This has got to be some kind of psyop to get us to care about Harry Potter despite the harm JKR causes to transgender women.

Recently there’s been this trend spreading around the internet where people are making genderbent fanart of Draco Malfoy from the Harry Potter series and calling her “Malfoid”. The unironic use of “foid” was already a red flag. Many of the artists (mostly men, ofc) participating in this are making sexual fanart. Some will draw her with hyperbolic gooner proportions while others (even if they have more realistic proportions) will make the sweater and her miniskirt fold around her boobs and pelvic area to accentuate her physique. Remember, all of the students at Hogwarts are kids, and in the Deathly Hallows Harry and peers are 17-18 years old. This means that these men are slobbering over a character who is a minor.

Why do SO MANY male to female gender-bends turn the characters into porn or hentai categories? Why can’t we have a female genderbend that isn’t cooming bait? There’s a few that aren’t turning Harry x Malfoy into a hentai skit; but it’s still weird to even be participating in a trend that’s calling a female character a “foid”. I’m not posting any drawings because I don’t want to inflict any unnecessary stress on people who didn’t know about this trend before.

There have been a few posts on the “hate this mug” subreddit, but most people are just complaining that they watered down Draco’s racist, elitist, and insufferable personality so that she can be an egotistical tsundere; not realizing that the reason why some people are whitewashing Draco in the first place is exactly because of them chasing a trend to jack off to. When some people point out how goonerish he trend is, some people defend it by saying that it lead to interesting and “genuinely romantic” AUs n’ shit; but, I don’t buy it. The last image is questionable as fuck because while I know that her being incredibly bigoted is a huge part of her/his character; it still feels weird saying that alongside “I think this romantic enemies to lovers trend is cute as fuck!” If someone wants to write a complex, toxic ao3 fanfic about them then go ahead, but the level this trend is being taken is fucking weird.

The people who shipped MLM Drarry did it first. If these guys want good content, then go look at their works.

I was recommended some kind of passport-bros subreddit for men to criticize "modern" dating and complain about women having too high of standards in a partner. And only women are allowed to have standards? Then why am I more likely to see a pretty, fashionable woman with near-perfect skin with a conventionally below-average looking man with aged skin and gut than the reverse? They don't actually understand what a femcel is, ofc. Most men are the ones who torment us by upholding the patriarchy and feeding into it with their misogyny.
Women across the world are raped, abused, and purposefully kept down; but apparently men are the ones who truly need peace because they're tired of some nagging. They're so privileged that it's unreal. Also, weaponizing the statement "believe all women" (meant to garner support for female rape survivors) against women is actually disgusting.

I don't know for sure if the story about Lindsay Clancy fans forcing the holdout juror into hiding is real; but even if it is I wanted to ask what you think about it because I'm aware of the weird climate we're in right now about this entire case.

These are some of the videos that keep getting recommended to me because I like to watch video essays, and I’m tired of getting ragebaited. Took these photos with my phone from my laptop. Every time we make a slight push against gender roles, heteronormativity, or the pressure that stems from patriarchal expectations; everyone starts freaking out.

I especially hate the thumbnail for the first video, it’s giving: “look at these sad, pathetic weirdos kissing their dog like it’s a baby; selfish ppl like them are going to be the reason the world population dies out… :(“ I don’t owe y’all babies, shut the hell up. I come from a decently big family and all of my older cousins have at least two kids and are planning to have more. The majority of the population still has babies, what are we really complaining about besides paranoia? I keep seeing a lot of men on YouTube talk about how depressing they find it that more people from the younger generations are getting married or having kids; and I understand if they’re thinking about people who do want to have a traditional family but can’t due to this kind of economy & administration right now; but I can almost guarantee they’re not considering there are more people who genuinely aren’t interested and are finding fulfillment in other pursuits.

