Splitting on pets?
I (f) 23, am a cat rescuer. Lately, after I took some vacations, a cat I’ve had for 2 years that I rescued, that I literally begged to keep because he was so loving, has stopped sleeping in my bed.
It’s irrational.
But how do you deal with a split when it’s not a human?
I love my pet. And I’d never hurt him. But I feel so much rage seeing him prefer another family member who won’t even feed him. To the point, I feel like just sending him on transport and giving him away.
I don’t want to hate my own pet. But I feel so rejected. But he’s not a human. I can’t voice how I feel. I should know better; I’ve been rescuing cats and finding them homes for many years now. But with this one cat, he used to be so attached to me.
Doesn’t help that my whole family mocks me because he no longer loves me like he used to.
I’ve read all the articles online that say it’s normal. But it’s been months, and I’ve seen him sleep next to my dad, who doesn’t care about him at all, and completely ignore me despite me being the one who took care of him and continues to do so.
How do you guys handle BPD spilts concerning your Pets? Am I going crazy?
It just hurts when there are so many cats I rescue, so many lives I help. But the one I kept for myself, to give me love after seeing so many horrible things happening to cats every day, doesn’t even want to be by my side at night.
What would you do? Does this happen to you guys?