My friends head is in the sand about the reality of being a care giver
I cared for my mom with Alzheimer’s and know all the dark realities. My friend told me several weeks ago that her mom was just diagnosed. Her mom made the doctor and neurologist appointments on her own, and filled her daughter (my friend) in on the fact that she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. I’m horrified that my friend is so clueless. First up, she declared she will never let her mom enter a care home of any kind, she will move her mom in with her (where she has 2 young children) when the time comes. She hasn’t talked with her mom’s doctors, doesn’t like going to doctors herself, has always dismissed her own mental and physical health issues, and is just trusting what her mom says! And mom is still helping to babysit the grandkids, unsupervised! Who knows what stage of Alzheimer’s her mom is actually in? I know the community here is aware of how much goes into caring for a LO with this disease. Has anyone else felt like me… outrageously triggered by a friend’s approach to this? I know I’m still healing from my experience with my mom, so maybe this is all over baked and I should just trust my friend will work it all out. It’s just a lot coming up for me, my friend can be very ridged and doesn’t like advice… cherry on top.