshman year but he was slacking off and not doing work before then. He also has been caught foraging his grades. Both times I paid $500 to help my mom with his tuition and I also wrote both appeal letters for his probation. My brother is a good kid, as far as good kids go. He isn't mean or disrespectful, is family oriented, musically and artistically gifted as well. He has been caught in lies about smoking weed and bringing girls over but for the most part he is just an average kid.

Now before, he used to ask me for money here and there $15-20 for food at school or money for Christmas or his bday. But this summer he has been working three (3) jobs as well as freelance photography. Today he texted me asking me to buy his band track suit totally to about $70 to "take some stress off our mom" but I asked him where all his money has gone to and if he has been working 3 jobs why dont he have at least $35 to buy the hoodie?

Am I being unreasonable? I don't pocket watch but he lives at home and his only bill is gas money. So if he is saving money should he not have at least $70? I can afford it but like? It's the principle. I won't even get into how when I was in school no one sent me ANY money, never mind the fact getting on academic probation once let alone TWICE, and just the other double standards I've faced all my life as the older sister. But despite all of that I still feel bad.

I feel the parentification of the oldest daughter now more than ever. I feel like my family has the idea of me because I am the only person in this generation of relatives who is self sufficient (I live alone, have my own car and have a job in my degree field where I make enough money to pay my bills and put money aside) I also opened up (stupidly) about trading and stocks and I make a lil money here and there but I think my family thinks im sitting on thousands of savings when im living paycheck to paycheck like the rest of America. I just don't ask anyone for money like everyone else because as the oldest child and grandchild AND a girl ive always been held at a higher unfair standard than everyone else and I dont want anyone saying I need them for shit.

As I'm getting older im also trying to heal my relationship with my mom and part of that is having more empathy for her so I do hate to see her being worried and frustrated over his financial issues with school, but again this wouldve NEVER fly with me while I was in my school, plus its lowkey manipulative asf to say "taking the pressure off my mom" sir YOU take the pressure off and pay for your outfit.

but idk maybe these jobs not paying as much as I thought, maybe the gas is too much, maybe three jobs isnt enough even when your only bill is gas and hanging out with friends. idk

Not a rant maybe a vent. Idk even though my reddit is linked to my socials this just doesnt seem appropriate to post on FB tiktok or IG. maybe I'll make a substack or YouTube. It's been 72 hours and counting since my last blunt. I smoked after work Thursday and that was it. It's nothing about the weed. I wish I could smoke now lol. But im just so fucking broke. I need to save money. and my mindset is, if I wouldn't spend a measly $4 on a matcha latte I shouldn't spend $40 on weed. Im being real strict and locking in. In the grand scheme of things $40 isnt alot especially $40 every 3 weeks. But again it's the principle.

so far ive noticed surprisingly ive been in a better mood. kinder and more patient. I've had more energy but ive been bored. I have so many hobbies and crafts I could do. while I dont necessarily think I'm a person who has to be high to get good ideas I do find whenever I sit down and try to do something my mind is racing more and I cant relax and focus. not that im anxious or in a bad mood I just feel unsettled. but when I smoked I was so sleepy I didnt do shit either. so hopefully my energy and focus starts to improve.

It's also nice to not worry about if I stink or if people can tell if im high or not. My house also has already started smelling better. It's kinda sad because smoking on the back porch was so routine for me my pets still run to the back door expecting me to go out and smoke whenever I go to that direction of the house ToT. I also notice already im less bloated from getting the munchies and eating a ton of bullshit.

idk I like the concept of making goals and sticking to them so even if I come across some weed for free, I dont think I'll smoke just to see how long I can go without it. The gag? I didnt become a regular smoker until like February this year. I used to smoke in college 2010s and if I go to the club and someone passes me a blunt I'll smoke it. but ive never been one to just smoke every day even when I dated partners who did. so its not a need or desire I think. I dont think I'll have "withdrawals" or be fiening for it I think it just became a habit (hence my animals) and I need to fill that time and all the free time from not immediately eating and going to bed with more fufulling things which im excited for.

thanks for listening. open to hear from anyone who has quit drugs as well!

My mom (genX) is an alcoholic and HATES weed. My whole family has normalized drinking culture but my mom HATES the fact me and my brother smoke and weed is so taboo in my family despite drinking, teen pregnancy, not finishing college, infidelity and everything else that are traditionally frowned on upon exist in our lives. But weed is where they draw the line. Does anyone else have relatives 45+ who are like this?

Do you think it's religion racism living through the crack epidemic the smell associated with smoking. All of the above or nothing? Curious to hear your thoughts. My mom has never told me WHY she hates it and when confronted on the hypocrisy of it all, of course, she cant explain why drinking is ok but smoking is not.

