u/Gloomy-Evidence3017

I’m from the US, and mostly everywhere here has AC. I see people from the UK talking about how they get bad heat waves and have no air conditioning, and I genuinely don’t understand why they don’t just buy portable air conditioners or window air conditioners or something before summer comes around

Hello all! So my (23F) boyfriend (25M) is a worrier. He constantly asks me “what if” questions, repeats anxious thoughts to me over and over throughout the day even when I reassure him and try to be positive about them, asks me if I love him and to promise or swear that I do, and just generally talks about things that make him nervous and can’t seem to get his mind off of things that he’s anxious about. Genuinely every single day there is something that he is talking to me about that is clearly making him very upset.

I personally struggle with anxiety too, but mine is more on the panic attack and physical anxiety side and I am medicated for it and doing much better. I’ve had conversations with him about how clearly he is very anxious and that my medicine helps me a lot and trying medication might be helpful for him too, but he seems to have a general negative connotation with mental health doctors and kind of blows off the subject when I bring it up. I’ve also talked to him about practicing deep breathing and general DBT exercises that I’ve learned to help manage my anxiety, but for some reason he seems reluctant to try things like that.

He has never seen a doctor about about mental health issues and I think he probably should and that medicine might be helpful for him, but I’m not sure how to broach the subject again and make him really listen to me. I also am having a hard time figuring out how I can help him break the loop of worrying because even if I reassure him he usually brings the subject up again often multiple times a day. I’ve asked him what specifically he wants me to do when he brings his worries to me and he says he just wants me to listen and comfort him but it doesn’t really seem like that actually helps very much. Any advice or suggestions or just perspective from people with this type of anxiety would be much appreciated!!

(Sorry for any formatting issues as I am on mobile)