u/Glum-Return3078

so my fiance 30 M family is beyond wealthy , as for me i am the complete opposite but i also dont need any one to buy me anything or do anything for me , i have my own home and career blah blah blah. But its no where near the success of my fiances family. I grew up poor as heck , never celebrated birthday or holidays ECT. My fiancé’s family makes me feel weird they want to buy me things all the time take me on trips , they REFUSE to let me pay for my way since they literally have a private jet. Now the mom wants to send me to go shopping this weekend for whatever i want , and all though to some woman thats the dream , but for me it just makes me feel like a charity case , it doesnt make me feel comfortable, i know they mean well , but I just feel super insecure about it . my fiance says to just appreciate it and dont start expecting it , which I get. But when he says stuff like that , it just makes me feel defensive and I just want to say I dont want or need anything from you or your family . WHICH IS HORRIBLE ,its why i keep it to myself. I am trying to figure out how I can tell my fiance in a nice way that when his family does all this stuff for me and its not even my birthday or i didnt do anything for them or win or accomplish anything , i feel like they think im poor , even though thats not what his family thinks of me its my own insecurity. I dont know how to tell him with out him dismissing it because to him and his family its nothing. i hope I made some sense .