I’ve always thought marriage was overrated and have been perfectly happy being single, but I’m reconsidering because, ladies, when you hit your 30s, ovulation hits different. 😂 I feel like a beast, and I think the only way to solve this is to get married. 🤔 Although, honestly, I can’t be bothered dealing with someone else’s BS. 😂
Am I the only one ?
I’m obsessed with fragrance, and lately I’ve found myself wandering into the men’s side of perfumery too 😭
Now I’m thinking maybe one day I could buy someone’s son an Amouage Purpose 50, a Clive Christian, or maybe go crazy with a Boadicea for Valentine’s Day… or maybe Christmas. You never know 😂
Not actively searching btw, hence why I didn’t post this in an F4M sub 😂. It’s just one of those random little things I’d genuinely love to do for someone one day if they do come along, or maybe it’s just one of those “Sundays are for lovers” thoughts while home alone 🤣
Question though… how seriously do you guys take how you smell? Because I genuinely think smelling good is a form of politeness and consideration for the people around you.
I went on a date recently and the guy smelled sweaty, despite it being cold and raining, and I was immediately put off 😭. I don’t necessarily mean everyone needs an expensive fragrance — just being clean and smelling good is something i think is important. What are your thoughts
Long shot, but I’m highkey bored 😂 My close friends don’t live in Zim, so I’m planning on going to Tiger’s Milk tonight. I went solo last time and actually had a good time, but thought I’d put it out there in case anyone else is looking for something to do.
Would be nice to grab a couple of beers or whiskey, chat, and meet some new people. I’m a beer drinker and cigarette smoker, so I’m probably best suited to other fun, chilled, progressive people.
Just looking for platonic company and new friends. If you’re around Harare and feel like joining, let me know!
A couple of months ago I was ghosted by a talking stage.The conversations were flowing, I was laughing my guts out ,I would be comfortable to even do video calls with him wearing my ugly jammies you name it all.Then I accidentally let it slip that I still had my v card,after that late responses and gray ticks .I just cut my losses and went on my merry way .But damn ,the switch up was wild to me.I really enjoyed conversing with the guy really.He was in his Early 30s and im in my late 20s ,I do believe in no sex before marriage but ive never shoved my way of thinking down other people's throats. I dont even disclose that info to people because apparently having your vcard when you are in your mid to late 20s is frowned upon by both genders .So can someone please help me understand.......
Who’s keen for a weekend at Makumbiri? 🎣🏕️
Spent the weekend at Makumbiri with a few friends and it was a pretty good time. The tents were already pitched when we got there, with mattresses provided. It’s $22 per person and we camped right by the dam.
The dam is clean and has plenty of fish. Fishing is $5 per person, and you can actually keep and eat what you catch.
There’s quite a bit happening around the place — a small boat cruise, horse riding, game walks, quad bikes, fishing and a few other activities.
It struck me as a particularly good setup for a group get-together because everyone can do their own thing. Some people can fish, others can take a boat out or ride the quads, while everyone eventually ends up back at the campsite.
We had a good weekend. I’d definitely do it again.
Boyfriend day was yesterday I haven't seen any post about any guy receiving anything. For girlfriend day they were few things that were posted as well.
So men do we accept bare minimum or African ladies just dont care much about giving to the men. Cause sometimes you get a present for someone not expecting anything in return and she gets socks.
Ahhhh are women not financially to provide proper present or they just want to receive and not give. Some give the cat as present kkkkk . Ahhhh come on . Do men care of the presents or if she buys you it seems weird.
Bet some have never received any financial help or just babe let me have this bill. Does not getting your guy a present mean you don't like him cause if tables are turned it seems so.
Men most grow up without much attention from parents or society so if you have a good one please make him few special and bet he will triple it.
Guys do you like presents. Women can you get your men presents. Your views guys. Cause seems present always go one sided. Whats your thoughts. At the end of the day people will be complaining on bare minimum when they do that as well. Your views
I genuinely want to understand this because I’ve noticed it happening quite a few times.
I was walking with my 16-year-old cousin recently, and she’s very small and looks closer to 12. An older man who looked around 40 approached her and asked what school she went to. She told him she was 14, and he still continued being persistent.
This isn’t the first time I’ve seen older men approach girls who are clearly very young. I honestly don’t understand what the thought process is, especially when they find out the girl is underage and still continue pursuing her.
Idk, men, can you actually come forward and explain this? 😭 Is this something that’s culturally normalized in Zimbabwe, or is there another reason this seems to happen so often?
Saw an interesting post here about the pandemic of uni girls and old men therefore l would love to know some crazy stories about blessers and uni students, are these crazy stories true. As someone who hasn’t experienced the college atmosphere l genuinely would love to know of old guys with younger girls .l have even heard there’s a touch line for them at a certain university.