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edit: I'm not trying to convince yall of anything or call yall old im just trying to talk about something other than men for a change ToT

It's me again *sigh* I really want a new job but I also want to move from my home state. So I feel like my next job should be out of state. But I'm just having such a hard time. I work in the creative industry like design, photography, marketing. So I have the option to look into big companies or small scale businesses but tbh I dont even know how to go about the job search.

Do I prioritize where I want to live? (because I have no clue I just know I wanna get tf outta here) Do I just cast a net into LinkedIn and see what comes up? I'm just feeling so overwhelmed and we havent even gotten to the actual applying, interviewing or rejection phase yet.

What's been working for you all to maintain good mental health surrounding job search and IK ppl ask all the time but what are some black women friendly options to live?

I've considered New Orleans, Austin, Atlanta, Miami, DMV, Arizona, Kentucky, and the Carolinas but I'm truly open to anywhere that I can live on my own for $2k or less a month

Hi! So the concept is one I see in many games and can hopefully use in many ways. Basically I am building an RPG in unity. I don't need a full on crafting system. I want something like Stardew valley where you take one (1) object put it in or on another object an animation plays and then a new sprite appears. So egg to mayonnaise, flour to bread, fruit to wine, etc. I dont even need the animation part right away but it would be great to know how. I know my way around unity but I have no clue about coding so if you have something beginner friendly that would be great! and again something I can reuse on other sprites too.

Hi all! I, like a lot of others, am in the midst of applying for jobs. Call me creepy but whenever I apply for a job I look up other members of the creative team and sometimes I even find the person who I could potentially replace. I am wondering is it weird to connect with these people introduce myself and potentially ask for portfolio and application tips for the job? Does this come off as weird or as an eager candidate?

My friend invited me as a plus one for a party she is going to today. The person in question we both know and are cool with I dont have an issue with she's dope! my invite probably got lost in the mail cuz I was invited the past 2 years but I have been MIA on socials maybe that's why. So I ask the girl for more info she just sends me the cash app to the cover (yes they charging for the birthday) and address but no time nothing. So I ask a couple of more times throughout the conversation and she responds to every part of the messages but me asking for a screenshot of the damn party invite.

so I bite the bullet and reach out to bday girl and let her know so and so invited me as a plus one and ask is it okay and still room. She says of course and asks for my number to send the info. I text her say hey it's me happy birthday! and she loves everything says thank u but still isn't sending any more info! I feel like im pulling teeth! LOL ive asked like 4 times and noone is saying anything. I already been sleep half of the day its 6pm now and its a Sunday. I can't even plan my day or prioritize anything cuz of the time of the party.

I already have made up in my mind im not going and text my friend im not gonna be able to make it but like??? was I just not clear in what I was asking for? I always am questioning myself and social interactions like what am I doin wrong here! I feel like my patience is always thin and im very no nonsense so maybe I should "try a little harder" but whenever I feel like im pulling teeth I get so irritated because how much more pulling teeth do I need to do to get the info!

Sometimes it's interactions like this that make me feel like im an alien on earth sometimes. I lowkey hate im even giving it this much energy but lowkey I am kinda annoyed cuz I never get to do anything so I was definitely looking forward too getting out the house because I can't even make it out the door because this how the planning stage always goes like this and then I get too irritated. I wonder if im just too nonsense with a short fuse and dont be trying hard enough

I'm specifically thinking about her Apple Music concert for SOS and her grey goose performances. Is there a compiled piece of media of her performing Lana songs thats not just concert videos filmed on a phone? perferably free on YouTube? im just craving watching some music videos and to my knowledge there are none for Lana so anything live will do

Would I be overreacting? We had a public breakup and I was very vocal about what he did. Only one person unfollowed him and that was my little baby my younger brother. Even other relatives still followed him until there was more drama and he blocked them. (I know this from second hand accounts from him and my relatives.) We went to HS together so we had hella mutuals and even some of my closest friends who've Ive been close with since then (we are 30 now) still follow him.

On one hand it's like they supported me through the hard time. they express to me how much they hate him and they think he should be in jail so the offline support is way more than the online support. But on the other hand it's like thats such a simple thing to do that it takes less than a minute. but maybe the simplicity is why they think its no big deal because its just a follow. But we have over 50 mutuals so I feel like if everyone DID unfollow and support me that would make a significant dent. And idc social media is capital, u literally get paid from engagement, its how people market themselves (he's a rapper ofc) and A lot of companies are looking at following and engagement when hiring for creative roles. so again I just feel like its the bare minimum way to support.

But like I said I feel like im asking for a lot from people who have their own problems and issues. But does that mean I have to just abandon my feelings? would I be wrong if I unfollowed they asses. should I mention it one more time in my close friends story so they will get a heads up?

and before u ask how I know they are mutuals. This happened about 2 years ago and at the time I had this thought but felt I was overreacting and decided against it. I actually dont know if they did or didn't but its just something that has always stuck with me and as ive been taking an ig break and preparing to come back its back on my mind and I though it won't really change anything I'd just feel better. but perhaps im still giving the situation too much power