u/GloomyStill357

Why is it every single viewing

Smells musty.

They are old houses and I don’t know I if I am supposed to be concerned here

It is so normalised.

I literally just had a viewing this perfect flat
I look to the right and see water leak markings all over the way and some mould.

I’m not even surprised though because every single viewing the property smells damp..

They are Victorian buildings is this what I should just expect if viewing older properties ?

Just for context I have been speaking to this guy for a while I really deeply care about him.

I have allot of problems with my health right now debilitating actually

I can hardly hold a conversation or text.

I initiated time apart because of this because I can’t give him what he needs and it was actually harming my health speaking to him becwuse I was using all my energy to and because not being able to fully have someone you care about it really horrible. Especially as he lives in another country.

Being apart has actually been beneficial for my on focusing on my health and removed allot of stress

I had a surgery coming up that was supposed to fix my health problems .., unfortunately the surgery failed and I need another revision one!! So I have to wait another 6 months.

I didn’t want to tell him this… it’s just fucking embarrassing every conversation is me recounting bad news.

During this break he messages me from time to time- Asking about my surgery
Checking up on me.

It’s incredibly hurtful because I would rather not speak to someone at all than have parts of them (not his fault)
I did express to him I couldn’t speak at the moment where I am at and the reason for breaking contact.
What I did do wrong is on occasion messaged him once or twice in surgery or when I self scared.

But I have really committed to the break in contact because I don’t want to be unfair or confusing to hind . I have not spoke to him in 6 weeks now when he messages I respond with a heart

Or I like the message

But he keeps messaging

Recently he said this ‘I hope ur okay and I hope that this surgery made the change u need. thinking bout u.’

I liked the message. Though it’s literally eating me inside

I just want to talk to him but I would be sacrafising myself for someone else

Apart from that this is someone who I deeply care about and I worry that if I respond it starts up another conversation and it just drags on and on.,

Is it fair that I just liked the message
Was that the right thing to do.

It’s really hurting me, I fear he thinks I’m a horrible person

I do care:(

I have expressed it to him before.,

It feels wrong not to reply to them

With a credit score of 401
I’m on disability benefit .. but also have student funding from uni

With a really strong garuntor

What are my chances here? Do I have any

I’m moving into a Victorian flat with a musty older smell ..

Throughout the entire building is this wise. I’m really feeling overwhelmed and stuck on this decision