I’ve been seriously considering a career change (medicine) that would be somewhat disruptive to our current way of life.
She is concerned about the overall stress this would cause and while note hinder our ability to start a family, it would make it a more stressful endeavor dealing with the time and effort that we would put into this career change.
My partner of 3 years issued me an ultimatum. I can continue this career change (alone, she states she would be supportive but not as my partner), or consider other possibilities that would be less stressful.
When presented this ultimatum, my immediate thought was not to say, “okay, I won’t do this, I would rather have our relationship”.
In addition to the various other things at play here, I am worried that my reluctance to immediately give up this idea of this career change when presented this ultimatum, is a bad sign of my commitment?
I also don’t know how such an ultimatum may have an effect on our long term outlook.