Giving Deposit Back Advice
Hello all and warning, I am on mobile. Apologies for the formatting. Additionally, I couldn't pick multiple flairs as it's a unique blend of friendship, moving, and a little bit of finance.
Okay! I am hoping to gain insight on how to approach my soon to be ex-roommate/strained relationship of a best friend about damages in the apartment and deposit. I will be anonymous and vague on certain details as they are on reddit. Now back story:
I have not lived in the apartment for about 8-9 months out of the 12 months due to safety concerns to myself from the living situation. With this, there is damage in their sleeping space which costs about 70.00 for a quick repaint (pretty sure the manager told me there are two spots). Furthermore, their TV and mount is mounted on the living room wall. When discussing to lease renewal manager, as they went through the apartment for damages, I asked the cost for that damage for the TV mount. The manager told me it would be 170 without needing drywall fix up. I have asked the manager to send me a document stating the costs of the current damage, bring up the costs for the wall mount fixing; that way I can show to my current roommate. Added note, I have asked my roommate to fix the wall before knowing the information for cost wise.
Something to consider:
I will be renewing the lease, but with another suited individual.
Questions:
How do I approach this conversation about the damage cost? This is how far I've gotten as I start to feel stuck when trying to approach them either taking less of their deposit or getting it fixed:
"Hey, I wanted to inform you the report about the damage. Here's a copy of it. Additionally, I asked about the wall mount and the cost of fixing that. They expressed it would be 170 without drywall, this information is also attached to the provided screenshot."
Secondly, would I be in the wrong to have a firm boundary for lesser deposit repayment if the damage is not been fixed before they leave?
Overall, my human emotion behind is that it feels unfair that when it is my time of departure, any damage that was not done by me will be affecting the deposit getting back. I would prefer to fix everything now and get a clean slate then I know I can take accountability for the damages that I have done. Although, that is human emotion and I don't want to be slighted due to that; in which I want to ensure I am realistic. Advice would be lovely.