u/Glum-Bid4150

Is it possible that I just haven’t found the right person?

First of all, sorry for making another one of these posts, but I just wanted to hear the opinions of people who are more informed on this than I am (which is probably most people here). I thank anyone who would bother to respond to me; your help is appreciated.

Now I will go through each sign that I might be aro first, and then I will explain why this might not be the case.

I have never really had a crush on anyone in my entire life. I do not even remember my heart beating faster for someone.

I just do not understand the concept of romantic love. Friendship makes sense to me, and sexuality makes sense to me, but romance just feels like a color I have never seen before.

I have never even had a celebrity crush. That feels even more alien to me.

Edit: + When I was in middle school, I remember that whenever someone asked me if I had a crush on someone, I would just list girls I found attractive. The list included a quarter of the class lol.

Why I think I might not be aro:

I went to what we call “açık lise” in my country (“open high school?”). You take the exams, but you do not have teachers, classmates, etc. I do not know exactly what it is called in English. I recently finished high school, and I feel like the reason I never had a crush could be because I did not know many people my age for the last four years.

This is a silly reason, but I also do not really know of anyone in my family tree who might be aromantic.

When I see a cute couple, I feel a mixture of finding it cute, feeling a little disgusted, feeling a bit overwhelmed, and, on a few rare occasions, yearning for the closeness. But most of the time, it just feels alien to me. I do not really understand it. I just ask myself, “Why do you do this?”

Edit 2: I would also like to ask which option seems more likely to you?

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u/Glum-Bid4150 — 10 days ago