The second video got recommended to me a few days ago and it was originally titled “Being Single Became a Status Symbol... And It's Getting Weird”. I’m not defending anyone who tries to put down other women for having a boyfriend, like that’s her own choice, but c’mon…let’s not pretend that possessing a boyfriend hasn’t been treated like a status symbol for decades now (at least in the west). What’s wrong with decentering men? The judgmental face she made for this video towards these women makes it extra annoying. I don’t even know if the thumbnail is clickbait, but how am I suspected to give it a chance when these YouTubers are already clueing me in on their stance? This thumbnail tells me everything I need to know.

Sorry for the long post, this virgin loser over here just needs to vent.

I’m a straight girl, but I’ve always been into more feminine men since I was 10. I just have. I questioned my sexuality when I was in high school and tried to see if I was maybe bisexual, but it didn’t turn out that way. I just like feminine men for some reason.

I remember when I first started using Twitter for the first time in 2020, and never posted or liked anything but just liked to browse. I was a naive teenager and got excited seeing the whole concept of “femboys” and how it was normal, for men at least, to be attracted to them. I was raised in a conservative family so I didn’t see the problem with observing these reactionary & right wing users’ posts who were fetishizing femininity and only really liked femboys that looked like minors. I’d see a lot of posts and “jokes” from “straight” & bisexual stereotypical men and also femboys about replacing women with femboys because they can be better “gf material” than women because they “care more about looking pretty & feminine”, “take interest in male hobbies”, are more exciting, and can “tend to men’s needs better”. So many people would just not stop talking about how “men don’t need women anymore” and how femboys are so much better than them, so why bother trying to find a woman? It just felt weird how instead of normal appreciation for femboys it became centered on men finding a type of partner they “deserved” but they felt women were refusing to be for them. I remember seeing a “meme” about hoping that femboys become so popular that women will get jealous and start imitating them. So weird and creepy.

There was this one account, a bisexual femboy who became super transphobic & hateful towards women; and he would like sexist posts against women (I.e. making fun of women’s body weight, supporting harassment of women in video games, women suck, etc) and transmisogynistic posts. A lot of these people also seemed to fetishize an incredibly submissive and overly sexualized version of femininity & stereotypically feminine features like wide hips and thicker thighs that feed into the humiliation kink of becoming “more like a woman”.

It all just made me feel so uncomfortable with being a woman because it just made me think, “is that how men really see femininity?” I left Twitter because I realized how brainwashed I was getting from the toxic people and right-wingers. I started looking at subreddits for straight people who are into more role reversed dynamics, but honestly many of the straight feminine guys I see are either MRAs, don’t like feminists, or think that men actually have it harder than women.

I know that not all femboys hate women, but in my experiences with seeing how a lot of them; whether they’re gay, straight, or bisexual; seem to either disregard women’s issues or just look down on us, it just makes me so upset for some reason. I’ve just had a really unpleasant experience with most of online femboy culture. Hell, I don’t even need a guy to present super femininely, I just need some femininity in presentation; but the part that matters most is personality. However, I know that most feminine guys and femboys are gay men. I don’t think I can envision my ideal relationship at this point, and I should’ve came to this realization along time ago I guess. Finding a guy that’s feminine, or like to have the submissive role in bed (instead of it having to be me just cause I’m a woman 😒), wouldn’t see me as less than because I’m not super pretty or feminine, and supports feminism is like looking for a unicorn with wings. I got my fictional femme men, at least.

There are no doubt men out there who partake in feminine interests and present themselves as progressive feminists solely to get with a woman, but will then quickly discard it or not actually follow through on the principles they claim to have; however, sometimes online discussion ends up supporting this idea that feminine men are more manipulative than masculine men or that any feminine man MUST be doing it to attract a woman but doesn’t genuinely like those things. I watched a really good video by a YouTuber called NotEvenEmily that explains how that kind of thinking is harmful, and she even mentions that we all perform to an extent. When I was a tween girl and wore makeup almost every day, I was mainly doing it because I wanted boys to find me pretty and was desperate to be seen as attractive. Many men exaggerate their masculinity and aggressiveness because they think that’s what women will find attractive. The YouTuber, Emily, herself even said that when she was in college she said she felt the need to exaggerate stereotypical butch behavior to get recognized by other women as a lesbian.

