Explicit pictures on of ex on fiancé’s phone
My fiancé and I have been together for about two years. Previously, he was in a number of long-term relationships. He’s still very close friends with a woman that he was with for three years. It’s been a weird dynamic for me, as I don’t know her that well. There are opportunities for me to meet her, and I think his hope is that we’ll be friends. After what’s happened so far, I’ve declined.
The dynamic is messy. It was a polyamorous relationship, so none of his friends know her, and they don’t really have a public relationship. He’s been defensive of her a couple of times, after I named my discomfort with some behaviors (ie. talking about intimacy between us, contacted while on our vacations, seeking advice about our conflicts, etc.)
As much of our lives passed already (late 30s), we were looking through our old photos, explaining our histories, where pictures were taken, etc. Around the time that he was dating her, all of a sudden there started to be a TON of explicit photos, porn, etc. exchanged between the two of them. These photos were still all over his phone.
I was very startled, as this diverged so sharply from the dynamic between us and other relationships he’s had. What’s harder, he continues to explain that she’s just a friend. None of the other exes are still around. It’s just her she’s the only one who’s still around. They go to each other for a lot of advice for all things. I can’t tell if I’m overreacting to be concerned about this or if this is a pretty standard response. I’m upset that he had not shared more about the nature of the relationship, and I’m also really concerned that she’s the one still around.
TL;DR Nude pictures of an ex on phone.