Uncomfortable with husband's female friends
I've been a very supportive and patient wife (F29) to my husband (M30) the whole time we are in a long distance relationship and its been almost 10 years together and 3 years married. I am also not a controlling type of person until one time my husband lied to me about hanging out with a female friend alone. This female friend is not even the friend I have issues with. There's another female friend he has that I always see with him even before we got married year 2023. I didn't noticed it until he went to parties with them almost weekly 3 years ago and I see videos that they are always together so I brought it up to him. I told him I wasn't comfortable seeing them together all the time. As a wife, I wanted reassurance so I tried to ask for his ig not to investigate but just wanna know if he will actually give his account to me and he did. Then I couldn't help myself but the check the messages and search their conversation just to found out he deleted it. Had an argument about it again. This female friend has been single since they met. These group of female friends he has are young people like 25ish and they love to party. I'm not the type of person who likes to party cause it wasn't the way I was raised in my home country. I also noticed that they like to ask him to go out and one time he was asked, it was a couple dinner. It was like him, this female friend who is single and there's like 3 couples including his brother. He sent a picture of them and he was in the table with this single female friend. It hurt me so much to see that I had to tell him again to please set boundaries and to give me some respect. He told me he will and for months, he didn't go out again with them until recently, he got invited to her birthday and they went out. He told me about it and I started worrying and I was very uncomfortable. He sent pictures and I saw again that they sit beside each other so I asked him. He said, its just a coincidence so i just let it go and try to understand again.
But this morning, he got invited again to have brunch for her sister's birthday and before he even go, I told him not to sit beside her because I am not comfortable and he said yes. Few hours later he sent pictures and I asked who's beside him and he said it's her and he explained why. I froze and cried not because he's beside her. It hurt me so much because I told him once and he didn't listen. I blocked him and I just want space. Right now I am at work and the moment I arrived in office, I felt sick and threw up. I just wanna go home and cry.
We're in a long distance for years and I'm just waiting for my visa interview schedule. I don't know what to do.