In the last two images showing comments under NotEvenEmily’s video, a gay man was just lightly joking about the concept of a man acting stereotypically gay to attract women, because it would seem contradictory to his goal if women assume he’s gay because of the way he acts; but then this reply under that comment, “I hate when guys do that, it’s pathetic” kinda bothered me because while they may just be talking about genuinely manipulative performative men, I kinda of feel like it ignores how many people perform certain actions to be seen as more attractive, and most of the time we don’t get called out for it because they usually fit into gender norms, so we see them as “natural”.

On TikTok it’s even worse, because people will assume that any man who reads in public, likes flowers, drinks a matcha, likes “girly” things like Miffy or Labubus, etcetera must automatically be a manipulator or performative man. I get so nervous about men losing interest in partaking in feminine hobbies because they think it will automatically make them worse than stereotypically masculine men simply because he looks feminine and is “less authentic” or are just looking for clout. I’m a masc woman who enjoys more men taking interests freely in feminine things and respect them considering how femininity is often stereotyped as “pathetic” and “silly” in our society. A misogynist douche who is feminine is just as bad as a masculine douche, it doesn’t matter your interests or gender presentation; that’s what the main argument should be. But instead, many people let the conclusion be that feminine men are more likely to be misogynistic & predatory than masculine men.

And this trend has led to homophobic, sexist, heteronormative men on TikTok partaking in the discussion and unironically mocking fun of feminine men who look “gay”. I just hate the lack of nuance that people have, it just leads to us GNC people being pushed back into the shadows even further.

Images 1-3 are me trying to explain to another woman that femininity doesn’t make men “more predatory” than masculine men.

Most of these comments are under posts I made venting on another femcel subreddit. It’s so annoying, I can’t vent at all without a man coming on and complaining about me “generalizing” them. Many men can say whatever the heck they want, but I can’t even vent on a small women-centered subreddit. Stop entering the subreddit if you have a feeling you’re going to see stuff you don’t like.

Edit: just got another comment on one of my recent posts on r/femcelcirclejerk. “Blud yaps about how men are corny for getting offended and then proceeds to agree with a comment that calls all men idiots 🥀 “ under a post where I was venting about the consistent use of the phrase “fight like girls” to imply that women are inherently weak fighters compared to men. When I gently made a comment under a post on another subreddit to casually suggest that we stop using this phrase, tons of men got upset and came to defend its usage, so I made a vent post about it. I agreed with a comment saying “they’re idiots, I hate that phrase so much” and I replied “I hate it too, that phrase dumb and corny like a moldy corncob 🤢” I don’t even want to give him the satisfaction of responding to correct him but dude, I didn’t even say men were corny for getting offended, I’m calling their “jokes” corny; what are you going on about? How do you completely misread what my comment is saying? I can’t make this shit up 😭

I don’t like the phrase “fight like girls” as an insult because it’s literally associating girlyness and femininity as weak & pathetic. All I suggested was that we just stop using the phrase. It’s crazy how men came rushing in to defend it and call me sensitive over such a simple thing. It actually pisses me off how so many men whine about misandry, yet claim that women like me not wanting femininity to be degraded is asking too much. Then mfs are bringing up “gender wars” and loneliness…what?? I was talking about “leaving women alone” in a sense that I want men to stop shooting strays at us and to stop picking on us, what the Hell is he going on about talking about “loneliness”?!

In image number 5 there is this one comment from a man saying that the world is “fucked beyond repair” just because I ask that we stop using mean phrases that punch down at women…are we serious right now? How dramatic does one have to be to see women not wanting to be seen as a joke and think that society has fallen? It’s “idiotic” and “sad” that I don’t want to be degraded? It’s so hard to resist saying something to a ridiculous comment like that, but I know it’s not worth it to indulge. And then there’s a guy saying that it must suck to be ‘overly offended’…how am I not supposed to be offended when girls are being stereotyped as pathetic in comparison to men? Sometimes I wish I was the “mean misandrist” many men think us women are. I’d like to see how they would handle similar jokes as the one in the OG post made about them just for being men. Why are some men ironically so sensitive about people from marginalized groups getting offended at “jokes” that paint them in an untrue and stereotypical light?

