r/ZimbabweRelationships

So recently I saw my girlfriend we went out and all and she got hold of my phone and tbh i dont mind it and she can look through it but when we had a conversation before about kubatirana maphone i made it clear and i told her everywhere else you can look but machats angu nema friends angu and my sisters usaende hako. Because we talk about a lot of stuff and issues and zvimwe zvacho I'd not want you looking through but yako phone handina basa nayo and you'll never see me looking through it. So during the date she was at my WhatsApp looking through and all and aida kupinda mu group rana boiz and ndakamurambidza. And yesterday we had an argument about it and i stood by what i said originally and it didn't sit right with her

Am I wrong for feeling like conversations with my friends and sisters are a no go area!? If so how does those conversations affect our relationship!?

Hey guys I wanna know from those that have been single for long say a year,then finally got into a relationship how did you navigate it guys.Like don't you Guys feel like ukunetswa or something, or when they call don't you feel pissed? How did you guys adjust

So I (23m) been dating this girl (26F) for only 2 months, but I’ve known her for 6 months. We haven’t been intimate as we’re both wanting to take things slow. Well Last night, we were on the phone just casually talking, and she asked me what my body count was randomly. It’s 7 which isn’t the best but it isn’t that much. Hers was 66..SIXTY SIX! When she told me I was speechless and instantly felt disgusted. She noticed I was shocked and told me she’s 26 and I should have expected it but damn. I’ve been thinking and I’m kind of put off, I know I shouldn’t judge but I can’t stop thinking about this. Am I overreacting?

I've been reflecting on something my girlfriend told me—she said I lack empathy, and I think she's right.

I love her and want the best for her, but when she's upset or crying, I don't really feel emotional myself. My first instinct is to solve the problem or ask what she needs rather than emotionally relate to what she's feeling.

I've also noticed this about myself in general. I don't get offended easily, insults don't really affect me, and I've always preferred being alone doing my own thing. It's not that I don't care about people, I do but I don't seem to experience emotions the way most people describe them.

So can someone genuinely love others without naturally feeling empathy? Is empathy something you're born with, something you learn, or both? Have you ever met someone like this or experienced it yourself?

I'd like to understand different perspectives.

I am European and I’m seeing a Zimbabwean guy and he’s so secretive like always gives me very little details about what he’s doing and then just disappears for hours. Do we think he is cheating or something else? I am an open book, so I am not used to someone not giving me every boring detail about something they are doing. He seems to really care about me, I’m not being naive or anything but I’m like is he living a double life???? The funny thing is that will get paranoid that I am up to something if I take more than 5 minutes to respond, and I have been loyal from the beginning and have never given him reason to think otherwise? Is he projecting 😂 what do you we think? Tell me more about zim guys because this is my first one lol

There is a meme i saw a while back that said, "If you meet a man who is above 30, no kids and never been married, you will soon find out why you found him single😄"

This is obviously stereotypical, stupid even, a dangerous perspective to hold. Times have changed, people marry late for different reasons, some even decide not to and that's okay. So basically the idea that people who are over 30 andno kids, never been married are red flags is RIDICULOUS, right?

I'm F33. Fall in the same category, and i gotta say my dating experiences in the last 3 years or so proved this ridiculous meme to carry some truth🤣. I don't totaly believe it because that would mean i am a redflag too🤣, and i am a pretty decent human who was unlucky once. But i am just wondering what y'alls experiences have been in this regard?

I'm just curious about how common relationships are between younger gents and older ladies. I, for one, have always been curious(wanted) to date an older lady for certain reasons. So I wanna know if it even happens here in Zimbabwe. Does anyone know of this happening ?

i’m 26/F
A while ago, I made a post here asking for advice about relocating. One of the biggest reasons it’s been such a difficult decision is that it means leaving my boyfriend behind 32/M
This might sound irrational, but I have this persistent fear that if I leave, I’ll never find someone else. That fear has been so strong that I haven’t even told him yet that I’ve written my English exams, started my applications, and I’m studying for my board exam. (I’m a dentist, by the way.)
Part of me knows this move could be a great opportunity for my future, but another part of me is terrified that I’ll regret it because I let go of someone who truly loves me, only to end up alone.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Is it normal to feel this way? If you’ve had to choose between a relationship and a major opportunity, how did you make peace with your decision?

As the title suggests....do they exclusively date within their ethnicity/race or they're open to dating black women. If so, I would like to take a chance

I (F20) had been talking to a guy (M26) for about two weeks. Things moved quickly and we agreed to be exclusive while getting to know each other, but we weren’t officially together.
He cancelled our first date because of work. We rescheduled, but the second time he cancelled about two hours before we were supposed to meet, again because of work. I was disappointed and became dry. I had also jokingly said earlier that I’d block him if he cancelled again.
He noticed I was upset and explained that work was out of his control. After I continued being dry, he said “aight bet,” I left him on read and later posted myself on Snapchat. He viewed it, then removed and unfollowed me everywhere.
He’d previously told me that if he feels someone is playing in his face, he cuts them off. It’s been four days with no contact. Did I overreact, did he overreact, or were we both just being immature? And would reaching out to clear the air make it seem like I want him back?

