r/ZimbabweRelationships

How do you guys find each other in Bulawayo. I recently moved to Byo and joined Tinder with the hope that I can meet people. I gotta say, its very dry out here. Very few profiles. Are most of yall not tindering? if not, then where are you at?

Hey y'all it's your "ok" grapefruit back at it again.

This man (25M) decided to go all out and arrange a whole cosplay for the anime convention thing, to the point he forgot he needed a plus one to go with him so he doesn't just awkwardly NPC-smile at people the whole day.

So if you're a waman tryna do something this Sunday just hit me up. And no, you don't need a cosplay of your own because you'll already be the accessory to mine wrapped around my arm, inserts raising eyebrow GIF

Of course I'll cover everything (chivalry isn't dead).And if you really, really want something to compliment what I'm wearing, my mom has LOADS of kimonos we could steal and there are twigs outside we could turn into chopsticks to stick into your hair lmfao. You'd probably look better than me ngl lol.

so feel free to comment, DM, make a smoke signal, send a pigeon, idk lol I'll be checking

also one of my favorite songs is, Pyramid - Frank Ocean. just thought I'd mention that :)

First-date question when dating in the diaspora should be: “What’s your status? Do you have papers?” 😂

“Equally yoked” now apparently includes immigration status because people are no longer always genuine about relationships. Some enter relationships with hidden intentions of securing papers.

And honestly, this isn’t just within the Zim community—it seems to happen across different African communities too.

Unenge uchitoti wawana soulmate apa munhu akateya hake kusadzingwa na Trump 😂😭

Are you guys seeing this too?

I think people should be more self aware

Hello how are you, I'm a lady with four kids in Zim. , 39 years..I'm on separation with the father of my kids working on our divorce. I am looking for a Male friend from 44 to 55 years old. Probably in my same situation, divorced, single but not married. I miss being cared for, I miss those where are you questions which shows someone misses you it's been 3 years and hey I feel it's time to do my next move. I want someone lovely, kind, genuine, generous, respectful and trustworthy. I want a loving friend and genuine . someone who is willing to travel to know each other better. I have an educational background ( professional) though I'm home these days and I have a small side hustle.

29M. Looking for someone 28 and below. FYI, I look way younger than my age

I'm a bit socially awkward and introverted at first, but once I get comfortable around someone, I become pretty talkative.

I work from home and spend most of my time building online businesses and projects. I've tried almost every legal online hustle you can think of chances are I've either done it before or I'm doing it right now.

My goal is to be a digital nomad, travel the world, experience other cultures and enjoy life.

When not working, you'll find me watching cartoons or binge watching TV shows. I'm not much of a movie person. I love good cartoons.

I like playing simulation games like euro truck 2 and ATS.

I'm naturally entrepreneurial, enjoy learning new things, and love having conversations with people who are passionate about what they do.

I'd like to start as friends, get to know each other, and see if there's a genuine connection.

Hi fellow Zimbo husbands and fathers. I am hoping to get viewpoints from Zim men whether local or abroad.

I have a potential opportunity to relocate to the Middle East, and I wanted to get men's opinions on relocating with family or leaving my family.

I want to get the pros and cons, both financially and psychologically, and perceived impacts to your family. If you have lived this, please feel free to pitch in as well.

I want to know which option you would take as a man and father and why.

Assumptions to keep in mind

1. The current job pays good money

2. You and your wife are happily married with 2 kids (2 and 1)

3. If you left the country alone, you would be coming back annually but monthly you remit USD $1k home to keep family living standards, You save $1k towards your joint family goals, you can also save your own cash nest egg abroad.

4. The role is at a prestigious international company, so the CV will look good and there's a lot of exposure

I would love to hear from you

I’m listening to the radio and this guy says he did “zvenjuzu” whatever that means😂 and when he stopped but she keeps dreaming of this man and they not having sex but they get along in the dream like they real inlove but he don’t want to see her anymore

But my thing is 😂 1. If they in a healthy relationship what’s the issue. Yes yes it’s an entity but it’s just a small hiccup

2. Has anyone ever experienced this and what you do to make it stop
3. Do you believe in it? Do you believe a spirit is in a forced mjolo situation with you

Because these things are used as excuses to say oh I haven’t got married because I got a demon thing inlove with me and it’s telling people I like to stay away 🤣
I don’t know it just feels kinda idk

Asked my friend how I can know if I’m in a relationship that’s going nowhere. She told me that asking that question is a core indicator and now I’m not okay 😭😭

Is it true that there will always be the one you never get over? No matter how much time goes by or how many times you try to move on?

Most guys who always talk about virginity, don't have much dating experience, this just my observation , cause if they did they would understand that women are more than just a piece of pussy. Most of the relationship trauma doesn't actually come from sex unless she was graped, but it's from lying, manipulate deception, most women are selective about who they decide to sleep with, and they enjoy sex too.

When I was in form 4 at around 16 years old I was doing it with this lady she was about 25 years. So we attended extra lessons together she was in poly and I was in high-school. She was the one who actually came forward and we ended up in a relationship for about a year. I told my everyone like my friends and even my brother he was like fist bump dude lol he was happy and wanted to know how i was doing it. I later dated a lot of older woman but I ended up with a woman a few years younger than me. So was this rape ? Or rape only applies when guys do this to woman

First post guys I'm bored <3

I'm sure not many are familiar with this term but whoever knows knows

I'll just say

If you are a sigma male, getting into a relationship might not be the wisest thing for you.