God, so many men are just so whiny and annoying.

There are so many MRA’s and anti-feminists on that subreddit. So, the first three images are a recent post on that subreddit and this one comment basically trying to argue “us men aren’t against women in power, we’re just against women who aren’t qualified for the job” when the OP isn’t even talking about that. Also, what do they mean by “celebrating progressiveness is just as harmful as rejecting it because it recognizes that it isn’t normal”? He didn’t give any examples so I understand what specific kind of “celebrating” he’s talking about; but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to spread good news when progress in society is made for those who have been historically held back from many opportunities.

The next images ares from some guy posting a stupid video of some mom arguing that feminism has come so far that the “pendulum” of sexism has now swung in the other direction towards men (she legit compared sexism to a fuckin’ pendulum). Essentially, this ignorant-ass woman was arguing that men are being “oppressed” because they don’t have safe spaces (she claims that she couldn’t find any clubs or male-only spaces for her young boy to participate in) while women do, and she’s blaming feminism. Hey dumbass, we didn’t do shit; all feminism did was try to improve society for women, and now it highlighted how poorly the patriarchy and men take care of their mental health. “Man up” culture did that, not us. That ain’t our problem or responsibility. I got downvoted for pointing out how misogynistic the video was, but whatever, I expected it. That post ended up being removed by mods anyway.

The last two images are from a guy who is whining about the fact that role reversal is “promoting too much masculine women”. Role reversal includes many types of women, but one of the key aspects is women either presenting, behaving, or doing things that are typically expected of men in our society. You can be feminine in some ways and masculine in others, but you technically need to have some form stereotypical masculinity to be reversing gender roles.

I’m so done with this shit. I don’t really hang out in that subreddit as much as I used to anyways; but it’s just annoying to be naive and think I found a good place to express myself, but it’s full of weird men who aren’t that progressive and open minded.

A lot of mfs who claim to want role reversal don’t actually want it much at all.

I am a fat woman and I made a post on femcelcirclejerk to vent about fatphobia and especially how men see fat women. On that misogyny-ridden sub SipsTea, there were two posts made in the same year about Nelly Furtado. In one post they were lusting over a video her in a concert and making jokes about wanting her to face-sit on them, and one comment even posted a “thickness diagram” of Nelly’s weight gain over the years. Meanwhile, on another post in the sub same (different pictures of Nelly) we’re saying she’s ugly and that she’s not as pretty as she used to be when she was skinny.

I made this post a few days ago, but this comment appeared under my post today. I don’t know why my dumbass responded to it. It made me upset and I wanted to see if I could change the guys mind or make him understand. It turns into this long-ass back and forth. I just can’t believe I wasted about 20-35 minutes of my time debating with a guy about why people deserve basic, surface level respect no matter what they look like and why the men’s behavior in SipsTea is wrong. Am I overreacting? I didn’t even think something like this would be that debatable. This guy is coming into a safe space for women and telling me that I shouldn’t have a problem with what men in SipsTea are saying because it’s a “private” safe space where they can say what they truly feel. At the end he claimed he wasn’t arguing with me and said it’s “just his opinion” yet he pushed back against everything I said…isn’t that arguing?

I just feel so sick and upset right now. I feel like asking for basic respect and privacy as a fat woman makes me look like I’m being “demanding”. I can barely vent without a man coming in and defends weird behavior, completely pushes back against my argument, or misses the point of what I’m communicating. This isn’t the first time something similar to this has happened.

I started doing some basic surface-level research on Ancient Greece because I genuinely think there are parallels between them and how modern society and most men view women despite our more heteronormative & homophobic social system. Many straight men seem to care more about what other men think of them (and how well they perform masculinity) than anything else. Women's value, to them, is to just give them their "virtuous offspring" and nothing else. It's all to inflate their own ego.