I am just wondering how you deal with disagreements in your marriages. My issue is, I’m (34,M) married to my wife (30,F) for four years. I acknowledge that I’m far from perfect and in every disagreement, I always leave a gap for corrections even though it may seem like I am obviously correct a few times. The problem is umfazi wami appears to have primed herself to believe that I’m always wrong, belittles my opinions and to her I’m a cartoon villain. To some extent it seems like she totally despises me and has never stated why. When we talk about an issue and appear to have solved it, it always comes back days, months and even years later in the most disrespectful and unprovoked manner to the extent that it feels she has a deep seated resentment against me and the problem is, I do not know what i did to her.
My main question is, how best do you negotiate with someone who knows everything and is always correct? Second is, is it just me or these issues are there in marriage?

I’m bored and thought it’d be fun to meet some new people, so I made an Instagram group chat.
If you’re down to chat, make friends, share memes, have good conversation or just hang out, leave a comment or send me a DM and I’ll send you the invite link.
As long as you’re chill and respectful, you’re welcome to join.
F25 ↖(^ω^)↗

EDIT: here’s the link for the GC feel free to join https://ig.me/j/AbbIgsKWR6c0RD1g/ DM me if it’s not working and I’ll add you manually :)

M25. 2 talking stages already this year and they were short lived. Both women are single, have been for a while. i keep getting the same vibes both of them really said the same thing “i don’t have the energy for it…” umwe kinda sounded the same hanzi “i don’t have the capacity to explore this…”😂. which left me wondering kuti ndini hereee?? or something is happening to women?

PS. both of them have been single for 2+ years

Some of you need to be serious when you pick life partners because you can't be talking about l already found my soul mate and you've only known each other for 4 months.

Kutengerwa zvima KFC makutopenga musoro.

Miswai 😭🙌

Man lie all the time, we love lying, we need rehab just to stop lying. But a man's lie is a simple lie like I was at Peter's house which is a small lie. Man lie the most woman tell the biggest lie , a woman's lie is like " it's your baby " . So again who lies the most

26M – Question for the ladies.
For the past four years, I dated men, but I’ve recently ended that chapter of my life. I genuinely want to settle down, get married, and start a family. I’ve completely walked away from that lifestyle, cut ties with the friends I made during that time, and I’m focused on building a different future.
My question is: would you be comfortable marrying a man with a past like mine, assuming he has been honest about it and has truly moved on?
For context, I was always the masculine partner in those relationships, not the other way around.
I’m looking for honest opinions, not judgment. I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts.

Hie Guys so here's my problem lol. I'm a 30 year old man turning 31 later this year. I wanted to ask if all of the single men in here have had the problem of meeting girls who are a bit younger than them with a big age gap of like 5-10 years or so? Because everytime i go to an event, be it at the club, a friends wedding or even corporate event kana ku church ka If I see a pretty girl and talk to her and get her number Boom! Surprise Surprise! I ask her how old she is and its either I was born 2001,02,03,04 hell I recently met a chick born in 05' boyz😅 2005😂 This girl is literally younger than a Playstation 2 😂 guyz nooo. People say most men like younger women its true but what I'm meeting is a bit too much I mean I can't even talk to them about my favorite shows, songs or interests from the past or share fond memories of watching Sunset Beach on Joy TV and Studio 263 on ZBC😂 I mean its not really a big deal but damn. I'm wondering where are all the girls born in the 90s at ??? I mean ma 96,97,98,99 or 2000 max. Its like they all just stopped existing and completely disappeared. I was so happy one time I met a girl and she said she was 30 (born in 96) and I jumped for joy only for her to tell me she a single mom though (nothing wrong with single mothers with all due respect 🙏🏾 but they are just not for me,lol) and I met a 99 and she told me she was coming out of a messy divorce and she seemed so emotionally drained and I was like Hayi Bana😂 I even tried looking for some girls I grew up with but yohh most of their socials have pictures last posted in 2017 and are inactive socially😂 where are all the corporate, ambitious 90s babes at ????? I can't be dating a chick born in 2005 yall nahhh😂😂😂

So the idea is this is a judgement free zone, people can confess anything love, sex and relations related. I will go first

I am retired married bachelor who sometimes misses his old ways but realizes it's far less work just focusing on my wife. She is my best friend and my peace so all I am missing out on is trouble! But damn I miss new action, the first kiss, the first slide in, the look on her face, meeting her sexual personality vs her real world personality

Hello everyone! My girlfriend and I are looking to connect with other open-minded, laid-back couples who love exploring the world and trying new things. We hope to find like-minded people to expand our social circle, both inside and outside the box.

We believe life is too short not to explore every facet of it, and we want to find people who share that same zest for life!

If you're a fun, secure couple who loves to play as hard as you travel, drop a message.