Sigma male is not intergrated into society but getting a woman, a woman will be your entry and pull back into society.

The society you avoided or did well without🤣

Just know and finesse <3

Second women love sigma men it's very funny but it also isn't wise to d8 a sigma male you haven't dated a sigma male before because they are so rare. But of course you love his mystique uniqueness and allure?? If there is even allure?? Idk what allure is, sorry idk what you girls feel sometimes lol

Anyway it might be a mistake for you because a sigma male is not integrated into society so you probably have societal type expectations that you expect your sigma male to live up to, but he's not from society. And you were probably trained by society and exes in terms of relationship expectations but... Your sigma male.. is nothing like that

So that will be a rollerocaster for you 🤣🤣😬 enjoyyy so I wouldn't recommend, not for the faint hearted or regular hearted, but anyway girls love rollercoasters do they?

Hahaha

Anyway if anyone asks what a sigma is in some arrogant way and speaks like 'oh what's a sigma' and the fact that I'm not speaking in regular language, that they are superior and can take some sort of a stance ahahha enjoy your upvotes I'm not answering, whoever gets it gets it, (and if you don't get it and want to take part in the discussion don't worry AI is your friend :)

Much love guys,

First post <3

My second post will be better :) I trust it will be more open for more but whoever gets it gets it enjoy ❤️🤍

This is a question to the guys who got cheated on and forgave their women. How did you find out, how did you work past it and did the relationship survive, or did you get cheated on again. I was in that situation I couldnt forgive but even now i have feelings for this girl so i wonder how others handled it. Disclaimer i cheated first a few years back and i am a bit of a flirt.

EDIT: I was a bad kid growing up and my mom against the wishes of my dad kept giving me chances until i am proud to say i am now a good-ish person. So i wonder in relationships how much grace can we give.

I honestly wouldn’t be posting this if it wasn’t eating at me.Warning, this may be a tad bit long.

I’ve been dating this girl and, honestly, I have very little to complain about when it comes to the actual relationship. She makes me feel loved and cared for, pays attention to the little things, gives me gifts, etc. She’s not perfect, but she’s good to me.

The issue is where we’re going in life.

I’m very education/career focused. I grew up with the belief that education and building a career were important foundations for your future. I know the world has changed and a degree isn’t the only path to success, but I still value ambition, having goals, and actively working towards something.

She passed O Levels but struggled with A Levels and never went to university. That by itself isn't really the problem. My concern is that she doesn't seem particularly interested in further education or have any clear alternative plan either. She’s in her early 20s, so I understand that she may still be figuring things out. Her parents are also willing to support her if she decides to pursue further education or another path. She was actually supposed to start university outside Zimbabwe, but that fell through for reasons that weren't really her fault.

What bothers me is the lack of direction and follow through. She’ll talk about doing certain things, but then nothing really happens or her expressions are as if she's being forced. She does make some money with a "dropshipping" like business here so there's that, but i feel like its not guaranteed and reliable but it seems thats what she's into, the quick deals and "hustles".

So now I’m starting to wonder if i can really see myself building a future with someone whose approach to their future is so different from mine?

I don't expect her to have her entire life figured out at this age, nor do I think university automatically makes someone successful. But I do want a partner who shares my mindset of wanting to grow, build something and have some direction.

So, would it be unreasonable to end a genuinely good relationship because you realise your long term values and ambitions might not align?

I’m not asking whether she’s “good enough.” She is. I’m asking whether being good to each other is enough when you’re worried you may want fundamentally different things out of life.

Hi guys

So l suffer from anxious attachment and its driving me crazy

I had a talking stage a while back and l became emotional attached like crazy and because l have anxious attachment l wanted constant reassurance from him , l wanted his attention at all times and l am aware that is very annoying to the guy but l cant help it

I am too afraid of being left by the one l love

Guys l was constantly telling him to update me on everything he does and give a reason for not texting me 😭😭

Right now l am trying my best to heal from anxious attachment and be a better person and all l can say is its really hard but l am getting there

How does a younger guy (22) entertain an older women 25 years plus
Not for serious relationship.

Ladies anything younger guys do that annoys you or icks.
Don’t say money and assets please🤣

Hi, need your opinions and experiences, have you ever taken back a partner after cheating? How did you have that conversation, how did you navigate post cheating. Were things ever the same, how long did it take to fully trust them again.

Edit: i let her go💔, this time final, cried, got drunk, rolled a blunt, I'll be okay

Young man, that “guy you don’t need to worry about” is exactly who you should worry about.

The “bestie.” The “childhood friend.” The guy who “has always had a crush on me.” The classic “we work together.”

I’m not saying every woman is cheating with her male friends. But if she is unusually close to one particular guy, hiding messages, turning her phone away, getting random calls at odd hours or acting defensive whenever you ask about him, stop ignoring the obvious.

A lot of the time, one of three things is happening: they’ve already smashed, they want to smash or they’re keeping the door open to smash later.

And here’s the important part: don’t become the idiot boyfriend who tells her to unfollow or block him. You shouldn’t have to police your girlfriend’s friendships or beg her to remove another man from her life.

No arguments. No investigation. No ultimatum. No “choose me or him.”

Just leave.

Trust your instincts. You’re not insecure. You’re protecting your peace.