I used to frequent Twitter before Musk took over and made it even worse than it was before, and constantly saw men degrading women while praising femboys for being "better suited to provide for men's needs" since they're men themselves and are more likely to have the same politics, values, and hobbies but can still perform the type of femininity many men want (it's very much fetishization of feminine men). They would compare cis and trans women to femboys. I would even see
"jokes" from men about getting rid of women and having the world just be [masculine] men and femboys. A lot of this stuff was being said by right-wing, reactionary, and/or edgy femboys and traditionally masculine guys alike. While a lot of these closeted right-wing bisexual men don't have genuine respect for femmes and will still turn around and mock femboys when they’re feeling less horny over them or call them “weird", their behavior just further shows how they can't see women as equals. Women once again are “the body” while men are “the mind”.

There are many different reasons why fujoshis love yaoi, but one of the saddest reasons I've seen is because some of them like seeing a dynamic where there is no power imbalance due to gender; and the two partners are equals in the relationship. I used to read a few BL or look at MLM art and this was a part of the reason as well. Just to clarify, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with women reading yaoi; the context around why some women read it is just eye-opening. It makes me so depressed that our value as women is just based on how beautiful we are, how "well" we perform femininity through the eyes of men, and making babies. Many of us can’t even imagine ourselves in our ideal, equal relationship. When I start thinking about all of this, I just start to wish that I lived in a different universe/reality where I’m just respected, not seen as some toss-able, tacky sex toy. When we’re seen as the inferior, there is no equal relationship.

When I start contemplating about all of this like I’m doing now I just lose my attraction to men and start to feel upset. I want to feel romantic, but it gets really difficult at times.

I know this is a small thing, but it’s just annoying as Hell that we’re in 2026 and still can’t shake off this weird language. Even if it’s clickbait/ragebait, I’m tired people of using sexism to help get Reddit karma. I see this shit everywhere across the internet: random men (sometimes women too) trying to argue why subtle sexism against women shown in something “isn’t actually sexism”. These better not be the types who claim that we have a “misandry problem” 🫩🙄

I am someone who personally believes that beauty will always be subjective. However, that does not erase the influence of the dominant beauty standard and how most of us treat people who do not come close to it. It’s valid to find these women like this beautiful; but I hate people saying that they’re “objectively beautiful” and that they “just need to realize that they’re pretty” or that they’re “selling themselves short”. Naomi had also posted a video responding to haters about her appearance, saying that she’ll always embrace it no matter how “ugly” others find it, and a bunch of the comments were “you’re beautiful!”; but why can’t we just say “Well, I find you beautiful” or at least acknowledge they’re not conventionally beautiful? I feel like the former statement just erases the victims experience with being bullied for their perceived ugliness. It’s denying the fact that the source of their pain and treatment is that they’re conventionally ugly. The blame is almost always put onto the victim, rarely ever recognizing how these conventionally ugly women are treated by almost the entire fucking world. Obviously these women are going to identify with ugliness if that’s how they’ve been treated by most people their entire lives!! If these women were to have controversial reputation or were not good people; their appearance would be ripped to absolute shreds (probably from a lot of the people calling them beautiful now).

If any of these women were to dare say that they think they’re prettier or just as pretty as a conventionally attractive model, celebrity, etc; they’d be seen as delusional and mocked as well. In fact, I watched a YouTube video addressing how a conventionally unattractive woman on TikTok got cyberbullied because she said she thought she was beautiful and perfect the way she was. I just hate seeing shit like this because despite how much people talk about celebrating diversity, most of them never fucking practice what they preach. People always use phrases like “dating down” or “dating out of one’s league” or like to compare men and especially women’s appearances against each other. We still love to mock other people’s appearances even if we only mildly dislike or don’t really have any feelings towards them. We still look down on people who aren’t attractive-looking, or don’t take them seriously. It’s only when we see the effect of our behavior that we suddenly care. We keep saying this shit about how we have to change our perception of beauty; but never actually make the effort to change. I feel like I’m the only one who is trying sometimes. I can’t feel anything but anger at this point.

