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I’m fairly rattled, so please be compassionate and non judgmental. I know Reddit is very black and white about dogs biting children, which I get. But it’s really hard when you’re the one whose baby was bitten by your own dog.

I love my dog very much, she is the sweetest dog 99.99% of the time. She’s naturally good, and obedient; she never gets into mischief. She has a sweet and calm disposition, she’s truly been one of the easiest dogs I’ve ever owned.

But she resource guards, which has gotten her into fights with other dogs before. Up until today she has been almost perfect with our one year old baby, aside from growling when the baby pulls her tail or lays on top of her when she’s napping.

My baby has just started getting mobile and today while my back was turned she crawled to the chicken’s food. I heard a growl then crying. I told my dog to go inside, which she immediately did. I didn’t see any bite marks at first, but later I noticed two very faint bite marks on my baby’s forehead. It didn’t break the skin, but it was still a bite and I’m worried that as my baby starts getting even more mobile and walking, there will be more times when my back is turned that something like this happens again.

It’s just so sad and hard. Our dog is a rescue and she’s been living her best life with us for the past 6 years. She adores us and we love her. So the thought of rehoming her is heartbreaking.

Has anyone had a similar experience, and how did it turn out in the end?

We haven’t had enough ugly ones lately. This one truly hits all the boxes. And it is in a terrible town with a horrible school system.

I’ve always wanted a big family. But after baby #1 I’ve learned that my husband won’t change. I’ll be stuck working 40 hours a week, and have full responsibility of daughter while he works only 10, video games the other 30 then leaves us alone most nights to play sports or games with friends. I feel like I’m already a single parent.

It’s not the future I wanted, and it’s hard to give up on the dream of a big family that I had in my head since I was a young kid.

So my question is, has anyone actually had success leaving their husband, finding someone new and creating the family they always dreamed of in their thirties?

I love my daughter more than anything in the whole world, and even a quiet life with just us would be fulfilling. But I’d love for her to have siblings.

For context, my husband and I have tried therapy. I’ve confronted him numerous times about his priorities, he’ll get better for two days then fall back to his old habits. It’s been like this for years.

I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and married for two. We had a baby 11 months ago. I’ve been having a hard time with him since she was born, it was easy to chalk it up to postpartum hormones. But the further out we go and the less lightening I feel, the more I realize it’s bigger than that.

I work 40 hours a week and he works a generous 15, but more realistically 10, we get paid the same amount. Our daughter is in daycare during the week. I drop her off, he picks her up. When I get home from work, before I even get a chance to put my stuff down he hands me the baby. Then I am with her until I drop her off at daycare.

5 of the 7 nights a week he has various sports or game nights, ie is not home. During the day when he’s not working he plays video games or his current undertaking is a thousands of dollar home improvement project that he didn’t discuss with me before starting (I’m an architect).

I do 90% of the parenting, he’ll change a diaper here and there when asked or hold her while I use the bathroom, but he won’t initiate anything. And he wonders why she doesn’t want to be held by him?

Clearly this is a very one sided post. My husband has good intentions and is a good guy, but he has a hard time looking past himself.

This isn’t the life I wanted for me or my daughter. I’ve been daydreaming about leaving my husband for a while now.

But I’m terrified about custody, I would be heartbroken to have to split time with my daughter. She’s just an infant so I couldn’t imagine her having to be apart from her mother or me her.

And this concern I know is silly, but I want her to have a sibling one day, I’m in my early thirties so my fertile window is a ticking clock. If I close the door on my husband then the outlook of her having a sibling seems slim.

Which then leads to the next problem, isn’t dating in your thirties a nightmare? Does closing the door on my husband mean a lifetime on my own?