u/Global_Rabbit8669

Hi all, FTM here with a newly 6 month old that would rather eat glass than sleep more than 2-3 hours in a row. We have been playing with his daytime schedule and it seems like 2.5/2.5/2.5/3 into bedtime has been working for us. On a good day we get 3 hours of daytime sleep and they have to be contact naps. If we do crib naps its closer 1.5 - 2 hours of daytime sleep. Bedtime used to be good after some work. I could put him down fairly drowsy and he would sleep from 7:30-midnight. Then it would all fall apart and he would wake up every couple hours until 6:30ish and then up for the day. Now we get multiple false starts every hour basically until 11ish and then we have to co-sleep to get those 2 & 3 hours stretches for everyones sanity.

Where I think I need some tough love or advice

• We have tried various types of ferber but he escalates hard core like 0 to 300 and even on the bedtimes he has cried it out (maybe ten minutes) it has no effect on his night wakes. Its still every hour. We tried this for a week or so and saw no improvement and I couldnt do the crying anymore with no improvement.
• the 11p-12a wake we do a full bottle (he chugs it) and then I bring him into bed with me so we can get some semblance of sleep. This still doesnt get us much better sleep which puts me at a loss as well.
• I really feel like I'm drowning in all of this. My husband travels for work so I am usually navigating nights on my own. I have hired night nurses in the past but they are expensive and its not a sustainable option. Lack of sleep has made it really difficult to have much clarity for troubleshooting any further. I am also starting a big project at work and getting nervous about my lack of sleep.
• He is hitting all his milestones and is generally a happy guy. Teething sucks obviously, but otherwise he does normal baby stuff. He does seem to be pretty sensitive and maybe a little high maintenance and he is very attached to me.

I genuinely am open to sleep training, he just hasnt been super responsive to it. I am also very open to the fact that I am too sleep deprived to be doing it effectively. Help

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