I also hate the statement, “she’s not even that ugly”, implying as if “truly ugly” people shouldn’t expect respect or love at all. I’m just an average-looking chubby woman, but this shit boils my blood because we talk all this talk but don’t walk it. I’ve actually tried to walk the walk. But when I do, I realize that if I ever tried to defend certain people’s appearance I’d just be seen as crazy. So, one thing I’ll never deny is that conventional/structural beauty and ugliness exist and we can’t just act like there aren’t people who are structurally ugly and will always have to face shit for it. If even someone like me were to get on the internet and be cocky, saying I think I’m more of a true beauty than some model or the type of person you see on dating shows like Love Island; I’d be “humbled” real quick. I don’t like the word ugly as its raw, original definition (something repulsive or unpleasant to look at) is a pretty cruel word that really shouldn’t be used on people unless we were to change it into a neutral descriptor or altered the definition to simply unattractive. Regardless, I don’t like how anytime anyone tries to reclaim their ugliness or embrace it, people just won’t accept it. I hate how Eurocentrism and manufactured beauty standards make us feel like our natural features are “disgusting”, but with how systemically ugly people are treated, we simply can’t deny ugliness’ existence.

Repost because Reddit wouldn’t let me go into editing mode for the photos to hide the username handles.
I think that both modesty and immodesty can both feed into patriarchal expectations in some way because modest women are seen as "pure, submissive wife material" while immodest women are treated as eye candy for men. No matter what we do, most men are gonna fetishize it somehow. However, when it comes to these discussions around female celebrities whose brand eventually adopts sexiness; I don't know how to feel. I don't think it's right to slut-shame, but at the same time I can't help but notice how it's mainly women who'll become bigger once they're sexy icons while I can't think of many men that are the same. In the past there were “heartthrobs"; but today I can't think of any male singers who express sexuality on a similar level to that of many popular female singers like Sabrina Carpenter.

The first images in this post are particularly strange to me because the first person is pointing out that Sabrina herself said "I look like a niña" and the other person they're arguing with goes "how does she look like a little girl? Why are you infantilizing women?!" Like the lack of awareness of what Sabrina is saying about herself and then accusing someone who's pointing it out as the culprit is absolutely insane. And this is on the mainstream feminism subreddit 😐

I got this video in my recommended about Gen Z “not growing up”, so I skipped through random points of the video; but the guy seems to be just reacting to a bunch of different TikToks. In the thumbnail a woman who’s 22 and collecting eggs (I guess for Easter) is getting compared to a 25 year old woman getting married. However, I just find it annoying that not getting married young is being portrayed as something inherently bad and that not getting married means you’re “childish”. I looked through rest of this one YouTubers videos to check if the thumbnails are just misleading about his actual views on society, but based on some of the other video titles I’m seeing on his channel, he genuinely seems to believe what he’s saying through a vaguely Boomer/GenX esque lens. The thumbnail about people not having kids also irks. They show a comment from a woman on TikTok saying that having a kid is her worst nightmare, and the thumbnail emphasizes the amount of like it got because usually the implicating is that “how did something this insane get that many likes?!”. To me, there’s nothing wrong with saying that having kids would be a nightmare for you if you’re not someone who can personally handle it. What’s so wrong with that?

It’s not just this guy, but so many other commentary YouTubers that make stuff like this. I’ve seen some video titles brining up the declining birth rate and how less people are dating or getting married. One time I watched a video of a guy talking about romance in cartoons and towards the end he suddenly brought up how we need more movies and cartoons with romance because of some statistic that shows less people are getting married nowadays. They make it like it’s the most depressing thing ever. I’m not saying that there isn’t a problem with the dating system, but I don’t like how there’s still this pressure put on everyone (and consequently the most pressure falls onto us women) to get married and have babies.

I’m putting a trigger warning just for people being completely ignorant and gender essentialist in the above images. I find it really annoying how whether a man is gay/straight/bi/pan etc he’s assumed to be “faking” his femininity.

