I got married last month! I've been enjoying our first month as a married couple with my husband, but there are some things about our wedding day I've not been able to let go.
We had a small, family only ceremony at the beginning of April, in a family member's backyard that was kindly loaned to us for the day (obviously they were invited). To save money, most of the decoration was DIY, and the day prior to our wedding, my SIL helped us a lot with some arrangements.
There are a couple of things that bugged me and husband, but I can't talk much about them because he doesn't want to bring it up. He's still hurt about it.
He went to get ready at SIL's house, because both his parents and SIL we're pressuring him to share that moment with them (I wanted for both of us to get ready at family member's house to be on hand when catering and guests arrived). Surprise, no one was there! He ended up getting ready alone, and while my FIL hurried back he was already feeling out of place.
Afterwards, after a very short but poignant ceremony, we were married and our photographer started taking group photos. My SIL just let our nephew lose and didn't look after him the whole freaking afternoon. He's an extremely energetic kid and due to their parenting, not used to not being told "no". He broke one of the flower stands, annoyed all kids from my family side, and the part that angered me was that he almost threw a tantrum when I tried to remove him from my family side's photo.
My family is disfunctional as heck, but we love each other. We're trying to rebuild bonds after a long, long time and this was the first moment we were all together in at least 5 years. We wanted a photo! And my SIL instead of grabbing her kid and dragging him off, just said "oh, push him back and he won´t be seen". Come on girl, do your damn job!
Thankfully, you don't see him on the final photos, but it did leave me quite bitter for a while. Like, couldn't inlaws prioritize my husband for one single day??
I don't need advice, thankfully inlaws don't live in our town and we don't have plans to see them in a while other than in extended family gatherings. Out of sight, out of mind, and I hope I'm not as resentful when I see them again.