I won’t lie for a brief period l thought this happened at clubs but was taken aback by the university structure it caught me completely off guard.honestly whether it’s at school or the club you saw something strange on a day you went out l would love to know your takes.
It's the irony of being me. If I care/love I have for a girl the more anxiety I get about it ending or coming down to a crash. I never really show it to her but I do get that relationship anxiety that one day the relationship will lose its spark and I will get hurt beyond redemption. I begin imagining scenarios of abandonment even without tangeable evidence. Being more conscious to the time she takes to reply and how she replies. Overthinking kinda gets out of control.
So the closer I get to a woman the more terrifying it gets. It's so fucking ironic right but I guess maybe there's a part of me that genuinely believes I don't deserve happiness. I have this new girl who told me she loved me. But it feels like I am just counting down the days till she will just move on and look for someone else. The ironic flip side, I am more secure and confident with woman I really don't have an emotional attachment to.
It's a crazy paradoz kani. Those who have dealt with relationship anxiety please help a brother out. Is it normal? I really don't wanna resort to self sabotaging again.
I said what I said. What do you mean that she baby trapped you and you are not a part of that child's life means that you are child free?
What the f*ck do you mean you do not know the cost of your kids weekly needs or the name of their freaking teacher??
Am I supposed to be impressed? If you can't care for your own BLOOD ko ini susan???
Being childfree doesn't mean I'll sit down and applaud for a man who takes no responsibility for his actions. Hanzi she trapped me. Well why are you shagging with or without precautions hoe a$$ dude??? Having sex with anyone means that you are prepared for the potential consequences of your actions.
But y'all don't think that far do you? You just like that ice age squirrel chasing a nut f****ck everything and everyone but that nut. The little head running the show.
The bar is in the 9th circle of hell and some Zimbabwean men are tripping on that MF.
Anyway I hope I make money this week like how some of y'all make your kids. Quick and unplanned.
I’m 37, single, and life has dealt me a few blows along the way. I’ve reached a point where I don’t see myself walking down the marriage path again — but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy good company, laughter and a genuinely good conversation.
I’m looking to meet a man between 44–49, preferably someone who is genuinely single, widowed or divorced. Someone fun, kind, emotionally mature and comfortable with keeping things simple.
I enjoy books, fitness and those random conversations that somehow turn into talking for hours.
I’m not looking for nudes, a situationship or pressure to meet. We can simply chat, check in on each other during the day, share a laugh and see where the conversation goes. And if it never goes beyond Reddit or online friendship, that's perfectly okay with me.
I’m open to meeting someone anywhere in the world.
If you're between 44 and 49 and this sounds like something you'd enjoy too, feel free to say hello
HSV1/2/HIV/HPV havers how did your diagnosis change your dating life in zim? Especially with all the stigma & judgement? I see many people on Reddit saying they’ve gone on to live normal lives bla bla but I want to know stats in zim!
Gentlemen, let’s talk about something that causes a lot of unnecessary resentment in relationships: physical intimacy and how a woman's body actually works.
When a partner says "not tonight," men often take it as rejection or assume she isn't attracted anymore. In reality, biological and psychological factors are usually at play.
Here are a few quick truths every man (and woman) should know:
* It’s rarely personal: A woman’s libido naturally fluctuates with her menstrual cycle. High stress, mental exhaustion, and hormonal shifts can freeze her sex drive, even if she loves you deeply.
* Foreplay starts during the day: Real intimacy doesn't start in the bedroom at night. A flirtatious message at 10 AM, helping out around the house, or showing affection without expecting sex builds the emotional safety that fuels physical desire later.
* Family planning plays tricks: Hormonal birth control (pills, injections, implants) can severely lower sex drive. The wild part? Many women don't even realize their contraceptive is the cause.
* Encourage a medical checkup: If her libido crashed suddenly or intimacy is uncomfortable, lovingly suggest seeing a gynaecologist to check hormone levels or adjust family planning. Frame it as supporting her health, not fixing a flaw.
A quick call to both sides:
* Men: Take time to learn about female cycles and hormones. It saves you from taking things personally and makes you a better partner.
* Ladies: Guide us! Be open about your cycle, stress, or birth control side effects. Men can't read minds.
TL;DR: Her turning down sex isn't usually about you. Stress, natural hormonal cycles, and birth control side effects play a huge role (and she might not even realize it). Real foreplay starts with flirtatious texts and emotional connection during the day. Men: learn about female biology. Ladies: teach us what’s happening with your body!
(Written by me and another redditor.) Used AI for grammar.