WIBTA for not attending boyfriend’s brother’s wedding?
My boyfriend’s younger is getting married in a few months. My bf and I have been together 3 years and he is recently getting divorced. Now I’ve met the ex wife twice and both times she either 1) cried to my ex and his mom about not being part of the family or 2) started fights with my ex which eventually almost led to full out physical fights between my bf’s family and her family and bf. Anyway she’s horrible and she treats everyone horribly, especially my bf. He raised her kids and she uses them against him to benefit her. After the most recent blow up caused by the lovely ex wife, my bf told me she would not be invited to the wedding and he told talked to his brother about it. Wow finally relief from drama! So I thought… this weekend I found out that she will indeed be at the wedding because his younger brother doesn’t see an issue and that he doesn’t want to cause an issue with the kids (AKA ADULTS AGES 22 & 23).
At this point I’m so over the drama that his family continues to promote. These are only 2 instances of when I actually met her and saw it in real life. There’s many many many more awful things she has done and I’m over the nonstop drama. Is this not totally disrespectful to my boyfriend and I? WIBTA for not going to the wedding?