u/GraMarPhoDj

I've been reflecting on something my girlfriend told me—she said I lack empathy, and I think she's right.

I love her and want the best for her, but when she's upset or crying, I don't really feel emotional myself. My first instinct is to solve the problem or ask what she needs rather than emotionally relate to what she's feeling.

I've also noticed this about myself in general. I don't get offended easily, insults don't really affect me, and I've always preferred being alone doing my own thing. It's not that I don't care about people, I do but I don't seem to experience emotions the way most people describe them.

So can someone genuinely love others without naturally feeling empathy? Is empathy something you're born with, something you learn, or both? Have you ever met someone like this or experienced it yourself?

I'd like to understand different perspectives.

I've been thinking about Zimbabwe's education system, especially the difference between many government schools and private/college schools.

One thing I've noticed is that some private schools seem to focus heavily on getting students to pass exams. Their results are incredible—12+ As at O Level or 45+ points at A Level are becoming more common. But it also makes me wonder whether students are being taught to truly understand and think critically, or mainly how to pass exams.

I've met people with outstanding results who seem to struggle applying what they learned in real life or end up in careers completely unrelated to what they studied. It feels like the goal becomes "pass the exam" rather than "learn and develop."

Do you think Zimbabwe's education system is becoming too exam-oriented? Has ZIMSEC become too predictable, or are schools simply getting better at preparing students?

Would introducing more case-study and application-based questions help test real understanding instead of memorization?

I'm interested in hearing different opinions, especially from teachers, students, and parents.

There's a particular song that always makes me imagine the same girl, even though I've never seen her in real life. Every single time I listen to it, her face, hairstyle, clothing, and overall appearance stay exactly the same. It's like my brain has created a person who doesn't exist.

I'm wondering if there are artists who are really good at drawing people purely from someone's imagination.

Has anyone done something like this before, is it spiritual or is it the devil...

I'm a final year student looking to get into digital marketing as a side path alongside IT. I'm considering joining MAZ as a student member mainly for networking and exposure to other marketers and businesses in Harare.

Has anyone here actually been a member? Did it lead to real connections, job leads, or events worth attending? Or is it mostly just a paper membership that doesn't really do much unless you know people already?

Trying to figure out if it's worth it.