My (30F) partner (35M) talks on discord numerous hours a day and I feel I cannot have a quiet space.
I’d love insight if I’m being too sensitive or irrational… for context we have been together 8 years and have lived together for 5. We both work full time, from home - but his job has more flexibility.
I have my own social life and I am active, I go out with my friends 3-4 times a week, or coffees alone, go to gym classes, so can be out of the house a lot. When I return, or when I finish work, I would love to read a book in the living room, or watch videos on my laptop. I find it impossible to do that, because he is always talking with his friends. They start speaking from about 3pm to midnight. When they’re gaming it’s super loud. I have to tell him to tone it down multiple times. Everytime I confront him he tells me I’m being unreasonable and turning it into a “theres always something” with you argument.
I feel I’m being driven crazy by never having a quiet moment, I feel it’s been years since I heard “just silence”. He rarely leaves the house.
I feel I provide him ample opportunity for him to talk with his friends, considering I work all day, and occupy myself after hours many days a week, and asking for 2-3 hours to just enjoy some silence feels reasonable to me. Am I being unreasonable? Or too sensitive? I’m starting to doubt what’s “normal”.
Has anyone dealt with this? Any advice how to approach this is welcome. 🙏