Even when there are men expressing how they just naturally prefer to be more feminine and struggled with being masculine, they’re told they’re that they’re “not trying hard enough”. Dafuq does that even mean?? Dumbass motherfuckers like these who think that all men should “naturally” fall into masculinity don’t have a real fucking argument. As you can see in the images above, the guy doesn’t actually make an argument, he’s literally just saying “there something wrong with you if you’re not masculine or enjoying it” and denies that one can struggle with masculinity (because they’re just “not trying”) because he doesn’t actually understand what it’s like to struggle with being masculine so he claims it doesn’t exist. It literally makes no sense, I can’t believe that this idiot is actually calling anyone who doesn’t enjoy being masculine “delusional” when he has no actual argument as to why a man would be inherently happier conforming to stereotypical masculinity. I hate people who are so confident threat they’re right due to their own ignorance.

And then onto the conversation about the patriarchy, I’m so confused by people who genuinely think that the differences between men & women’s mannerisms & behavior are “biological”. Feminine and masculine describe stereotypical or general trends across men and women; but much of what is feminine or masculine is socially constructed and taught to us since a young age. The patriarchy sets the rules of what’s masculine and feminine not just simply because the men who are in power get to define what is masculine, but those patriarchs also wants to heavily influence how women “should act” to control them. People are diverse, not every man naturally acts the exact same way; yet they still want to believe that feminine men are the only ones performing but don’t consider if they’re performing masculinity.

It really pisses me off when people genuinely believe that feminine men, are “faking it” or that if they’re also gay they’re “making being gay their whole personality” when we literally have movies that deal with the subject of men feeling like they’re “not man enough”. A couple of the men in this comment section are gay men disparaging other gay men who are more effeminate, and it’s so cruel. “What you mean to say is you’re not genuinely trying (to be masculine) and if you don’t enjoy masculinity you’re delusional & spiraling” mf what are you on??

So many people think that men and women “biologically/inherently” have different mannerisms, ways of speaking, and clothing style. It’s so freaking dumb. I don’t even know what the men who claim to truly understand what masculinity “actually is” are talking about, they’re not actually making an argument about why all men should conform to masculinity; they’re just saying “you’re wrong for not wanting to be (stereotypically) masculine”. I hate absolutely dumbass men like this who don’t make an actual argument yet are so confident in their nothingburger.

Two different reactions to a fat woman from the same sub. First is from a year ago and second is a few months ago. I know I shouldn’t expect any better from a disgusting normie subreddit like SipsTea; but it’s massively depressing because of how many people frequent that sub and talk like this. Fat women are only acceptable to them if they’re “fuckable”. “Body positivity is only positive if she makes me horny”. Otherwise us fat women are disgusting lumps of meat to them who shouldn’t be allowed to think better of ourselves. I don’t want to live on a planet with these guys, I wish there was another universe I could leave to. Their minds are fucking porn-rotten to the core. They think they’re entitled to our bodies, constantly judge and critique them. Then later, they whine about being lonely and unappreciated.

Okay I’m going to promise that this will be my last vent post on this subreddit about other subs, but I just can’t take it anymore with how much shit people who go fully masc or fem get. I’m saying this as a masc woman who proudly has a some stereotypically feminine personality traits; the attitude towards hyperfems & hypermascs drives me nuts. It’s completely valid to want someone with a mix of feminine & masculine traits, but saying that women who are mainly masculine and men who are mainly feminine are “defeating the purpose” of RR carries the implication that women and men who look and act like the stereotypical opposite gender aren’t “real women/men”. Also, a man who isn’t masculine or a fighter isn’t “useless”. Femininity is no where near “useless”. It’s also totally okay to not be into mpreg or pegging, but I don’t know what they mean by seeing pregnancy as a “female trait”. Yes, cis men can’t get pregnant, but mpreg is usually just a fantasy most of us into it aren’t expecting to ever happen IRL. There are women who naturally grow beards. Yes, there are natural differences between testosterone and estrogen, and no one should be made to feel bad or that they “don’t fit RR correctly” because of that; but not every man is physically stronger than every woman. One couple where a woman is physically stronger than the man doesn’t erase the general sexual dimorphism among our species. What’s wrong with someone looking like the opposite gender? Why can’t we all exist together with diverse gender expression?