So i (M/24) used hinge for like the last 2 or 3 weeks. I get matches and also text with almost every girl i match. All good. But when i text with them for like a few days and ask for their phone number or if they want to meet they ghost me. Happend like 4 times already.
Here are two stories:
So im a DJ and i had a gig at a small rave. A few days later a girl matched me and asked if i was the DJ at this rave, so we texted a little and it seemed pretty good. I asked her if she wanted to meet up and she said sure why not. The i asked for her phone number and she ghosted me since then.
And this happend now like 3 times that they ghost me completely random. Even after they gave me their phone number. I met one girl, had a good evening in a cafe with her and the next day i asked if we want to meet up again. She said yes for sure and after that ghosted me again.
Another girl which i really liked gave me her instagram and we texted a little bit for a few days and i had a really good feeling with her. I asked her if we want to meet (this was actually today) and she said: "yeah we could meet but rn i actually in a getting-to-know-you phase with someone else, so it would be kinda weird if i had 2 guys".
I really dont get it. I ask myself all the time if im just boring or something. Am i the problem? Tbh it kinda crashes my self-esteem and makes me a little bit depressed. Last year i had a really bad break up with a girl i thought was gonna be my wife one day (6 year relationship) but this is another story. But yeah i feel like i forgot how to talk to women and i think this just makes it worse, cause women will see if you have a low self esteem. Im kinda desperate rn...i just want someone to love and laugh with. I dont care about money or materialistic things.